I was perusing the internet over last year, over Easter weekend, and I came across a blog I used to follow quite regularly. It says things like "practical tips for productive living," and then it goes on to list things that would be good to think about during the daily grind. It's written by an annoyingly cute couple who obviously sit around thinking philosophically on the regular. I must say, I'm a tad jealous because, frankly, I don't have the energy.
Anyway, if you're interested in the site itself, I will give you the link, but I don't want to make it seem as though I am "sponsoring" it or anything here, because, well, that's illegal.
Soo, as I was browsing around the archives, I found some cool, thought-provoking questions that left me lost inside my own head for a good 2 hours or so. There were 50 of them and I am not going to list them all here, but I am going to post some of the more provocative ones. Obviously, you don't need to write volumes on each question--but expound on a few of the ones that really resonate with you and allow your mind to roam at will. Take your time and have some fun on the mental playground that these questions construct sort of naturally.
From time to time, I may pop in with my own answers to some of these--feel free to engage in conversation with me, or any of your classmates during the course of this week's blog!
1. How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are? (I love this one!)
2. Which is worse, failing or never trying?
3. If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do?
5. What is the one thing you’d most like to change about the world?
6. If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich?
8. If the average human life span was 40 years, how would you live your life differently?
9. To what degree have you actually controlled the course your life has taken?
10. Are you more worried about doing things right, or doing the right things?
12. If you could offer a newborn child only one piece of advice, what would it be?
13. Would you break the law to save a loved one?
17. What one thing have you not done that you really want to do? What’s holding you back?
18. Are you holding onto something you need to let go of?
23. Have you been the kind of friend you want as a friend?
26. Would you rather lose all of your old memories, or never be able to make new ones?
34. Have you ever been with someone, said nothing, and walked away feeling like you just had the best conversation ever?
36. Is it possible to know, without a doubt, what is good and what is evil?
41. If you knew that everyone you know was going to die tomorrow, who would you visit today?
46. What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?
1. “How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are? (I love this one!)” Well, I would have to be either really young or really old, because if I were middle aged, I would know how old I am. Infants are in the process of developing their brains, and memory, so they often times are unaware of their age. Therefore, if I were were an infant, I would not know how old I am. The same goes for old people, only the opposite: old people have old brains that forget things, like how old they are. An old man may think he is twenty, but would not know his exact age at all; thus, if I were old, like 62, I would not know how old I am. Indeed, I also love this question.
ReplyDelete2. “Which is worse, failing or never trying?” My second favorite philosopher, George Carlin, once pondered, “If you try to fail, and succeed, which have you done?” This is how I live my life, as it is the only key to true success. Attempting to fail may be difficult sometimes, though: no matter how hard I do not study, sometimes I still end up with that A, and sometimes it is really lonely at the top. (At six foot three, the only people I can look in the eyes are tall undesirables I would not want to look at anyway.) Anyway, failing is much worse than not trying, in most cases. My sixth favorite philosopher, Yoda, once spoke, “Do or do not; there is no ‘try’,” and when people fail, they neither did, nor did not, so they failed their jedi master. This is because when one fails, one can fail big, like when one falls down and gets on TV: their embarrassment can be watched over and over again on the YouTube, while someone who simply does not even try to light his or her fart on fire or lick a cactus has nothing to worry about. If someone succeeds, however, in the aforementioned endeavors, their success is watched once—or, if it is really epic, three times—until the viewer gets bored and goes on to another video. Success is overrated and failure is easily preventable while not trying can be both fun and easy—sit on the couch and watch television.
3. “If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do?” I have decided to answer this question seriously. “We” do not do things we enjoy, instead choosing to do things “we” do not like, not because life is short, but because that is life. My favorite philosopher, Friedrich Nietzsche (whom I quote way too often, but who has so many awesome quotes that I cannot help myself) defines life: “To live is to suffer, to survive is to find some meaning in the suffering.” The reason people do things that they do not enjoy doing is not because life is short, but precisely because they are living, and suffering. The reason that they like so many things they do not do is because they are not surviving: they have not found their meaning of life, in happiness, and have, therefore, not become an Übermensch, the status that every person should strive for, called “self-transcendence” by Abraham Maslow: the status in which a person finds his or her meaning in life and actually achieves a perfection greater than himself or herself, despite how short life actually is. Most people simply go to work, get paid, and do not have time for all of this philosophical stuff.
5. “What is the one thing you’d most like to change about the world?” If I were God, or some other deity with the power to influence the world in any way I desired, I would remove aspiration from the human spirit. This would solve just about every problem humans have ever caused: no more wealth inequality (people do not aspire to have money), no more environmental destruction (people do not see themselves as above nature), no more prejudice (people do not see themselves as better than other people), no more war (people do not aspire power), almost no more crime (people do not aspire to overpower others and do not aspire to own more property—the exception to this would be people with mental disorders who hurt others not out of a form aspiration), no more stupidity (stupidity is relative, and no one would aspire to be intelligent, thus intelligence would be mostly constant), and, later, there would be no more humanity (as reproduction would cease with the aspiration to have children—with the exception of drunks who make babies without knowing it). The Earth would keep on spinning as it cleanses itself of the muck that humanity had imbued it with.
Delete6. “If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich?” Oh no! My blog response is looking like it is going to be very long. I will type less from now on. I would not want to be rich, but if I wanted to have a lot of this “national currency”, I would rescue a squirrel from a tree or something. The squirrel would pay me in happiness provided he does not have rabies.
8. “If the average human life span was 40 years, how would you live your life differently?” I have taken surveys online (while bored in AP Statistics) that look at how healthy, physically and mentally, one is so that it could determine life expectancy. I always got a score of high forties to low fifties, thus I am not going to live long because I am stubborn and do not eat fruits, vegetables, dairy, or much meat; plus, my mental health is shit. Thus, lowering the average life expectancy by forty years would lower my life expectancy of fifty by a lot, probably all the way down to at least twenty, so I do not have much time left. I will lay in my bed and await whatever is coming to me. Pray for me.
9. “To what degree have you actually controlled the course your life has taken?” I have controlled about 47.892% (rounded to 5 sig figs) of the course my life has taken. Much of the remaining 52.108% goes towards the location at which I was born, the books I happen to read by chance, the articles on the Internet I have come across by pure luck, etc. Moreover, 7.3490% of the downfall of my mental health was Ms. Michener’s and Mrs. Richardson’s doing and I had no say in the intelligence, or lack thereof, my family would have. This is optimistic, though, because even though the graph of the course of my life, and quality of life, looks like an upside down parabola, accelerating as I approach my second decade, it is not all my fault.
10. “Are you more worried about doing things right, or doing the right things?” I am more concerned about doing things right because if I do something right, it becomes the right thing naturally, while if I think about what the right thing to do is before I actually do it, the right time may pass me by.
12. “If you could offer a newborn child only one piece of advice, what would it be?” To quote Bryan Marengo, in his response for #1: “Infants are in the process of developing their brains, and memory, so they often times are unaware of their age. Therefore, if I were were an infant, I would not know how old I am.” Infants are also in the process of developing their understanding of speech, so what I say to them does not matter. Therefore, I would tell the newborn child what I tell my baby cousins: “Hahaha! You’re ugly and you smell funny and if I say this in a baby voice, you will giggle and agree!”
Delete13. “Would you break the law to save a loved one?” I would break the law just for the sake of breaking the law. Laws are for dummies that need to be told what the right thing to do is. Therefore, if I loved someone, I would break the law for him or her, and I would break it excessively just for the sake of doing it. I like living on the edge and taking risks.
17. “What one thing have you not done that you really want to do? What’s holding you back?” To be honest, I have always wanted to drop out of school. Noam Chomsky: “Education is a system of imposed ignorance.” What holds me back is the thought of living with my parents forever.
18. “Are you holding onto something you need to let go of?” Nope.
23. “Have you been the kind of friend you want as a friend?” I do not have friends and do not want any, so yes. (Sorry, Bunje, my answers are getting shorter: I am approaching page 4 of this doc, single spaced, and my classmates yell at me when I write too much.)
26. “Would you rather lose all of your old memories, or never be able to make new ones?” I would rather lose all my old memories because most of them are not good. Hopefully I can make new ones in the couple of years I have left; plus, if I lost all my old memories, I would have to relearn everything, from people’s names, to algebra, and that would be a husk.
34. “Have you ever been with someone, said nothing, and walked away feeling like you just had the best conversation ever?” I actually have! Sometimes, me and this Asian girl walk to class together and, even though there are times we do not open our mouths, we feel the understanding afterwards that accompanies a deep intellectual conversation. Also, her hands are small and mine get sweaty.
36. “Is it possible to know, without a doubt, what is good and what is evil?” No, because the concepts of good and evil are human creations and, therefore, not constant throughout the universe, especially when considering something not created by humans.
41. “If you knew that everyone you know was going to die tomorrow, who would you visit today?” See #34; I would visit my pet goat (it’s a pun on her last name, not a crazy sex reference).
46. “What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?” I am going to lie in my response to this question because if I told the truth, I would be judged. If nobody would judge me, I would answer this question honestly.
I've got to say this questions really are thought provoking and intense because I am laying in my bed reading each one about three times to understand and think of my opinion.
ReplyDelete1. "How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?"
To not know your age you have to be young enough to not comprehend age and growing, around age two you start to understand and talk so it would have to be two and older you start to grasp the concept of birthdays and aging. Two years old is the average or later end of when kids start to talk and put words together so when they start to learn communication I feel like that is when they start to get asked their age which then leads them to have to remember it in order to answer everyone's annoying questions.
2. "Which is worse, failing or never trying?"
I know that failing hurts badly, it hurts you sometimes physically but largely emotionally. However, not even trying would have to be worse. If you failed you at least tried and put effort to succeed, where as never trying you did not even make a small attempt. If you never try then you have regret and so many "what if…" questions that it will hurt you emotionally more to not know if you could have succeed.
5. "What is the one thing you’d most like to change about the world?"
Thankfully one of the bigger changes in Oakcrest is the spreading of love and that is one change I would love love love to make in the world. I absolutely hate when people and my friends are upset because of something someone said or did to them and all I literally want to do is hurt that person for making my friends upset and I can't. Words do hurt and words do break your bones. You will usually only remember the compliments for so long but the hurtful things people say to you you will remember for a lifetime. One thing I would change about the world is make it a safer and nicer place to live in where people are not scared of other people.
6. "If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich?"
DeleteTo be happy which would then lead me to being rich I would have to do everything I love which includes the beach, warm weather and making other people happy. The first type of work would have to be hopefully my summer job this year, beach life guarding. I'm terrified that someone is going to drown but I absolutely cannot wait to be at the beach every day in the sun with the sound of the ocean right in front of me. Traveling would also make me so freaking rich because going absolutely anywhere makes me smile ear to ear. Abby and I went to Smithville for a solid 20 minutes and then left and it was so dumb and we both wasted $20 on food we should not have bought but just going out and visiting somewhere new made the entire trip worth while. Another job that would make me rich would have to be the missionary traveling trips where groups go to countries less fortunate and help and build and interact with those living there. This again would involve traveling:)))))! as well as meeting new people and helping them and watching them smile:)))))!!!!
34. "Have you ever been with someone, said nothing, and walked away feeling like you just had the best conversation ever?"
Sadly I do not have the Bryan and Janet connection and just the opposite happened to me a few months ago. I was chilling but I am very shy and quiet at first and I went to the movies with some kid and I guess he was shy too because we did not talk. No lie. No words. So as you can probably tell that ended real quick that day but I'm gucci. But to say the least I did not walk away with a feeling of amazing conversation rather I walked away feeling stupid and weirded out.
41. "If you knew that everyone you know was going to die tomorrow, who would you visit today?"
I would need to have a big party at Oakcrest including people who did not go as well because I would need to see everyone before they died. The entire party would probably consist of me crying to no end which would not in any way be a fun end to our lives but I am so emotionally it would have to happen no other way. I would have everyone that goes to Oakcrest attend because although I roll my eyes in the hallway at the nutty and slow walking kids I cannot image high school with any other school.
1. How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are? (I love this one!)
ReplyDeleteI like to think that I’m a grandma in spirit, so I would probably be around 60, which seems like an appropriate age for a cute, young grandma. I like to knit and crochet, which is typical granny activities. For nutrition, I enjoy eating a lot of smooth and blended food such as yogurt, chia seed pudding, oatmeal, congee, smoothies, pureed vegetable soups, and etc. In the winter, I typically dress in knit cardigans and sweaters, which I like to call my grandma aesthetic, and some days, when I’m swamped in bundles of yarn, I really do resemble one. Also, I move at a really slow pace. I like to take my time doing whatever I’m doing, and it seems like everybody is always rushing me.
2. Which is worse, failing or never trying?
Never trying is worse because the outcome is unknown. When you fail, even if you hardly put in any effort, at least you have an experience that you can use as a base for judging whether you could have actually succeeded or not. With not trying, you have nothing. There is no experience to base your judgement upon, and therefore you are stuck thinking about the “what if?” The “what if?” will always come back and haunt you, especially if you really wanted to succeed but was afraid of failing.
6. If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich?
I would be a billionaire if I could work as a professional food critic. I love eating food, and going around to restaurants who will serve me their best dishes would be the most satisfying job ever. Another type of job would be a dermatologist who specializes in black head removal. Call me weird, but I think removing blackheads is also one of the most satisfying thing ever. It’s really fun to see all the gunk ooze out from the skin, and the the transformation from bumpy skin to smooth skin is amazing. Whenever I do it on myself, I just feel so clean afterwards. Blackhead removal is also critical to preventing acne, and acne sucks. I feel so happy for people who finally get clear skin after a bad case of acne because they become more confident and happier, and I like seeing people happy.
18. Are you holding onto something you need to let go of?
No, I let go of things pretty often. If we fight one day, I’ll probably be over it by the next day or so. I don’t really like conflict, and I try to be understanding of others, so I let go of things. If it is a past regret, I also let go of it to focus on what I’m currently doing and my future. There is no point in fussing over the past because it’s set in stone. It’s better to focus my energy on what I can affect and change, which is the future.
34. Have you ever been with someone, said nothing, and walked away feeling like you just had the best conversation ever?
Sometimes, me and this white boy walk to class together. Our heads are about three miles away from each other, so talking is really difficult. Instead, we hold hands, which is also pretty difficult itself, and feel happy together.
41. If you knew that everyone you know was going to die tomorrow, who would you visit today?
I would visit all of my friends, the few cousins who I’m very close with, my parents, my one aunt who I consider as my second mom, and my mango (also a pun on his last name).
1. If I was not aware of my age, guessing on how I act and portray myself, I would guess my age to be what it is presently, sixteen, or possibly older. Also, I usually do not act any younger than I am, therefore guessing my age to be more or less of sixteen would be my best bet. However, I do not look that old, so considering appearances, I would guess my age to be that of a twelve-year-old (without factoring in my height).
ReplyDelete2. If you have an option to do something, even if you have a feeling that you will fail or come up short, just try. You will never know what you will or could be successful at if you never try. Not trying and not knowing what could have been is worse than actually trying and then happen to fail at it. When you at least try, and fail trying, then you know that whatever you did is not for you.
3. Even though life is short, life comes with a lot of responsibilities, some responsibilities that we may not enjoy, but have to do anyway. Also, responsibilities take time, which causes you to sacrifice doing things that you do enjoy. However, once done the things that we do not like, then you can focus on the things that you do like, in order to have a good time and live the short life we all inhabit.
6. If happiness was the national currency, I would do a lot of different jobs because there are a lot of little things that make me happy. The plus side of doing a lot of different jobs is that I can do whatever job that makes me happy for that time span, then if I get tired of that job, then I move on to a different one, and so on, therefore I will never be bored.
8. If the average lifespan was only 40 years, I would definitely make everyday count more than I do now. But for the most part, everything will still be pretty much the same, except everything I do would be shorter. For example, I would not continue my education after four years of college, and after college I would not work as much in my career, so I still have time to experience things the world offers.
13. If a loved one of mine was in a life-endangering position, then I would break the law to protect or help them. I do not want someone close to me be in danger or in trouble, therefore I would do anything in my power to help them, even if that includes breaking the law. However, I would not break the law for a childish or ill-advised mistake made by a loved one because that was their decision to make and I do not want to risk myself for a poor choice.
23. Everyone needs at least one true, good friend in this life because they are that one person who will stand by you through anything. I am fortunate to say that I have a few really great friends that have been my friends for a really long time now. And I hope that I have been half of the friend that they all have been to me. But for the most part, how I am with my friends is how they have been with me, therefore I believe I have been the kind of friend I want as a friend, since me and my friends act so similarly.
5. What is the one thing you’d most like to change about the world?
ReplyDeleteI’d change that the world revolves around money. People think that money will make them happier and in some ways they are right, but they shouldn’t be. We say the best things in life are free-but they aren’t. Happiness-not free. Knowledge-not free. Love-not free. I don’t mean free like without any work at all, but completely free of monetary things, because nothing is completely free. Free cost somebody-in some way.
I’ve seen money ruin people. I’ve seen people think that they needed money to be happy, but maybe I was the only one who saw that they weren’t really happy. They didn’t know it.
The best things in life should be free. Knowledge should be free, but the majority must work so hard to pay for that hefty bill at college. A high school education means nothing- not saying having an education and having knowledge are the same, but you know? Love should be free, but it has become a competition-who’s mans will buy the best? It just sucks ass you have to buy something to get things that should be completely free. Of course, you cannot actually have the best things in life without legitimately feeling it and finding it. But, most people don’t understand that. I’m sorry that you have revolved your life around running after money.
6. If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich?
Travel and knowledge and helping. I want to understand and I want to see and I want to meet and help. There are so many lives with so many stories-outside experiences that a book or a teacher could never teach me. I want to understand lives I’ve never lived and I yearn to help them.
18. Are you holding onto something you need to let go of?
Probably fear, I need to let go of fear. I need to stop letting fear control my life. I need to stop forcing me to not do things I love because I fear all good things do not last forever and will disappoint and leave.
36. Is it possible to know, without a doubt, what is good and what is evil?
No- those are just adjectives. Just opinion words. Just perception. Good things aren’t good to everyone. Free cost someone. There is doubt. There are things you would never know for sure.
9. To what degree have you actually controlled the course your life has taken?
Honestly, to a very small degree. I wake up to go to school because I have to. I go to school because I have to. I do my work because I have to. I have to go because it is a law and I have to do well because it makes my life easier. If I do well in school, Momma Q is not as much on back. She can’t tell me I’m stupid, she can’t yell at me if I’m doing homework. I do it to save my ass. I definitely think that I have made the most of what I can and I think that I have grown to love this place and that is my control.
I stress about college because I have to. I do not want to go and I wouldn’t go if I had another option-if I had enough money on my own. Fu money for ruining my plans.
ReplyDelete1. This to a toughy: How old would I be if I didn’t know how old I was. I guess I would say somewhere in my twenties. I like to think I have that “free-spirit-vibe” typical twenty-year olds have, just goin’ with the flow and whatnot. I like to travel and try new things and not have a care in the world because “I’m an adult and I can do whatever I want”. But I can also be serious when it comes to certain things. I remember one time I took this buzzfeed quiz where they evaluate my maturity level. Apparently I’m just as mature as a 25-26 year old. And if buzzfeed says so, then I guess it’s meant to be.
2. No doubt, never trying is far worse than failure. You’re stuck with the guilt. At least with failing, you can improve on it and work harder next time. By never trying, you put yourself in this uncomfortable situation. You see the outcome of it, and you’re just like, “Oh man, that could’ve been me.” And you get disappointed in yourself. Not trying sets you up for failure. What’s done, is done. But if you try and fail, then you can take that and use it to push yourself harder next time. And by doing so, the outcome will be so much more rewarding.
3. We are messed up human beings, that’s what it is. We like pain and tragedy and horror. We like the broken and torn things because it gives us hope, hope that one day it could be whole again. But it could just also be part of our routine. We do it every single day, that even though we hate it, we’ve grown accustomed to it. And once we grow accustomed to it, we can’t change (does that make sense? I hope so). We hate change. So we admire the things we “like”. It gives us the benefit of not changing while liking
17. The one thing I always wanted to do was go ziplining. I think it’d be really fun. It’s like flying but not flying, if ya know what I mean. But everytime I try to go do it, the weather is wacky. Or the place that has the ziplining is closed. Or I have no money. I don’t know, maybe it’s not meant to be. Or maybe it’s not my time yet. One day, though, I’ll get my chance. I just know it.
41. If I knew everyone was going to die the next day, I would visit everyone and anyone. My friends, my parents, my brother, my coach-- pretty much the entire atlantic county. These people have made such an impact on my life, if we were all going to die the next day, I’d want to thank them before we go. I’d want them to know how much they mean to me and how much I love them to pieces. I think that’d be a great “last memory” to have: seeing all my favorite people and making them smile one last time.
12. The one advice I would give to a newborn baby is to follow your heart. Don’t let other people doubt your judgements. You are your own person. Be happy with yourself, do what you love doing, and never look back. You may live a very long life, or you may die the next day, nothing is ever certain. But what is certain though is that you can make every moment in your life count. You must. It’s better to live a life full of passion and fun versus a life that is forced.
2. Even though failure is hard thing to handle I definitely think that not trying is worse than failing. Believe it or not failing actually helps you learn from your mistake so that you can become better and wiser. Failures are here to teach you what's wrong and show you how what you did before led you to failure in the first place. But not trying at all is just setting you up for a failure. Quitters never win and winners never quit. That's how success is made and failure comes less to those who try and put their all in to things. I would much rather fail knowing that I tried, then to fail knowing that I didn't try at all.
ReplyDelete8. If the average life span was 40 years old I would definitely act a different way than I do now. I know that's bad and I should be living like every day is my last but I just don't find myself doing that. If I really knew I would only live to 40 I would probably not care about things as much and just try to live my life to the fullest. Also I would make sure I would spend as much time with my family and friends and the ones I love. I would make sure I accomplish all the things on my bucket list so that I would have a fulfilled life! And mostly I would thank god for letting me see 40 beautiful years.
13. As soon as I read this question I instantly knew the answer. Of course I would break the law to save a loved one. The people I love I would do anything necessary to make sure they are okay no matter what the price is. I wouldn't even think twice about breaking the law if I knew my family was in danger. Nothing or no one comes before my family and I love them with my life. I know if my family was in trouble they wouldn't want me breaking the law to save them because they care about my wellbeing but honestly in that moment I wouldn't care about my wellbeing, only theirs.
I’m just going to answer all of these because I don’t want to do my calculus homework and this is a good excuse to put it off until later
ReplyDelete1. How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?
If I didn't know how old I was I would probably think I was at least 65. I have about every single health issue in the books so I must lowkey be old af. I have broken lots of bones, had lots of doctors visits, and lots of medications. I even have to use those pill containers that say the day on them just to keep track of what I am taking because there's just so much. Soon enough i'll have to walk with a cane or something.
2. Which is worse, failing or never trying?
If I fail at something I try really hard on I get mad and really upset. So if I never try there was probably a slim chance of me achieving my goal anyway so to save time, tears, and money. Sometimes it is better to just not try if I know I probably will fail.
3. If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do?
Life is the longest thing you will ever experience. To do the things we like we have to first do they things we don't like to be able to have the opportunity to things we do like. No one like working out but everyone likes looking good at the beach. No one like working but everyone likes spending money. No one likes to go to school but everyone wants to be a doctor. If we don't first do all the hard work we can never have the opportunity to do the things we want to do.
5. What is the one thing you’d most like to change about the world?
I would like to change the amount of calories and fat in pizza. All I want to do everyday is eat pizza but I can’t because then I would turn into more of a sausage link than I already am and I can’t have that happen.
6. If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich?
Puppies and pizza make me super happy. If I could play with puppies and try different pizzas all day I would be the happiest girl in the world. I mean how could you be sad with pizza and puppies all day? I would be so rich that I would be able to buy even more and more puppies and pizza and I would love it.
8. If the average human lifespan was 40 years, how would you live your life differently?
If I were to die at 40 I would have already dropped out of school and traveled the world. I would be in so much debt and I would probably be in a pizza coma with 783 dogs but ya know, it happens. If I only have 40 year I might as well spend it extremely obese and covered in dog hair.
9. To what degree have you actually controlled the course your life has taken?
I just kind of do what I’m told. My whole life is usually just me at school because it's illegal if I don’t go. Technically now I can drop out but i’d rather not. I don’t really control my life because I don’t make money, all I do is go to school so technically my parents control my life because without them I wouldn’t be anywhere. They have controlled my life to get me to my current situation. They cool af for that.
10. Are you more worried about doing things right, or doing the right things?
I would rather do the right thing because doing the wrong thing makes me feel really bad and it stresses me out. If I do the right thing then I usually just do them right anyway.
12. If you could offer a newborn child only one piece of advice, what would it be?
I would tell the newborn to make sure they drink lots of milk so they can grow tall and strong, unlike me who can only deadlift the bar and is 4’6”. I definitely could have benefitted from that advice so I hope this newborn will too.
13. Would you break the law to save a loved one?
If my mom told me to rob the bank because if I didn’t her legs would fall off, I totally would. I would do anything to help out my fam no matter what it is.
18. Are you holding onto something you need to let go of?
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23. Have you been the kind of friend you want as a friend?
I think I am a great friend and I always go out of my way for others. I would 100% be my own friend because I think I’m a pretty cool gal even though I am probably annoying at least 110% of them time, I’m always there in times of need and there to help whenever you are down.
26. Would you rather lose all of your old memories, or never be able to make new ones?
I would rather lose all of my old memories because then I would just be able to make new ones and I wouldn't know that I lost all of my previous memories because I wouldn’t recall them anyways. I could make some new really awesome memories doing some super cool things. Also, I have some pretty bad memories so it would be cool if I just lost them all and I could recreate new memories that are 4278238x better.
34. Have you ever been with someone, said nothing, and walked away feeling like you just had the best conversation ever?
Sometimes my mom and I will be in the store and someone will pass by in a ridiculous outfit and my mom will just look at me and I know what she's trying to say but we don’t say anything. That's always fun because we like to go to walmart and it tends to happen a lot.
36. Is it possible to know, without a doubt, what is good and what is evil?
No, you never know how good a pizza is going to be until you try it. (I’ve never had bad pizza but you get the point) You have to experience something to be able to test if it's good or evil. Some people interpret good and evil differently too so someone's scale will be different from others so it would be very hard to see what is good and evil.
41. If you knew that everyone you know was going to die tomorrow, who would you visit today?
My mom, dad, grandma, and dog. I love all of my family very much but those people have a super special place in my heart and I love them very very much. I would love to spend my last hours with them because I love them and they love me so it would just be a whole lotta love and it would be a great way to spend my last hours.
46. What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?
I would probably walk around naked all the time, I don’t do that now because it's just a little bit illegal in this country but if it changed and no one was going to stare at me and be like “tf” then I would totally use my birthday suit as the daily OOTD.
Which is worse, failing or never trying?
ReplyDeleteNever trying is by far the worst out of the two. I would have more respect for myself if I tried and failed because at least I made an attempt. Not trying something leaves so many doors open because you could have a talent that you might never even discover if you don’t try. Trying helps boost your confidence in some cases. If the outcome turns out more positive than you thought it would be going into it, than naturally you feel like more capable of things you didn’t think you were capable of before. “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take” If you never try, you’ll always fail. Even if you do fail, knowing that you tried can help failure seem less negative.
If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do?
In all honesty, we don’t have time to do anything that we would love doing. Life is so by the book and routine. We do the same things at the same exact time at least 5 times a day. Along with sports or other after school activities, work, and homework, there isn’t much time that we can make for ourselves. In order to be successful we have to go to school and college to make sure we have the best future possible. Many of us would choose not to go to school if it was an option but it’s not because none of us want to end up broke without a job or the inability to support ourselves and our families in the future.
To what degree have you actually controlled the course your life has taken?
I have been able to choose my classes in school that will benefit me the most for my plans to become a nurse one day. These classes will give me knowledge about my major in particular and even better communication skills. I have been able to choose my own career choice instead of my parents already having one selected for me.
If you could offer a newborn child only one piece of advice, what would it be?
Be more afraid to fit than to stand out and be yourself
Have you ever been with someone, said nothing, and walked away feeling like you just had the best conversation ever?
Whether or not I’m having a bad day one thing always cheers me up. Seeing my best friend Carly in the hallway always reminds me that someone cares about me and that no matter what she’s always going to be there for me. Most of the time we’re rushing to class so we can’t say much but seeing her gives me a sense of comfort that everything will be fine and if it’s not she’ll be there.
Is it possible to know, without a doubt, what is good and what is evil?
I don’t think it’s possible because, generally, everyone has the same opinion of what is good and what is bad, but they go about decisions making decisions in different ways and look at things from different outlooks.
1.If I didn’t know how old I was, I think I would be well into adulthood. Maybe into my thirties. I think I’m wise beyond what is ordinarily expected of sixteen-seventeen year olds. I was watching a TedTalk on a seventeen year old girl who addressed the audience as such; a seventeen year old girl who wanted respect from adults just as she respected them. People don’t want to hear my ideas and thoughts as a teenager. The word itself comes with certain connotations that give a negative feel to anything a teenager has to say. That being said, I feel as though I know just as much as some adults, therefore I am one.
ReplyDelete2.Never trying is tremendously worse than failing. Many a time have I regretted an opportunity that I did not take and then realized after that I could have not only achieved, but exceeded my goal and then some. Not trying ensures that you never make the shot, while trying and failing shows you how you can improve.
6.My dream job is to be an FBI agent. Although this is a fairly reachable job, it’s something that I’ve always wanted to be. From the time I was eight until now, the idea of protecting other people has been appealing to me. I don’t think I know exactly why, but it could be because I watched Law and Order: Special Victims Unit. An FBI agent is one of the most high ranking government officials that there is. Wanting to have authority over people while at the same time wanting to help people is a big part of my happiness.
17. I’ve always wanted to play professional field hockey, but in order to do that, I need money. And I’m poor. So no field hockey for me. I will be playing though. Watch me. I’ve also always had the same dream as everybody else, and I’ve had it since I was eight; I want to be a famous singer. As impractical as it is and as often as everyone forgets I can sing, not a day goes by where I don’t think, “Wow. This wouldn’t happen if I was famous.” What’s holding me back is a severe lack of courage and a mother who refuses to share her youngest daughter. I like to pretend I don’t get stage fright, but I nearly shit myself every time I walk across a stage. My hands shake so I always have to use a mic stand, and if I move, I’ll probably fall off of the stage. Lastly, my mother. She does not want things for me, nor does she care what I want.
26. I’d rather lose all my memories and be able to make new ones. If I turn 26, but I can only remember my life from sixteen and before, then I’d be forced to only know things from my childhood rather than learn from the things of my adulthood. It’d be more productive if I could have all of my memories from future events, rather than have them from before and not have them be useful to me at all.
41. If all my loved ones were going to die tomorrow, I’d do my best to go see everyone I could. It’s terrible that we don’t know what we have until it’s gone, and it’s horrendous that we cherish things only when we know they’re going to be around for a short time, but I’d have to make my rounds. I’m not great with making friends, so the friends I have need to stay with me. I’d make sure they were comfortable with our relationship as it is, ensure their comfort, and make sure they know that I love them.
1. How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?
ReplyDeleteOkay, this one is a bit tough because there are many different factors that can go into this answer. For one, if I were basing my age off of my appearance, I’d give myself a solid fifteen and a half years to my name. The half adds onto it because on a good day I think I can manage to look like a sixteen-year-old. Now, if it were based on maturity, I’d definitely be at least twenty-two years old. When you’re twenty-two you’re technically not a “new” adult (as you’re not twenty-one) but you’re still young enough to enjoy thing and have fun without being seen as “uncool.”
2. Which is worse, failing or never trying?
Never trying is definitely one hundred percent worse than failing. There really is no argument there; at least, that’s what I believe. When you don’t try you don’t give yourself the opportunity to succeed. Even if you try and fail, there was always the chance that you could’ve succeeded. Failing takes one courage and gains one experience. You get the experience to learn from your mistakes and try again and again until you succeed. Not only that but if you never try anything then you will never know what you can actually accomplish. All in all, failing gives you more benefits than not trying.
6. If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich?
Any type of volunteer or charity work would make you rich if happiness was the national currency. I love volunteering because it makes me feel good and happy that I’m indirectly helping people. For instance, when Habitat and NHS made PB&J for the homeless shelter, I felt as if I was doing a good deed that would make someone’s rough day better. But, volunteering is certainly not the only thing that would make you rich. Little things like holding the door open for someone or complimenting someone on their hair and outfit would allow someone to live a prosperous life just because of the fact that good feelings are being spread around.
8. If the average human life span was 40 years, how would you live your life differently?
Oh, this is an easy question. If I only lived until my fortieth birthday I would be out and travel the world instead of being stuck here in good ol’ Jersey. I’ve always wanted to travel the world and experience everything that I can about it and everything in it. I want to learn about and experience first handily different cultures, try various types of foods, see amazing historical and ancient sites, and just take in all the beauty the world has to offer.
10. Are you more worried about doing things right, or doing the right things?
I am honestly more worried about doing the right things because when I focus on being right all the time, stress and anxiety and everything negative take over my mind; but, when it comes to doing the right things I focus on making sure that others as well as myself are happy and are well taken care of. Not to mention, I can only be right about something only so many times before I just stop and move on to the next thing. For instance, I can only solve a math problem and get the right answer once or use the right vocab word in the sentence once. However, I can always continue to do the right things over and over again. I can tell the truth as many times as I want or stand up to a bully numerously. Therefore, because I want the most out of my life, I chose to worry about doing the right things rather than doing things right.
17. What one thing have you not done that you really want to do? What’s holding you back?
DeleteAgain, like the forty-years old question, I want to travel. Traveling around the world would be a dream to me. I would learn so much more than I ever could by sitting in a classroom desk seven hours a day, five days a week. And that’s definitely what’s holding me back. School is a necessary evil in my eyes. You need it to get a good education and get a job and basically everything that you need to survive in the adult world. Yet, in school, you only learn a set number of things that one day will not be relevant to you at all. So, my need to get a high education is really what’s holding me back. Oh, that and money. I’m broke.
23. Have you been the kind of friend you want as a friend?
Speaking for myself (obviously) I would say that I am the kind of friend that I would want as a friend. Not gas myself but I’m a good listener, I like to help my friends in any way that I can, and I make them food. Sure, I’m annoying sometimes and tend to embarrass my friend in public, but I think the food makes up for that. And since I don’t like talking about myself that much, on to the next question. ☺
26. Would you rather lose all of your old memories, or never be able to make new ones?
One hundred percent would rather lose all my old memories. Easy question, simple answer. Life move on. So sure I’ll lose important and fond memories from the past, but I can always make new ones with the people who are important to me now. My crazy family will always make new memories and my even crazier friends will make sure that I’ll barely miss the old ones. Not only that but, I really don’t remember much of my childhood; so it wouldn’t be a terrible loss. That and the fact that I have my whole life ahead of me, so the past seventeen years wouldn’t matter as much as the next decades that I have yet to live.
34. Have you ever been with someone, said nothing, and walked away feeling like you just had the best conversation ever?
Yes, yes, and yes. This occurs mostly during my time at the lovely Oakcrest. Sometimes Jasmine and I would walk from chemistry to our next classes and not even say a single word to each other. But, just having the time to walk by her makes it an already wonderful experience as the silence between us is one of comfort and non-awkwardness. And on the occasion sometimes we’ll see a thing that others wouldn’t notice and we’ll just look at each other and shake our heads and laugh. There never has to be a constant conversation between us and I think that just adds to how comfortable we are to each other, which is why we are so great with each other.
41. If you knew that everyone you know was going to die tomorrow, who would you visit today?
As sad as it sounds, I probably wouldn’t visit anyone at all. With the knowledge that everyone I know and love will die within the next twenty-four hours, I most likely call them all or FaceTime all of them while sobbing harshly, as 1) it would save time on my end as I wouldn’t need to spend time traveling, 2) I could stuff my face with food in the comfort of my bed without being judged, and 3) I would be able to hit up those who mean the most to me as I only really have the phone numbers of people that I constantly talk to in my life.
36. It is not possible to know what is good and what is evil. Humans created these ideas out of no where. Like who decided that the letters s, h, i, and t put together is a bad word? That saying the letters f, u, c and k together will get you in trouble. Like who the hell just said hey this word is super bad don't say it. I wonder these things every day. Humans have morals but I think you should decided for yourself whats good and evil. There's obvious things like, kicking puppies is obviously evil. But honestly a random person came up with ideas of what to think and what to say that is bad and good. If you are religious you can look at the bible to decide whats bad and good but did God even write the bible? Didn't random people write it and they claimed God told them what to write and everyone believed it? I don't even know but basically I do what I want because no one can tell me MY ideas of good and evil because they aren't me.
ReplyDelete1. If I didn't know my age, based off appearance id say a solid 12 years old. But I would feel like id be old enough. Just old enough to have a job and live my life on my own. No specific age. I feel as though I am mature enough to live life without guidance, sure theres things new I will experience with no knowledge of it but thats how you grow as a person. I think of myself as mature. Im knowledgable on the doings of this crazy world. What goes on and what doesn't. Life is a crazy ride but now I am ready I think. So if I didnt know my age, id assume im old. Maybe its just a female thing because personally, I believe females are more mature than males. Not talking bad on guys but I see it everywhere.
5. The one thing Id like to change about the world, realistically, is the way society sets rules. The way it makes people think they HAVE to be a certain way. It ruins people. It ruins the views they have on others and themselves. So many young guys and girls, even grown ones, ruin their self love. Self love is important and for some its hard to have, and society makes it harder. An example would be like, girls who have more body hair than others are disgusting. So then girls at a young age feel like they NEED to shave. Body hair is a part of us for a reason. I mean yeah people have personal preference but you know how annoying it is to freaking shave your legs and crap all the damn time... I dont know anyone who enjoys shaving. I hate it but I do it anyway cuz for some odd reason I feel the need to do it. I shouldnt give a F but I do lol. Another example is how guys feel like need to be tall and muscular and thats not what you need to have, idk i feel like im rambling but I hate how people feel they need to be different than who they are and how they were made because of what society says. Fuck the system!!! (sorry for the language)
13. I would DEFINITELY break the law for a loved one no doubt. I always wanted to break a law anyway just for fun. Just to feel a little rebellious and wild yaknow. But my loved ones definitely come over any type of rule that can decide weather something is legal or not.
17. Something that I wanna do really bad is get a tattoo of a Hamsa on my body. That was weird I don't know why I said on my body, like where else would I get a tattoo lol. A Hamsa is an amulet that is typically popular throughout the Middle East and North Africa. Its the shape of a hand and usually has an eye in the middle, it stands for "protection from evil". Ive really been into middle eastern culture and this amulet since like I was 13. Now the only things holding me back, are my dear parents who say I cannot get any tattoos or other piercings until I no longer live in their house. But like what I don't understand is that this is MY body, but by law, the decisions I need to make for MY body are made by my parents, people who ARE NOT ME. ITS PISSES ME OFF.
#3. “If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do?”
ReplyDeleteThis is my relationship with lacrosse. When I’m in season, I literally hate going to practice and hate the sport in general. I spend so much time and put so much effort in it that I adore so many other things way more than the sport that I so call “love”. But when I don’t have lacrosse and I’m in off season I miss it so much. I can’t down the days until I can play again on a field. I really wish I could do other cool things too but when I talk to other people who do cool things like travel a lot and go on vacation, they wish they could be spending their time playing sports. I think that we just get so accustomed to it that we don’t appreciate what we've been blessed with.
#8. “If the average human lifespan was 40 years, how would you live your life differently?”
There is no way in hell I would spend my life in school for as long as we do now if my life span was half the time. I would graduate schoool forever at my 8th grade graduation and then continue on my life. I’m not a lil hoe but I would have my family asap because that's my dream and I would want to spend as much time as possible with them. Overall, you would not peep me at Oakcrest High School, even college. I will be outtie 5000 after 8th grade continuing my happy life with whoever is paid to marry me.
#10. “Are you more worried about doing things right, or doing the right things?”
Yeah, my mom has been so on me lately and I never seem to please her so this is about my life pretty much the past 5 months. I always try and do whatever she wants me to do and then she randomly changes her ideas so then I look like I’m doing the wrong thing but in reality I was doing what she told me. Its confusing. I’ll never win but I’m just going to keep trying. :)
#34. “Have you ever been with someone, said nothing, and walked away feeling like you just had the best conversation ever?”
This is my most favorite question ever. I guess automatically everyone results to relationships for this but by far sleep meets this requirement. I can sleep in my bed, not talk to my bed, and have the best sleep(conversation) that I could ever have with anyone. Nothing is better than sleep. But if we're talking legiterally here, still relating to sleep, sleeping next to someone is literally the most content “conversation” I could ever have. I looooooveee sleeping next to people, NOT LIKE THAT, or covered in blankets or anything. It is my most favorite thing ever because everyone is happy because we're all sleeping. :)
#36. “Is it possible to know, without a doubt, what is good and what is evil?”
No it is impossible because I’m convinced that their is 2 sides to everyone and no matter what they will show you both at some point. We all view things differently so there is no way one can be perfectly “good”. I’m telling you, even the “godliest” of people show the most devilistic features.
Okay first-- thought provoking questions get me revved up. It’s like when I hear-- or in this case read-- questions such as the ones on the blog, there’s so much that goes through my mind. So much that I can’t fully comprehend every little thing that goes through my mind, or comprehend it in enough time to jot in on paper or on the computer, and that honestly frustrates me because what goes through my mind isn’t useless, but once it’s gone from my mind, then it becomes useless to me. Thought provoking questions are great to get you thinking, but damn they get me more than just thinking.
ReplyDeleteFor the first question that resonates with me and I’ll elaborate on is “Which is worse, failing or never trying?” To me, never trying is WAY worse than failing. If you never try, you’ll never know. For me, not knowing, whatever that may be, really, really gets to me. I’m a person who likes answers and when I don’t get them, or I don’t do what I need to do to get them, I can’t live peacefully. So, if I never tried, because I was simply afraid to fail, I wouldn’t know if there was even a slight chance of me succeeding. And plus, you get more credit for trying and failing than never trying. You’re a chicken if you don’t try, but you can be a hero for trying and failing in the end. So, do you wanna be the potential chicken or hero-- easy answer… potential hero, duh.
A lifespan of 40 versus 80 sounds crazy, being that even 80 doesn't seem like enough time to live your life the way you want to. Because let's be realistic, the average person is really just “alive” from the age of 70-80, due to medical reasons and the way we age, we are-- or should I say the average person-- unable to really “live” for the last decade of our life, were just more “alive” than “living.” I'm speaking as if we all die at 80 which a lot of period live way beyond that and some fall pretty short of the number as well unfortunately. So, if the average lifespan was give or take 40 years old, and let's say the last decade of our life wasn't much more than sitting in a rocking chair, getting our butt wiped by someone else, and eating and sleeping on a schedule, we would only really have 30 years to live. If this was the case, I would quit worrying about stupid shit. Stupid shit as in the stuff that ruffles our feather throughout the day that we let manifest and brew inside of us until we can no longer handle it and we break. And when we break and up until we break, it prevents us from being happy and living the way we should and doing the things we want. If I spent less time letting stupid shit take over my life I'd have A LOT more time to live my life-- and of course more time for homework which would be lit. Another thing I would do differently is I wouldn't hesitate about things as much as I do. Hesitation creates wasted time and in this lifetime-- with the lifespan of 80 years-- there's no time for wasted time so I couldn't imagine wasted time when I only have 40 years. I would love twice as hard as I do now but not only would I love harder, I'd love less. Not that I'd become some unsociable grouch, I would just love less people so that I could give the period I love twice as much love like they deserve. And I'd hope to be loved more back twice as hard because they have to make up for the lost time ya know. I would speed up my life a little, but I wouldn't change much because believe it or not I love the life I live now-- of course with a few exceptions.
A lot of people in school talk about their parents. When they talk about their parents it's usually something to do with them badgering them about their grades and how many sports they should play and how they need to take every AP class available to them and blah blah blah. Parents aren't the ONLY people who control your life, but they do for more than the majority of your life. My parents and adult figures in my life keep my structured and thanks to them I am where I am today. But let me not forget to thank MYSELF for where I'm at today while I'm at it. Thankfully, I've controlled a lot of my life. I've always been super independent since I was very little so I sort of forced it on my mom a bit to let me control a lot of my life. Since then, with the few things I can't control, I've controlled most of my life. I make most of my own decisions and action. My parents trust me to control my own life for the most part and it benefits me in the end anyway. If someone else controlled my entire life, chances are I'd be super unhappy and not where I want to be in life because they wouldn't want what I want and wouldn't have the same feeling towards things as I would. I couldn't imagine not have control of my own life, I feel for the people who can't control theirs.
DeleteI'm more of a do the right things over doing things right type of gal. Just think logically, if you do the right things, not MUCH can go wrong, but if you do things right, that could mean perfecting murder or something. You can do plenty of things right, but what you did “right” doesn’t mean it was the right thing to do, get what I’m saying. Overall, I let people’s judgement get the best of me and run my life, it’s what I do even though I try every day to change it-- which I’ve come a long way with, just still trying to change it completely-- so doing the right things that are accepted by others is huge for me. You’d think doing things right would be more important to me since people hard core judge for doing things the wrong way. But, like in my aforementioned response to the ‘Which is worse, failing or never trying,” I rather try to do the right things and have a chance of doing them wrong, than to do things right all the time because it’s possible that I could be doing all the bad things the right way. Even though I give the reasons that I stated for why I chose what I did over doing things the right way, they both come close in ranking. Doing things the right way falls very, very closely behind doing the right things because like I said, people are satisfied when I do things the right way and that’s all that matters to me-- doesn’t really matter all that much but it seems like that’s all that matters when you’re having a panic attack because you’re nervous you might mess up.
1. How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?
ReplyDeleteI would be 4 years old because when we were little, we did not care about anything and we could do whatever we want. The 4 year old Sandy Chen is not the girl you see walking around the hallways of Oakcrest, instead I was this bubbly really outgoing little midget. I did not think about what others thought of me, I was just in my little own world. I may have looked ridiculous but everyone just says, “Oh she is just a kid, she does not understand the world yet.” I want to go back to the world, where nobody judged me for being myself.
2. Which is worse, failing or never trying?
Although I think both is bad, I would say never trying is worse because I won’t be able to see my full potential. I do admit that I am one of those people who is afraid of trying new things, but I would rather try and fail than not trying at all. You never know, something that you think you are bad at, you may be really good at it. You might regret it in the end.
9. To what degree have you actually controlled the course your life has taken?
My parents basically planned out my life, I’m just in charge of doing the right things to get there. I would say I control 50 percent of my life. Everything regarding my social life, I control. Like what friends I have, or who I hang out with, my parents have no control over that. Regarding to academics, my parents have laid down a specific path for me. Although I get to pick my classes, my parents want me to major in the business field. I have no interest in business whatsoever, but I’m also afraid to disappoint my parents because they have done a lot for me already.
5. What is the one thing you’d most like to change about the world?
I want a world where there is no hatred. In society today, everybody hates each other. We backstab each other and betray each other. There is also a specific presidential candidate that had built his campaign based on hatred. (*cough Trump cough*) What if we could live in a world where everyone gets along and nobody hates each other? We could all live in peace without worrying that someone might stab us in the back. Also maybe if we could live in a world with no hatred, maybe we would not be trying to blow everyone up using nuclear bombs. There will be no discrimination, and everyone is treated equally. How nice would that be? Really nice but that is not reality.
41. If you knew that everyone you know was going to die tomorrow, who would you visit today?
I want to visit my grandmother, because she raised me until I was 3 years old due to my parents always being at work. My grandmother gave me a lot of valuable advice. She is the one that taught me that I should treat everyone the same way I would want to be treated. She also taught me to “live life to the fullest.” My grandmother is getting old as the years go by, and I am really afraid that one day I might lose her. So, I would want to visit her first. Then I would visit my family and then friends afterwards.
1.If I didn’t know my age I would say I’m probably in my late 20s. I’ve always been more mature then the kids my age which has always made it hard for me to deal with people. I would say I was in my 30s but I think I’m too lazy and just don’t have myself together enough. My appearance on the other hand, says a completely different story. My chubby cheeks and baby face makes me look a lot younger than I actually am.
ReplyDelete2.Trying and failing is always better then never trying. I have so many regrets from missing out on opportunities because of fear of failing, but failing is how you learn and grow as a person. I’m stuck asking myself every what if question that pops into my head but from now on I’m not going to be taking opportunities for granted.
6.If happiness was the national currency, and I wanted to be rich I would spend time with my friends. Now I know that’s not work but they are what makes me happy and the person I am around them is so happy and carefree. I would also do a lot of driving. At first driving was really scary for me but now it’s the most relaxing thing there is. Traveling would also be something I would do to get rich. Experiencing new things brings excitement into my life and my happiness feeds off excitement.
8.If the average human life span was 40 years and that was all I knew I would probably live my life fairly similar. Society of course would be different but in proportion to our current life span it I think it would be the same. People would achieve their education earlier and have their families earlier and their careers but in the end would accomplish the same things.
13.I would do anything to save a loved one, even break the law, as long as it didn’t ruin me as a person and destroy my morals.
17. Going on vacation is something I’ve always wanted to do. Other kids my age are at Florida every year or some nice ass place where the sun is always shining but my parents don’t have the time or money to stuff like that all the time.
18. 10000000% yes
5. The world is so flawed that I think changing one thing would lead to having to change another thing, and then another thing, and then another, until it’s been a cycle of changes and the world still isn’t fair. People’s lives are so complicated, so how do I know if what I decide to change won’t hurt another person? This question is so frustrating, because as I come up with things I want to change, I find other things that are equally as worthy of being fixed, and then I end up debating things because (another question also suggests) there is no cut line between good and evil. People are not uniform, therefore, people think differently, and so whatever good I want to inject in the world might not be good in the eyes of another. That disclaimer aside, after much consideration (meaning, I took a shower, because showers help you think) I’d like to eradicate inequality. Sexism, racism, classism, every single -ism known to mankind. I’ve grown up with the idea that people are equal and people should be kind. I learned the hard way that that’s not how it works, but if I could somehow make it work, I would sure as heck try. It maddens me to no end that my friend is terrified of wearing clothes she likes, just because one boy decided to sexualize her body, touch her without her consent, and scar her for life. It upsets me that white privilege exists, and that there’s no one alive today entirely to blame for it and nearly nothing can be done to reverse it. It upsets me that standardized tests like the SATs cater to the rich and affluent and that money dictates our lives and controls if we can live out our dreams. I wish people would realize that all human beings deserve the same kind of respect. I wish everyone could start their life on the same level platform, and then bounce up from there. I know I’m being a hypocrite for saying that people can “bounce up from there” because that would suggest potential inequality, but one thing at a time people, one thing at a time.
ReplyDelete6. If happiness was currency, I would want to be a social justice warrior/figure skating commentator/Buzzfeed employee. In actuality, I think “Buzzfeed employee” encompasses the other two. It would be such a dream to be able to write, produce creative content, and work with tons of other talented people. Writing for Buzzfeed would allow me to research to my heart’s content, and even participate in (usually inaccurate, but very entertaining to watch) social experiments. I figure since Buzzfeed videos bring me so much happiness, working at Buzzfeed would just mean I’d be drowning in all the happy.
9. I have controlled about 6.02x10^-23% of my life. I have tiger parents, meaning they dictate literally every single detail of my existence with the mindset that they’re setting me up for success. Whenever I tell people about my parents’ strict rules, they’re always shocked-- jaws on the ground, raised eyebrows, fear in their eyes, the whole shabang. This is embarrassing to admit, but I don’t know what it’s like to go to the movies with my friends on Friday nights, or have sleepovers on the weekends, or even go to the mall by myself. My parents don’t even like it when people other than them (or very close family) drive me places. This has resulted in me having little to no independence, and when I think about leaving for college, I get purple with fear because I don’t know what it’s going to be like to have to go to the convenience store by myself to buy my own freaking groceries. As I’ve grown older, my parents have been allowing me more freedom, but more often than not, you can find me holed up at home all day, watching trashy reality television, singing like a dying whale, doing homework, but usually all three. Funny story: My mom tried to restrict me to 10 texts a day when I got my first iPhone at the beginning of sophomore year. Mind you, we have unlimited talk and text. You can probably imagine how that conversation turned out.
10. I hate saying this, because it makes me sound like a phony, but I really, really, really try hard to do the right thing. If it means ratting out a teacher that could potentially make me look like a fool in front of the entire school, then so be it. I have a very self-deprecating sense of humor, which more often than not, translates into my actual way of thinking. Sometimes the self-deprecation leaks into my speech, and I say things that may make others feel some type of way. Regardless, I never intend to offend others. I fully believe in the philosophy that you can disagree with someone, but you should do it respectfully. I most definitely don’t try my hardest to make others feel bad, or sit around hoping and praying that others will fail so that I will succeed. I find that I apologize too much, because to me, taking responsibility for my mistakes is the “right” thing to do, regardless of whether or not I know what mistake I made or if I even made a mistake in the first place. But the more I ramble here, the more I realize I don’t even understand what this question is asking. What does it mean to “do things right?” Procedures and rules? But once again, there had to be a person who created those procedures and rules, and that person had their set definition of right and wrong. So of course, I’m brought back to the argument that right and wrong do not exist objectively, therefore I can’t answer this question because what does “right” even mean? Why does it feel like I debate the “good vs. evil” argument in every single blogpost?!
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ReplyDelete2. Which is worse, failing or never trying? Never trying is much worse than failing could be. I must sound like a hypocrite because I always take myself out of situations because “ I know my strengths.” But, ideally, one should always try something before just giving in because there is a greater chance of succeeding when one actually tries, rather than just failing from the start.
5. What is the one thing you’d most like to change about the world? As cliche as it sounds, the one thing I’d change about the world is advantage. It breaks my heart to know that just because of where I was born i have a far better advantage than a lot of people in this world. It isn’t the best circumstances but some people would kill for my current position. I’d love if all of mankind could start at the same place at the beginning of the race. This is why I desperately want to do a mission trip this summer, I know this won’t level out the playing field but it’d make me feel better about the advantage I have over others.
6. If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich? I have ever been more sure of an answer in my life. Working at a puppy day care would make me so beyond happy. To come in everyday to bunch of happy little bastards walking around with their dopey little tongues out would make everyday okay. I would never have a bad day again, honestly. I’d be a rich bitch, just know.
13. Would you break the law to save a loved one? Hell yes! First of all, fuck da feds and the laws. #CivilDisobedience. I would do anything for someone I loved. For instance, if Emily killed someone then I am automatically an accomplice because I would help get rid of the body. Breaking the law is so trivial in what I would do for someone I love.
23. Have you been the kind of friend you want as a friend? Yeah I’m positive. Tbh, if I had another me I’d wife my ass up. Friend wise though, I’m funny, loyal, and trustworthy. Which are all the things that I look for in a friend.
41. If you knew that everyone you know was going to die tomorrow, who would you visit today? This is very hard to answer because I love just about everybody for one reason or another. So I’d just call a meeting with all of my friends, Nina, Emily, and all of my kindred. We could relive good times or watch movies but honestly I would probably look at everybody and just cry. I don’t know how I would handle the loss of everyone I knew or loved. I’d somehow find a way to blame myself probably, as if I’m some type of plague.
I, of course, love this blog post because I, believe it or not, love thinking deep into things like this. Okay let me get started, before someone like Taylor roasts me. Anyways....
ReplyDelete8. If the average human life span was 40 years, how would you live your life differently? I would live like I was dying, literally. 40 years is not a long time. My mom is older than 40, my house is older than 40, my grandparents are twice the age of 40, most companies have been open for over 40 years. I would go skydiving, I would say things risky that needed to be said, I would drop out of school and go travel the world. This world is such a beautiful place and there is so much I haven't seen because I'm either stuck at school or stuck in a lifestyle where people think we have forever. I would probably go broke from island hopping and drinking too many margaritas but I wouldn't care because then I would really be able to use the "life is short" slogan.
13. Would you break a law to save a love one? Hell yes. I think anyone would be able the answer this question with a yes and a smile. I would go 60 miles over the speed limit if it was to save a love one and I would rob a store if it was to save a love one. When I love someone, I really care about them and I would go to the end of the earth to save them.
18. Are you holding onto something you should let go of? I think this question is screaming my name. And I guess, since I can relate to it so well, I will get in my bag and put myself on blast and truthfully answer it. Yes yes yes I am holding onto something I should let go of. I am not holding onto my ex boyfriend anymore but I am holding onto the stupid stupid stupid idea that he could come back. I am holding onto the memories. I am holding onto the person he used to be. I am holding onto how my life was at this exact time last year. And I shouldn't be. But I still am holding on, even if it hurts. Why? I don't have an answer. I really don't. I do not know why I am holding onto someone that moved on and has a new life with a new girlfriend but every time I try to let go, I find myself pulling tighter onto what I'm holding on to.
26. Would you rather lose all of your old memories, or never be able to make new ones? This is a tough question but I would honest rather lose all my old memories. I have a lot of good memories with a lot of good people, but I also have a lot of bad memories with good/bad people. There are some memories that keep me up all night and that take over my though process and as much as I try to push them away, they come back even stronger. Yes life is extremely good and I couldn't ask for anything more, but some memories just suck. Even though I don't know what my future holds and what my new memories could be, I would still take that risk.
41. If you knew that everyone you knew was going to die tomorrow, who would you visit first? This is an extremely tough question that I thought about, typed, deleted, thought about, and so on. I am surrounded by everyone I care about, all my family lives in south jersey as long with my friends. I don't have that whole "oh my grandma lives in Florida" lifestyle but if so, my grandma would be the first I would go to. If I seriously had to pick one person to visit it would be my Uncle Ted. Now, my uncle Ted is one of the meanest but funniest and loving person I have ever met. And my friends reading this are probably like wtf Heather why would you pick him he always makes you so mad? Okay yes, I get it, he pisses me off, drives me insane, makes me question almost every little thing but I know deep down he loves me. And I really don't know what I would do without my uncle teddy. He has taught me so many things without even opening his mouth. He has taught me so many lessons without even explaining. And that probably doesn't even make sense unless you know him..and if you do know him, consider yourself lucky. He can make me laugh until I cry and he can literally make me cry, and somehow that’s what I love about him. It took me 16 years. 16 years to learn to not get mad at him when he yells at me, or makes fun of my friends, or comes completely crazy. It took me 16 years to appreciate the kind of person he is. To appreciate the type of love he gives. And to appreciate how much he has shaped my life for the better. So yes, if we were all to die tomorrow, and I only had one visitor pass, it would be for my goodie old uncle Ted.
Delete2. It is much better to fail than to never try. Wayne Gretzky once said, “You miss 100% of the shots that you don”t take”. I like having closure, so if I think about something but never act on it, it will eat at me for a long time. Yes, if whatever it is doesn't work out, well now you may be upset, but at least you can be honest with yourself and know answers to your questions or capabilities.
ReplyDelete8. If I only had 40 years, I probably would not procrastinate as much and not be so lazy. When I have all day to do something, I’ll do it so late, but if i'm pressed for time I think I will be more productive. (Not trying to say that I only want 40 years)
10. I do not do many things that are wrong, so I guess that I am worried about doing the right things. But I want to be successful so I also try to do things right.
13. Apparently speeding is “breaking the law” so I guess I could break the law for a loved one. It depends on what the law is and how bad the crime is, but there is not much that I would not do for
my loved ones.
23. I want friends that are really cool and tall and can spell and are good storytellers. By these standards i am being the best friend that anyone can have. I appreciate having friends that have similar mindsets and are into similar things to me, so I think I’m doing pretty good as a friend.
26. I would love to forget the feeling of hand sanitizer in my eye, but I honestly like living in the future instead of the past. I have had so many good memories, but I think that the future holds good things and I would not want to forget them, when they happen.
36. Some people feel pretty good about their definitions of good and evil, but everyone has a different mindset. No two people think the same, so there really is no way to know what is good and what is bad.
1. How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?
ReplyDeleteIf I didn’t know how old I was, I would want to be in my 57. At age 57 I will be near the age of retirement and will have already mastered my profession. Unfortunately, even if I didn’t know how old I am I would be the same age. Just because I’m not mentally capable of knowing my age doesn’t change the fact that my body will still age.
2. Which is worse, failing or never trying?
Never trying is way worse than failing. After every failure, I learn a way not to do something, which brings me closer to accomplishing my goal. If I never try doing something, then I won’t get the knowledge that I would have with a failure. Also, I will never know if I would have failed or succeeded if I don’t try. The uncertainty of not knowing will drive me insane, so I would rather fail than never try.
3. If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do?
The reason that we do so many things that we don’t enjoy in life is because of society. To survive in the world today we need to get a job (possibly a job that we hate). A job gets us money in order to pay for the things that we enjoy doing. If we don’t have a job, than we won’t be able to save up enough money to have fun.
5. What is the one thing you’d most like to change about the world?
If I had to choose something to change about the world, I would make everyone have a sense of humor. Everyday I see people who look like they're having an awful time, so maybe if they had a better sense of humor, they would be happier.
6. If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich?
If happiness was a national currency, I would be a professional singer. I feel like I’m the happiest when I sing or when I’m listening to music, so I would be a billionaire if singing was my occupation and I was paid in happiness. I also feel that others are happy when they hear music, so I would get rich off of my own happiness and the audiences happiness.
13. Would you break the law to save a loved one?
Yes. I would break a law to save my sister, because at this point she is the family member that I look up to the most.
26. Would you rather lose all of your old memories, or never be able to make new ones?
I would rather lose all of my old memories than not be able to make new ones. I have many years ahead of me and there are many more happy memories to make as I meet new people. I do have happy memories, but I know that there are happier ones ahead.
1. If I didn’t know how old I was I would put a lower age on myself because if I still had the capacity that I have today and I am able to realize what the world has coming for me, how great childhood is, and what with my experience, it could be very beneficial in various ways. I’d say I would claim to be 13 (which is only 4 years back). I could excel in sports, have (most likely, well hopefully) perfect grades, and have more time to prepare for what is coming. Just imagine a “13-year-old” (who’s actually 17) playing sports with kids the same age, most likely towering over them. With the same capacity I have now, I could be recognized and put into distinct very high leveled teams and maybe even be scouted by colleges. Scholarships could get offered and I could be going to college for free! Man, if this could really happen, I volunteer as tribute.
ReplyDelete2. Although failing always hurts, pain is only temporary. Failing does not mean you cannot try again. F.A.I.L. actually means First Attempt In Learning. When you fail, you learn. When you learn, you succeed. When you succeed, goals are accomplished. When goals are accomplished, happiness is restored. That is why failing is only temporary. Now on the other hand, never trying should be the real definition of failure. You failed to attempt something you had no clue of the outcome. Ever heard of the expression “you never know?” Well it’s true. How will you ever know if you would of made that team if you never tried out? How will you know you wouldn’t of passed that exam if you never took it. How would you know anything if you never tried learning? In life you must always try because the future is unpredictable. Have you ever been scared to ask your parents for something because you are pretty certain they’ll say no? And then you don’t ask? What if they were going to say yes? You will never know because you never tried. Never trying is failure in my book. Another example is Sierra, she did not study for her asvab because did not know her mom had signed her up and was clueless of the date. But I insisted her to take it because you never know. Also, she had failed it before when she studied. So she listened to me and took it. When she got her scores back she had passed. Amazing right? She didn’t even study. But she wouldn’t have met her graduation requirements if she didn’t try.
6. If happiness could get me rich I would commit myself to helping others because there is no better feeling than making others happy. Making someone’s day is just the best feeling. Knowing that brought happiness to another person for maybe just 10 minutes of their day is still satisfying. It makes me feel like a good person, and it make that other person always want to come back to you. I might seem mean because of the invectives I threw at people for valentines but I’m actually not, I’m too nice to be honest. My fear of being a good person is being taken advantage of. But I am hoping nobody is that evil spirited.
10. Doing things right do not matter as much to me as doing the right thing because doing the right thing will come back around and benefit you (good karma). Doing things right might also be the wrong thing. So why do the wrong thing when you can do the right thing? Doing the right thing is being the better person. By doing the right thing you show you are not selfish and are willing to do the right thing for the better. Be a better person!
12. To a newborn I would tell them to stay focused on what is really important to them and to stay in school. Although they may not like school, it will educate them in the way their parents might not be able too and it leads you to your career. I might be stressful at times but it will all work out in the end when you’re making hella bread and you’re making people jealous of your glamorous lifestyle. And although the newborn will probably dislike school (males at least), schooling is the only way to make it somewhere in the world. And it’s sad that, that is the only way you can make it in the world but it’s life. I’d also tell them that life is going to throw you curveballs. And that there will be ups and downs on your roller coaster of life. I’d tell them to be prepared and to not overreact because everything happens for a reason. Life is short, do not let anything hold you back from what you aspire doing.
Delete13. This seems like a dumb question in my opinion. If you wouldn’t risk your life to save a loved one, you probably don’t truly love them, or you don’t have to heart. My boundaries are limitless for actions I would do to save a loved one. I mean you are saving a life and what makes my boundaries more limitless is the fact that they are a loved one. Plus I wouldn’t be able to live with the guilt knowing I could have saved that loved one. To be real, it doesn’t even have to be a loved one because I would still be saving a life. A life is a life, and it should not go to waste. Also, if your life was in danger you would definitely want that loved one to save you. So treat others the way you want to be treated.
36. You can tell without doubt if someone/something is evil or good. I mean how can you not? I think by our age we can tell if someone is suspicious or not. And if you don’t there always that gut feeling that you get when you don’t have a good feeling about something. And your gut is usually right. It seems to be a guess but it’s right almost all the time. So how is that a guess? And if you don’t recognize the evil in someone, someone else can. Everyone has a different perspective of people/ideas/topics, they might be able to see something you do not. You cannot hide forever. This certain person cannot hide their evil forever. Someone is bound to discover it. The human race is only advancing, and now with lie detectors you cannot hide. If you cannot find the evil in someone, you can test it. And plus, don’t you think it’s easy to tell when something or someone is fishy?
1. How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?
ReplyDeleteMy Dad always told me that I act much more mature that I look. So, maybe 17 by behavior but 12 by the way I look.
2. Which is worse, failing or never trying?
Oh, definitely failing. Say you have a crush on somebody and really wanna ask if the feelings are reciprocated or not. You can tell them how you feel and risk rejection, or push your temptations aside and deal with the uncertainty of possible happiness.
5. What is the one thing you’d most like to change about the world?
I want time to slow down. My Mom and Dad are always complaining about how “fast” everything moves here in America (as opposed to Europe). Everyone rushes to get to one place or another and most of a person’s time is spent multitasking. In this culture, we rarely go out to a coffee shop and enjoy the company of a family or friend. Instead, we tend to grab a Starbucks and get the heck out to go to work or school or blah blah blah blah…...
6. If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich?
*sigh*... Singing. Dancing. Theatre. There is nothing like the feeling of being on stage. Dancing and Singing have a more pathological approach to art so I connect with emotion easier. I know that I am not the best in the world at any of my hobbies, but I know I could succeed in theatre. Maybe one day, I’ll perform somewhere near New York.
12. If you could offer a newborn child only one piece of advice, what would it be?
Well, technically they couldn’t understand words if they were just born. But if I had to give a piece of advice it would be: 1) Enjoy childhood while it lasts. Cherish the walks in the park, holding hands with your parents, and having everyone as your “best friend”. 2) Be grateful for what your parents give you. Thank them often. Most parents’ lives revolve around their children, so doing nice things will ease their stress and blood pressure levels.
13. Would you break the law to save a loved one?
Of course! Laws change all the time. If the law was worth breaking, it shouldn’t exist.
17. What one thing have you not done that you really want to do? What’s holding you back?
Ballroom dancing. I’d be pretty good at it, considering my artistic and athletic backgrounds. The thing that’s holding me back is that I don’t have the time or money for a new hobby. Maybe when I’m older I’ll give it a go.
18. Are you holding onto something you need to let go of?
Probably. I’m a realistic person and usually stop myself from getting my head stuck in the clouds, but I think my brain wanders sometimes. I’ll just leave it at that.
1)How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?
ReplyDeleteThis question is a mindfuck and made me think for a verrryy long time because there are many different circumstances that could influence my answer. Did I lose my memory in an accident and have no recollection of personal information as a result? If so, I could compare myself to other people around me and conclude with a good degree of certainty that I am in fact between the ages of 12 and 16. However, if this question is asked in regards to life experience, without a physical influential factor, my answer would be very different. Sometimes I feel as if I’m old because I’ve been through so many situations that have allowed me to view life from different perspectives. For example, switching between schools several times has shown me how similar yet different the educational system is in various parts of New Jersey and I’ve been introduced to new experiences as a result. I’ve learned so much about people and society from moving schools, which makes me feel older than I am because I’ve been given the opportunity to see life from different perspectives that many people my age have not experienced. Yet, other times I feel young and naive and conclude that I know nothing about the way the world works because something will happen that will open my eyes to a new viewpoint that I had no idea existed before. When this happens, I’ll start to question how much life experience I actually have and how that factors into my emotional rather than physical age.
2) Which is worse, failing or never trying?
I think that never trying is by far a lot worse than failing. Never trying something is an automatic failure because one never even attempted to succeed in the first place. The definitions of “success” and “failure” are subjective, so what is considered “failing” to one person may count as a “success” for another; other people’s definitions of the words should have no impact on whether or not one decides to try something. A person should decide to branch out and try new things not to succeed, but to gain experience. If someone decides that they’re not going to do something because they’re scared of “failing” by other people’s standards, then they’ve already failed because they let doubt get in the way of valuable experience.
3) Life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do?
I read this question and immediately had my answer: Capitalism. For many people, working and going to school are not enjoyable pursuits; the majority would rather be at the beach or sleeping or watching netflix. The reason we get up every morning and do these things is because our lives revolve around earning money, and money can’t be earned by sleeping all day. We put so much pressure on ourselves to make a living and keep up with society’s standard of “success” that we never find time to enjoy the little things in life that truly make us happy.
6) If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich?
If I could work at my summer camp every day of my life for the rest of my life as a counselor, I’d be perfectly content. I’d also be richer than Donald Trump, so I could probably run for president and win, which would be a plus. Unfortunately, I don’t foresee this switch in currency happening any time soon, and it is generally looked down upon to be middle-aged and still work as a counselor at a children’s summer camp.
34) Have you ever been with someone, said nothing, and walked away feeling like you just had the best conversation ever?
Yes. There are times when I’ll be with this one specific person and we won’t feel the need to talk at all- we’ll just enjoy each other’s presence. You know you found the right person when there isn’t a constant need for conversation because you just feel naturally comfortable and at home when you’re around them.
Q: How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?
ReplyDeleteA: Well, if this was a riddle, the answer would be, “old!” But it isn’t. Anyway, if I didn’t know how old I am, and I had to take a wild guess based on the live I’ve lived thus far, I’d say I’m thirty-five. I feel like I’ve compiled a lot of experiences that most kids, even most young adults, don’t have. Most people experience as much as I have by the time they’re thirty-five. Also, at thirty-five most people have kids on the younger side. In other words most people begin or are in the process of parenting by thirty-five. I feel like I raised myself, so thirty-five, again, would make most sense. So, I say thirty-five.
Q: Which is worse, failing, or never trying?
A: Never trying is definitely worse. You never know what you might be good at. Besides, failure is just as beautiful as success. It reminds us that we all do have a purpose. Everyone will succeed at something meaning that, inevitably, everyone will also fail at something.The things you’re good at or find success in (even success in happiness) might be part of your purpose. Without failure, we wouldn’t even know what success is. Without failure, none of us would be unique. If none of us were unique, the world would be pretty bland. So, never trying is definitely worse because it would perpetuate the cycle of lack of failure.
Q: If life is so short, why do we do so many things that we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do?
A: There’s two questions to answer. Why do we do so many things we don’t like? Well, I guess the way the world works, you have to in order to survive. And survival comes before desir even if most of the population doesn’t see it that way. We get jobs because we need money to pay bills to keep shelter to have a bed to sleep on. We get jobs to pay for food, and insurance, and a car to get places. We get in shape so we can attract people so that we can find love and get married and have kids and so on. Today, most people consider these things necessities; stepping stones to get to a place where they can comfortably do what they like without wasting precious moments worrying about what needs to get done as well. Personally, I’d rather waste moments doing what I want rather than worrying about what I need to do. Putting off happiness in the hopes it’ll be even better when it happens all at once may sound like a decent plan, but you never know when your last day will be. A year from now, I could be gone. I could have thirty seconds left on my clock as we speak. There’s no time to wait. So screw it if I make mistakes or get hurt along the way. Looking back, right now, I have no regrets and I mean that. I could spend time regretting something or embracing and learning from it and I chose the latter. I can only assume why other people hold off from doing what they like during their short stay here, because I make sure I do what I like. Why do we like so many things we don’t do? Jealousy. And confusion. And insecurity. And fear. Mostly fear, I think. If you do what you like, people might view it as immaturity. I think that’s the worst thing, in people’s minds, to be called: “immature”. It’s like everyone’s afraid to be themselves, to act giddy, to enjoy things with the same intensity that children enjoy things, because they’re afraid to face the fact that they might be rebelling against the common societal flow. They’re afraid to be eccentric and happy, even. It’s not “normal” for adults to be any of those things.
Q:Are you holding onto something you need to let go of?
DeleteA: Sometimes, when fishing, a turtle might latch onto the hook at which point it would become harder to reel in. You’d think, if you were that unfortunate turtle, you’d let go of the sharp thing tearing at your cheek dragging you up off of the seafloor into the light. But no! The turtles just hang on and enjoy the ride. It could mean death or pain or any number of unpleasant happenings, but the turtle doesn’t care. Maybe turtles just don’t understand consequences, or maybe they want to know what it feels like to face pain or death or any unpleasantry. Without directly realizing this, maybe the turtle is just curious. He wants to see what’s up there, where the light comes from, what all of his options are in terms of environment. The turtle holds onto something it needs to let go of in order to fully understand why it needs to let go and that it should never munch on shiny hooks again no matter how appealing they may seem. I think life is that way too. There are things I need to let go of. I need to let go of who I used to be and of who I thought I’d become and focus on who I am. I need to let go of the bad things that have happened to me instead of letting myself get emotional about them, because nothing else is gonna change. I just need to accept what happened, accept what’s going to happen and a result, and move on. I need to let go of my fear of being forgotten, or deceived, or treated like shit. I need to let go of certain people. All of this in order to get better. But, I’ve, of course, found myself hesitant to let go. I’ve tried to push myself away but sometimes I won’t budge. I think it’s because I want to see, to the fullest extent, what it is I’m letting go of. I’m not just letting go of a boy who hurt me, I’m letting go of insecurity and gaining self-respect. I’m not just letting go of a boy who hurt me, I’m letting go f a boy who isn’t right for me. I’m letting go abuse and pain and that feeling that wasn’t quite right, ever. Staying “too long” has it’s benefits; it’s taught me exactly what I do and do not want at a young age. Now, I won’t waste anymore time, anymore of my soul, on mistakes. I’m holding onto many things I need to let go of, but the time will come, whether it speedily approaches or saunters towards me, where I will let go. A time in which I will have learned all that I need to learn, and experienced all that I was meant to experience for whatever reason.
5. What is the one thing you’d most like to change about the world?
ReplyDeleteGet rid of all the discrimination. No more racism, sexism, elitism, homophobes.
8. If the average human lifespan was 40 years, how would you live your life differently?
If I’m not going to live much past 40, that means I have to start a family a lot earlier than I was planning to. Finding love and having a family is what matters to me the most. I probably would have disregarded my grades if we were still studying at this age and started seriously looking for love. If by 22 nothing happened, I would have to be a single mother because there is no time to waste when it comes to my kids. I would probably work from home and tutor children in math or Spanish. I would plan to stay in the same town as my brother because I love him and I’d want to spend as much time together as possible.
12. If you could offer a newborn child only one piece of advice, what would it be?
“Do not be ashamed of who or what you love”.
13. Would you break the law to save a loved one?
This answer might cause me trouble in the future if the government gets messier, so I will not go into specifics, but yes, the well-being of someone I love is more important than upholding laws.
17. What one thing have you not done that you really want to do? What’s holding you back?
For the past couple years, I dreamed about what it would be like to be the proud owner of beautiful dyed hair. My hair is black, a brown so dark it looks and feels black. I like my hair, don’t get me wrong, but I just feel a little like a plain jane sometimes. I just want to feel like my hair is cool, and not just alright.
Although my mom wouldn’t be thrilled with the idea of dyed hair on my head, I could convince her at some point, or even just wait until I’m out of the house. But there’s still a part of me not onboard with this idea. My hair is a part of my identity. I’m worried I’ll feel too different with new hair and then my hair will never be the same again. My hair is pretty dark, so no matter what, it will most likely have to be bleached. I’m scared my hair won’t be able to grow long again or grow as thick. Even though hair is just dead protein, it’s a part of me. At this point, I’m not ready to risk it. I wish wigs were cheaper and I could just wear wigs when I feel bored of my real hair. The pink wig I wore for the musical was so cute. I would totally wear that again.
18. Are you holding onto something you need to let go of?
I read this question and stared out the window making faces of distress. This is a sign that at least part of me wants me to move on from some things. On one hand, it shouldn’t be a surprise anymore when people hurt me because I know friends grow apart and crushing on someone rarely ends well. But, who said our thoughts are powered by logic? Emotions play a big role in a person’s thoughts, and when you’re hurt, the last thing you want to hear is an “I told you so” from your own head. I wish I was the type of person that let things slide off their back, but that’s just not me. I take everything to heart.
46. What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?
I would only do homework when I want to do it. It’s not that I hate homework, I just stress out too much and then I sit for hours stuck in stress before I get anything down. If teachers didn’t judge homework, I think I would just sit down and do it without worrying “Oh, this sounds stupid”, or “I’m probably not doing this right”. I have to want to do the homework myself. I’m sick of doing work for a grade. I am really in a lousy mood toward my academics lately but if I drop my assignments, then I’m saying goodbye to any possible scholarships. I’m getting off topic but final point: school needs to be about learning and not grades!!!
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ReplyDeleteHow old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?
ReplyDeleteI would be four again. Two is too young and you’re still learning everything. I wouldn’t be three because it’s odd, and I don’t like odd numbers. I wouldn’t be five because that’s one: too old and two: it’s an odd number. So somehow, four is my magical number. Just because it’s even, and it’s when kids are more understanding about the world. It’s not too old and it’s not too young, (on a scale of a toddler, if that makes sense lol.) Also, when you’re young you don’t worry about much. You worry about toys, you make friends easily, you aren’t stressed out about school, or finding your lifetime job by the time you hit 17 or 18 (my case I’ll be 17 when I graduate), being four years old is badass.
2. Which is worse, failing or never trying?
I would have to say that never trying is worse. Because even if you fail, you still tried, and you learned from not being successful. If you never try then you will never know what could’ve happened, and you don’t gain anything.
6. If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich?
Babies, animals (mostly dogs), and seeing other people super happy would make me rich. Babies, because who doesn’t love babies? They’re little poop machines, with cute small toes, and are the cutest things ever. Animals, because who the hell doesn’t love animals? If you’re one of those people who doesn’t like animals, do you even have a heart? Lol. But I think earth is blessed with having animals. They are super unselfish, and cute little fur balls. Lastly seeing other people happy. Whenever I see people really happy like laughing, and smiling big, or when they’re crying happy tears, I end up being really happy too. I catch myself smiling just because other people are smiling.
10. Are you more worried about doing things right, or doing the right things?
I would say I worry about both. For some reason, I always have this urge to know if I’m doing what I’m doing right. If not, then I start to overthink because I don’t know if what I’m doing is right or wrong. And I think about doing the right things. I make sure I don’t do something that would make my teachers or family be upset. But sometimes I want to do the wrong things. I don’t know what I would do, but after a while of ensuring that you’re “doing the right thing”, gets tiresome and annoying.
23. Have you been the kind of friend you want as a friend?
I think so. I’m not really sure because I get told I’m not a real best friend or I’m a bad friend. But I always try to be there for my friends, and I do so much for them in return. But to be completely honest Bunje, I don’t think I have friends.
26. Would you rather lose all of your old memories, or never be able to make new ones?
I would rather lose all my old memories. I want to be able to make new memories because then I’ll be able to see my kids, and that’s a something I want to keep for forever
3. If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do?
ReplyDeleteWe don’t have time do anything else. I would love to go skydiving but ask me when I even have time to pee, I don’t.
13. Would you break the law to save a loved one?
I have always thought about this question. Not completely but I have always thought about the thing I would go to saved a loved one. How far I would go in order to save someone I love. That extent goes way past the moon, I would break the law not one or two times but seven if I have to in order to save someone I love. Loosing people I love isn’t really a question in my life so if you put me in a situation where I have to do something illegal to save my loved ones, it wont be illegal in my eyes.
18. Are you holding onto something you need to let go of?
I think we all hold onto things we need to let go off. I for sure do. I look around my room and see things I should not have kept from over the years that I hold onto for some reason or another. I think its funny that for some random reason the ticket from the time I went to a Justin Bieber concert is so important to me. It shouldn’t be but for some reason it holds so much sentimental value to me. I think I am not only holding onto “something” in my life I think I am holding onto many things in my life. I think though, I will for some reason always hold onto thing I should be holding of because that’s just the person I am.
26. Would you rather lose all of your old memories, or never be able to make new ones?
Over the past year I have made so many memories that I hold onto with all of my heart. I think it because that’s were I found out the most about myself, this past year. I would hate to loose all of my memories that I love so much but would also hate to never be able to make new ones because I would always be thinking about my old ones and how it would feel to be able to remember the good ones that I have just experienced. Right now though, I would not give up my old memories for anything maybe on the near future when I realize that the memories I have aren’t as important I will see that making new memories is better, but for right now I would love to stick with my old memories.
6. If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich?
Not many people know this but I love to paint. I don’t tell many people because I don’t think it’s a big deal, but if being happy is what go you places that is what I would choose to do. I don’t have much time to do that now because, I don’t make enough time but when used to have time I used to paint all the time. I used to do it as s tress reliever and to see where I could go from a white canvas, which could lead you anywhere. That would never happen in this world because money revolves around everything, money is what makes anything and everything happen, which is one thing I would change about the world, so I guess I killed two birds with one stone. If this world could not revolve around money everything would be different, everyone would be different. People would do things that would make them genuinely happy. People would paint and people would pick blueberries as their job.
10. “Are you more worried about doing things right, or doing the right things?”
ReplyDeleteWhen I first read question 10, I automatically knew I needed to do it. I’m personally more worried about doing the right things rather than doing things right. I take this position because, I have a huge heart. Doing the right things- to me, means helping out whenever I can, making people smile/laugh, trying to manipulate my schedule to coincide with another student to help him with a video, spending as much time as I can with the right people that influence my life, and being as positive as humanly possible. One the other hand, worrying about doing things right, adds an immense amount of stress on me. Doing things right comes with the price of pressure. I want to do things right, but there comes a time when I need to relax and remind myself that doing things right, can lead to adventures I never take. When I say adventures, I mean, I would never experience life. I would play on the safe side of life, instead of making the most of my existence. For example, the right thing to do is go to college right after you graduate. Well, what if I wanted to take an adventure before starting another agonizing 4 years + 2 years. There are a plethora of opportunities in life, and doing things right can translate to never taking adventures. Now, doing the right things makes me extremely joyful. I love helping people and love doing what I can to make people smile. When I do the right things, my heart swells up and I feel exceedingly proud of myself. I love seeing the looks on people's faces when I get done a good deed, and having them thank me for what I’ve done, and I love going out of my way to make people feel cheerful.
13. Would you break the law to save a loved one?
Absolutely. I wish I could only put that. But, since I can’t, I will go into more depth. If I need to kill someone to save a loved one, I would in heart beat. Yes, I will go to prison and may be even get the death penalty; but saving someone I love, outranks anything I encounter. I chose this question because I already love saving people. I want to be a neonatal nurse when I grow up, so this question is up my alley. Saving someone's life is what I will always live for. I do not know how I came to grow up with that mindset, but it’s like a passion now. Saving a loved one’s life is very important to me. When I was a little tyke, my granny was an alcoholic. There was not a time where she didn’t have a beer in her hands. I wanted to save her. I wanted to help her in whatever way I could. It tore me to pieces to see her-routinely, crack open a beer. I wanted nothing more to have her listen to me and put down the beer. Now that I think about it, I believe she influenced my mindset. I wanted to save her, but I couldn't. So now, I want to save other people and other families so they don’t go threw what I had to go threw.
18. Are you holding onto something you need to let go of?
The 1 million dollar question that informs people I am a humongous grudge holder. I cannot express how much of a grudge holder I am. I have tried my hardest to put some things aside and not worry or be mad about them, but it is too dang hard. But, I know one thing that I need to let go of. When my granny was still alive, she had given me a blanket. I has 2 angels on it. One represents me while the other represents her. I slept with it every single night. Whether my granny was alive or she passed away- that was my protection. It meant the world to me, and still does. Well, a few months ago, my little grubby handed sister, took my blanket. Now she claims she can’t sleep without it. I have had my tears, more hugs, and yes more kisses on that blanket than she ever will. That blanket literally gave me the comfort I needed when my granny passed away. It reminded me she will always be with me and everything will be okay. The grudge I have on the blanket, is massive. I try my hardest to get it back from her, but she’s a brat and won’t give me back my blanket. I say I need to let go of it, but I don’t think I ever will.
First, of I absolutely love the idea of this blog, it seems like it will be a fun blog to write. So let’s see how fun it is to actually write it.
ReplyDelete1. I would be 19, just because whenever I go out to a store I always end up getting asked to apply for a credit card or something of that nature. That is the age I feel best suits me but I also don’t like the idea of being three years older than what I actually am, and thinking about being 19 makes me feel like the real world I going to come very close.
2. Never trying is without a doubt worse than failure, failure is only an experience that you can build upon while never trying only leaves you with doubt. Doubt cannot help you in any way, it only forms itself as a nagging little voice that says “why didn’t you?” I’ve failed many times in my life so I except it now because failure is just a part of growth, but I can only say that I never tried only a few times and the fact that I never tried bothers me much more than my failure.
3. It’s because of love, for myself I wouldn’t do many things I didn’t like but if it was to help someone I loved or cared about I would defiantly do stuff I didn’t like. There are responsibilities to those you love and I believe fulfilling them is why we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do.
5. The fact that religions don’t get along, I wish to create peace among all religions. I personally believe if people stopped hating each other over religion a lot of the world’s problems would be solved.
6. Being a professional track athlete would defiantly keep putting a smile on my face.
8. I would try to live to 80 just so I could say I’m doing twice as good as everyone else, and also, use the lessons I’ve learned to help the younger generations.
9. I really haven’t controlled any of my life, I leave most of it to chance because I like to gamble.
10. The right thing cause guilt really destroys me. I have difficulty dealing with guilt, I know some people can literally not feel any form of guilt but I’m the opposite, it will just eat me from the inside until I simply cannot take it anymore.
12. People come and go so you must determine whose worth chasing after
13. Hell yeah! In all honesty, I would break the law to save one of my cats.
18. My mistrust for people especially when it comes to emotional connections. I have difficulty departing from any sort of emotional relationship, whether it be with a person, animal, or piece of pizza. I just really can’t stand knowing I didn’t give it my all to make it work.
23. Yes
26. If I forgot my past I wouldn’t have a future.
34. Happens to me in the bathroom all the time. I would rather not go into detail on this one.
36. It’s all about perspective, the wrong side of heaven or the righteous side of hell.
41. First would be my brother, then my grandparents, then my parents, the friends.
46. A lot of things, I really cannot name all of them but I would honestly wear my running shorts all the time if I could but that’s for workout Wednesday.
1. How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are? This is confusing because if you didn’t know your age, how would you know how to act? This is because we’ve all been taught to “act our age”. But if you didn’t know your age, you wouldn’t know how to act. Time does not have to make us feel any older than we want to be. Wisdom does not always come with age, wisdom comes with understanding and acceptance. On the contrary if this choice was presented in today’s society everyone would act the same due to social pressures.
ReplyDelete2. Which is worse, failing or never trying? If we never try, how will we know the outcome? So many people worry about what will happen if they fail, but they never think about what could happen if they succeed. The chance of mastering something the first time you try it is almost impossible. Everything takes time to learn and you will make mistakes. So the best thing you could do is learn from them, and use the mistake to improve.
3. If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do? Over the years humans have created the “rules” of life. Go to school, get a job, get married have some kids and retire. Cookie Cutter, draw in the lines kind of life with nothing spontaneous or adventurous. If we lived in a different world, unlike the fast paced lives we live we could truly appreciate all the little things we enjoy.
6. If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich? There’s so many varieties of activities to be done, even then more combinations on top of that. I feel as though I have not experienced the real world quite enough to say what truly makes me happy. It takes a lot for a junior in high school with a billion things on his/her plate to be blissfully happy. But somehow snow is my sanctuary. I would be rich living in a blizzard. However we only miss what we no longer have. Snow is my happiness because we see it so rarely. Not really but sort of.
10. Are you more worried about doing things right, or doing the right things? Although I’m the type of person who loves the satisfaction of crossing off an item on my check list I don’t consider the task done until its right.
17. What one thing have you not done that you really want to do? What’s holding you back? Travel. I want to see the world. There’s amazing, unfathomable views all over the world, some even in our own nation. I want my breath to be taken away by the sight of the 7 ancient wonders of the world, or the Eiffel tower or something as simple as a love-lock bridge. Because after all it is the little things that carry pure characteristics of authenticity. Life itself holds me back, more specifically the “process” of life. We are expected to do all of these things in a certain order and there is no room for anything but. I wish to break the norm one day and travel the world.
ReplyDelete26. Would you rather lose all of your old memories, or never be able to make new ones? After seeing the notebook and parts of 50 first dates, it seems I’ve pondered this question more often than one should. Sometimes your mind just lingers on a tragedy like this for a second longer than safe and it makes you shiver. The thought of either happening is terrifying. However I would rather lose all my old memories, although inconvenient for the most part, the ability to make new members could be beneficial. A new life, a new start to show the world your best potential. Your old life would just be a distant story that you could either conform to or let go of all together.
36. Would you rather lose all of your old memories, or never be able to make new ones? For this question I would like to refer to my most recent OP Radical-Over-Exaggerated-Honesty” where I pointed out “Life is too ironic to fully grasp the concept of its greatness. It takes sadness to know what happiness is. Noise to appreciate the silence and the absence to value presence.” Having said this we could not defer what good is without evil and vice versa. Who’s to say “borrowing” a new car off the dealer lot is bad if it was not determined previously by society’s individuals.
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ReplyDelete1. How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are? (I love this one!)
If I did not know how old I am then I’d probably be either a young child around the age of 3 or an elderly woman with dementia around age 75. In either instance, I would not know my age and I would probably answer with the age that I felt I was.
2. Which is worse, failing or never trying?
Never trying is definitely worse than failing. Of course no one wants to fail but, at least failing shows that you’ve attempted to try. In contrast, never trying indicates that you never gave it a shot at all. How can you ever reach a desired outcome if you never try? The quote “don’t let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game” is applicable to this argument because although you may be afraid of striking out, you should not let that keep you from playing the game. Despite the chance of failure, always try because never trying eliminates all chances of success.
3. If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do?
The reason we do so many things we don’t like is merely because of routine, requirement or comfortability. A lot of times I find myself doing things I don’t like because I feel like I have to.
Also, we tend to like many things that we don’t do because we lack motivation, time, money and more.
5. What is the one thing you’d most like to change about the world?
If there was one thing I could change about the world, it would be people’s attitudes. Although this seems very idealistic and utopian, I wish that everyone had a positive attitude because I feel that it would create a better atmosphere. For example, as I was bagging groceries for a lacrosse fundraiser, a man continuously corrected me on how I bagged his groceries. Although he should have some input on how I organize and bundle his groceries, he did not have to reprimand me in such an irritated manner. Obviously I was bagging his groceries out of the goodness in my heart (and because there was a donation bag that awaited him at the end of the checkout). But in any case, if people were less judgmental, less negative and more optimistic, the world would be a better place.
6. If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich?
If happiness were the national currency, any form of helping people would make me rich. Nothing gives me more satisfaction than helping out someone else. Helping others makes me feel better as a person. It truly is rewarding when you can contribute to the betterment of someone else.
8. If the average human lifespan was 40 years, how would you live your life differently?
DeleteIf the average human lifespan was 40 years old, I would need to live life faster in order to accomplish all of my goals. A 40 year lifespan is about half of the average life expectancy today. This means only 40 years to graduate college, start a career, buy a beautiful riverside house and have children. Also, I’d like to visit Spain and possibly become fluent in spanish. Even though 40 years seems like a lot of time, when considering all of the things I’d like to accomplish, it really isn’t.
9. To what degree have you actually controlled the course your life has taken?
So far, I have not controlled much of the course that my life has taken. Other than choosing classes, activities, what I do with my spare time, and the people I surround myself with, I have had little choice in my life. This is mostly due to the fact that school is most of my life. On the other hand, the things I have chosen to do impact my life significantly. I chose to play the piano, I chose the friends I have, and I chose the classes I am in. Although we can't choose what life throws at us, we can choose how we react. So far, I am happy with the little choices I have made and as college approaches, I realize that too many choices can be stressful. Right now, as a sixteen year old, I have a lot of life-altering choices ahead of me. I am stressed about how many college and career choices I have to make.
As I am getting older, I am appreciating the fact that I didn't have to make so many choices before. Choices overwhelm me because I obsess over their outcomes.
46. What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?
I would definitely dress differently if nobody would judge me. The only reason I reluctantly scrunch my hair and dress somewhat casually for school is because I don’t want to look like a careless slob. Otherwise, I would definitely show up to school in baggy sweatpants and a sweatshirt.
Usually I start my blogs with an anecdote or some life lesson I learned to which connects to the topic of the question. However, because this week’s blog is a series of unrelated questions I’m just going to dive into each question.
ReplyDeleteHave you ever been with someone, said nothing, and walked away feeling like you just had the best conversation ever? I see this as one of the philosophical questions. Assuming that the only form of communication is speaking from each individual’s mouth, in literal terms it is impossible to have a conversation in which only one person talks throughout the beginning and end of the interaction. The definition of conversation(definition creds to google) is “the informal exchange of ideas by spoken words.” The most essential word in that definition is “exchange.” Both participants must contribute to such exchanging of ideas. Therefore, no, I have never been with someone, said nothing, and felt like it was the best conversation ever because, by definition, it is impossible.
What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you? If nobody judged me, including myself, I would do anything God asked of me. Whether it’s becoming best friends with the strangest person in school or singing an original in front of a congregation, I would have every part of my being working for him. That’s where I find my happiness. There is no love greater, strength greater, no father greater than mine. If no one judged me, I would use every bit of that blessing to honor God.
Would you break the law to save a loved one? Yes, yes, and yes. You’re probably thinking, “Well, if you’re such a Christian then why would you break the law.” The Bible does say obey the law of land, however, it also says that one should overrule any laws that go against God. God is love. In the end it still depends on what law it is I would be breaking. I could never kill someone, steal, or hurt another for the sake of my loved one. But if it were speeding I would do it in a heartbeat.
How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are? Since the feeling of maturity is relative, I would feel 19 years old. I am not yet a full, non-teenager, adult but I feel that I am a little more mature than high school. Also, I am very independent. Since I was young I never asked my parents for help with homework or friends or money. I always have to figure it out myself and I love to be out and about on my own. I am not ready for marrying age or a drinking age but I am ready to be on my own.
1. How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?
ReplyDeleteAppearance wise, to people I either look like I’m in college or I look like a middle schooler. But for this question I’m guessing it’s asking you how mentally old you think you are. I’m guessing I would be in my early twenties. I’ve always been independent and growing up, I took care of myself as well as my little sister and little brother. In my house, I help my dad with the bills and when he’s having trouble with them, he makes me call the company and fix the problem for him. I wouldn’t say I’m a full adult because I’m still confused on how to do things and if I tried living by myself, I’d probably end up crying after two weeks. I would say I’m in my early twenties because in your early twenties you start to become more independent but you’re still confused about everything in life. You kind of know some things but not fully, but just enough to get by. That’s pretty much me.
2. Which is worse, failing or never trying?
No one likes to fail which makes sense why people don’t try. They think that they’re just going to fail so the fear of failing stops them from trying. I admit that I think this sometimes. I get afraid that I’m wrong so I don’t say or do it. I always regret it when I do this though. You will never know that you’ll fail unless you try. There’s nothing to fear about failing. If anything, now that you know that you’re wrong you can then find the right answer and no longer question what the actual answer is.
17. What one thing have you not done that you really want to do? What’s holding you back?
I’ve really wished I took volleyball more serious my freshman and sophomore year. Senior year will probably be the last time I’ll get to competitively play volleyball. I don’t want to have regrets about this season. Every year since my freshman year, we came second in the CAL. We always lose to Absegami and it’s so frustrating. This year though, they’re losing a lot of senior varsity players. I just want to go to a gym and play volleyball. I want to work on my serves, my set, my everything. It seems like a lot and to some it seems weird why I would want to push myself so hard when volleyball season isn’t even close but I honestly love volleyball. Practice is fun for me and I could spend hours in a gym playing volleyball. I wish my freshman year I could have done East Coast Crush which is a traveling volleyball team. The coach on that team really wanted me to do it but my parents couldn’t afford. I was so upset about it that I cried. It’s too late for me now because I won’t ever play it in college so it’d be a waste of money.
1. “How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?” I would either be really young or really old. There is no in between, because usually a person who is of middle age already knows how old they are. Whereas, an infant, their brain, memory, motor skills, communication skills, etc. are just beginning to develop. Infants are unaware of several things, especially their age. All they do is sleep, eat, and rely on someone to cater to their every need. The same goes for older people. Older people usually reach a point in life, where they are only concerned with living another day. Also, most of our elders suffer from degenerative diseases such as: Dementia and Alzheimer's. Therefore, their age is the least thing they will ever worry about. I know this is a little of topic, but I have always wanted to be a child again. Why you may ask? Well, because now, as the years are piling onto my plate, I have slowly come to the realization that life really sucks as you inch closer and closer to adulthood. I want to revisit the times where the only thing I had to worry about was how I was going to carry my entire toy box from the house, to the car, to the grocery store, and back. I also wish that I could fast forward to the years, where I am finally retired, stress free, and living life as I please.
ReplyDelete2. “Which is worse, failing or never trying?”. Well if you would’ve asked the old Kayla Hamler (me two years ago), I would’ve said failing was worse. Let me tell you, when I failed a quiz or test, or when I lost a race, I thought it was the end of the world. I thought I was a FAILURE. But, what I failed to realize back then was that there was nothing wrong with failing. In fact, my failures in the past, molded me into the person I am today, and I kinda like me now. I feel as though, that I have accomplished a lot in the past two years. At least, more than I thought I would! But now, even though it may not seem like it, when I receive bad grades or lose a race, I just laugh it off. Of course, I care, but sometimes it is easier for me to laugh it off. Ya feel? No? Maybe it is just a Me and Taylor Van thing? But, honestly, I know deep down inside I’m not a failure, and I personally know whether or not I tried my hardest. Failing a small quiz every once in awhile won't necessarily hurt me. However, failing a class is a different story. I will get my ass beat, so that is not an option. Good lord people, I’m trying to take baby steps, I cannot fail everything in life just yet. Anyway, back to the question, which is worse, failing or never trying. Definitely not trying. I missed out on so many new opportunities, because I was so afraid of failing, and now I regret not going after them. Please do not be Kayla Hamler, and be too scared to explore what the world has to offer, simply because you afraid of being a failure.
3. “If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do?” Shiiiiiiit, don’t get me started. Hmm, I’ll tell you why I do so many things I don’t like. It is because I am FORCED to. Trust me if it was up to me I wouldn’t do half the shit that I do now. “I am a child and I must remain in a child’s place” according to my parents, teachers, and society. I must abide by all rules, respect my elders, go to school, yadda yadda ya. I am limited to what I can do, by my elders. I can’t do what I want until I’m 18, then my parents will be “out of my hair” (not in a mean way). But then I will have to deal with the government. The local and federal government limits me to what I can do in life. For example. I can’t go out past 11:00, because that is my curfew. I can’t drive without a licensed driver in the car. I have to get parental consent on pretty much everything. There is more, but I am not trying to go on a rant, because my blog is already a little lengthy, and I don’t want to “overkill it”. Personally, I take interest in the things that I can’t do, simply because of the fact that I can’t do them. There is some sort of urge that tags along with not having things go my way, or not being able to do what I want. At least that is how I feel. So with this being said, I have an urge to do what I am not allowed to, even more. I also, see other people doing what I wish to do, and then I sit there and fantasize about the day when I will finally be able to do whatever it is that I want to do.
Delete5. I agree with Bryan on this one. He almost pulled the words right out of my mouth. Here is a list of the few points he mentioned. “No more wealth inequality, No more environmental destruction, No more prejudice, and No more war.” We live in a society, where people thrive to be better than the person next to them. We also live in a society where people believe they are entitled to certain items, when in reality they are not. As Bryan mentioned, “[If we remove the sense of] aspiration from the human spirit”, we could potentially solve every human problem there is. Aspiration is the leading cause for inequality, war, corruption, and prejudices that lie within this world.
8. “If the average human lifespan was 40 years, how would you live your life differently?” I sure as hell wouldn’t be stressing over all these AP tests, SAT scores, and College. Shit, bump that, I have a life to live. Rather than learning to prepare for a test or multiple test, I will spend more time learning about things I want to learn about. I would spend more time learning things just to learn them, because I actually enjoy that, and If I had more time to “learn just to learn”, I would most definitely do it. I would also travel around the world, spend more quality time with my family, and make the best of the years I have remaining. I might even do some crazy s**t. #YOLO!!!!!
10. “Are you more worried about doing things right, or doing the right things?” Doing the right things, of course. Once you commit a bad act, it is usually hard to come back from. Doing things right? Well, yes that is still important, however, you can always try it again (maybe not always). Not everyone gets something right on the first try. At least, I know I don’t.
13. “Would you break the law to save a loved one?” I don’t know Bunj, after CJ ate my popeyes biscuit, I really don’t know where we stand anymore. In fact, I felt a little betrayed. I also don’t like the way Jenee cursed me out Monday morning, because I ate “her almonds”. I also don’t like how Cliff… Actually, he didn’t do anything bad to me lately. I think I’m feeling Cliff a little bit. Lol, I’m just kidding. Of course I would. That’s how the Hamler’s role. We love each other, and will do whatever is necessary to protect, and be there for each other. So not only would I break the law for one of those nuts, but I would also take a bullet for them.
Delete18. “What one thing have you not done that you really want to do? What’s holding you back?” I want to travel the world. That has been my dream since I was little. I love interacting with new people, exploring different cultures, and feeling stress free; all things that result in a bomb ass vacation/road trip/” I’m NEVER coming back bitches!!!” trip. What is holding me back? The fact that I’m only 16 and that I am broke. All I have is some lint in my pocket and about 30 pennies in my piggy bank, so it looks like I’ll be taking a trip, on my bike, around the corner, to WaWa and back. Don’t worry though, It will happen one day. Believe me, and when it does I am leaving just like this.
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23. “Have you been the kind of friend you want as a friend?”. HYFR (HELL YEA FUCKIN RIGHT). You betcha I am! I am not even gassing myself up right now. I am probably the most loyal, real, upfront, sweet, trustworthy, and reliable friend out there. You can ask any of my friends, except Taylor because she so exaggerative. On a serious note, people have noticed these aspects of me, and rather than appreciating it, they’ve abused and overused it. People have take advantage of me, but not anymore. I catch it early, and I have no problem calling whomever it is, out on it. I am not dumb, I am also not as gullible as I once was. I have no time for people’s bs and fakeness, which is why I associate with the same people. It is also why I remain to myself sometimes. It’s almost like I am my best friend sometimes, and I have no problem with that at all. I’ll mess around and treat my best friend (myself) out to dates, get him/her (really me) presents. Shoot, I’m a good ass friend. To my actual friends and myself.
34. “Have you ever been with someone, said nothing, and walked away feeling like you just had the best conversation ever?”. I know my friends are probably going to screenshot this and put it in the GT or on twitter, but I honestly don’t care. I experience this with Marquis almost every single day. In fact, I experienced this with him last year when we were bestfriends. I know it sounds weird, but if we make eye contact with each other, I can automatically visualize what he is thinking. Most of the time we are actually thinking the same thing. Sometimes, when we are walking, out of nowhere we will blurt the same thing out, or make the same faces. It has always been that way with us though, I just never knew how to explain that connection until now.
DAMN THESE QUESTIONS ARE SOME GOOD ONES. I’ve never been more excited to do a blog hahaha
ReplyDelete1. If I didn’t know I was 17 years old, I would be 12 or 22. I couldn’t decide which one to pick. I would be 12 because I’m a child. There are times where I need lots of assistance and attention. There are sooo many things I still need to learn before being independent. For example, I still don’t know how to read a map or listen to directions on the road. Also, I formed the habit of just winging it and never planning ahead. Sure I THINK ahead, like of scenarios and of events I want to do, but I never plan ahead. Never budget money or make big girl decisions about college and such. I don’t know how to pay bills or fix things. I am a child. I don’t ever want to grow up and I certainly don’t want to be alone in the real world. On the other hand, I feel as if I’m 22 because I’m at the stage of rebellion and having, nothing but a taste of, freedom once in awhile. As much as I don’t want to be alone in the real world, I want to spread my wings and get TF out of this place. I’m at the stage of wanting to be independent. I need to learn how to make mistakes and be okay with it. I like being baby-ed sometimes and I’m so used it, it’s no longer needed or healthy.
2. “Never let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game” - Babe Ruth. You should always try. Never trying is worse than failing. I love Babe Ruth’s quote but, unfortunately, I don’t follow it sometimes. I can name a handful of times where I backed out on an opportunity and regretted it. I can also name a handful of times where I had an iffy feeling on something that could’ve went either way, but did it anyways, failed, but I’m glad I tried. It’s better trying at something then finding out it wasn’t meant to be rather then never giving yourself the chance in the first place. When you don’t give yourself that chance then of course you’re gunna fail regardless. If that makes sense… I can never say what I’m thinking into words lol. “It's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”
3. We do things we don’t like because morals and our conscious tells us to. Like school. I’m pretty sure most of us don’t like school but we still go to it in order to see friends and favorite teachers. We don’t do things we like because, like I said, morals and our conscious tell us to. For example, drinking/smoking/partying/etc. Yeah it’s fun but deep down we know it’s wrong to do it. It doesn’t stop the most of us tbh and it was probably a bad example but you get my jist.
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Delete12. My advice I would tell the newborn is that when (s)he grows up, to not be afraid to cut the bullshit out of her life no matter where it’s coming from. If their “friends” are causing them pain and stress, then they should cut them out of their life so they can move forward instead of getting pulled back. I wish I was told this when I was younger. I had to deal with my friends bossing me around and walking all over me. Yet I never had the courage to tell them that they were annoying and that they needed to gtfo. Months later, my friends are back were we used to be, happy. Everything's resolved but don’t get me wrong… there was a time where I didn’t speak to her in months time. Those months were totally bittersweet. I’m so glad it happened though.
Delete26. I would rather lose all my old memories. If I wasn’t able to make new memories, I would be living in the past. That is unhealthy and I try my best keep shit in the past. Move forward. Make new friends. Make better decisions. Make new memories. Losing old memories suck, especially if the good ones were worth while. But, like I said, living in the past is unhealthy and not good. Have you ever watched the movie, “50 First Dates”? (Great movie btw, I recommend it) Lucy, the main character, has amnesia where she can’t make new memories. She wakes up everyday thinking that it’s Sunday and lives her day pretty normal. When she goes to sleep that night, she forgets all her new memories and thinks it’s Sunday all over again. Now, I try to put yourself in her shoes…. Do you think you would be able to have the same routine everyday and never able to create new memories? I know I wouldn’t.
34. Yes I’ve had silent conversations and felt it was the best one ever. I technically didn’t walk away because I was in a car when it happened haahaha. Anyways, I was in the front seat and Mariano was driving. It was the summer, windows were down, and the nice breeze was coming in so softly it was perfect. Moe was on his way to my house to drop me off and we were holding hands with nothing said. The radio was playing but besides that, silence. It wasn’t the awkward silence.. It was a comforting one. No words had to be said in order to know how much we both loved each other. I arrived home never wanting to leave the car. It was the best ending to a date ever.
46. I WOULD SING MY HEART OUT!!! AND DANCE!!! AND PUBLIC SPEAK!!! AND SAY LOUD & PROUD MY OPINION!!!
#2. “Which is worse, failing or never trying?”
ReplyDeleteLife consists of failures and that’s ok. But never attempting to try something is worse in which you’ll never know the outcome, good or bad, which only leads to regret and an a missed opportunity. You'll never know what you're capable of unless you try. If you fail while trying, then learn from your mistakes and get better in the future.
#3. “If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don't do?”
This question leads to so many possible conclusions. Maybe it is just that doing what you want to do is hard. And then you start to think about it, and you start talking yourself out of it. Or people could just be lazy or feel that the things we do is a necessity for survival. Some may even come across a trend that they tag as the next big thing to be done to be successful. Money could also be a big factor in keeping us from doing what we like to do. Or it could even be the fear of doing it because of the outcome or the judgment you might get out of doing it. These could be reasons depending on how we each think of it.
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#10. “Are you more worried about doing things right, or doing the right things?”
It is always better to do the right thing. The intention is the what matters whether you do something right or not, as long as you tried your best. It is better to do the right thing and not get it right, than to do the wrong thing perfectly. We learn from our failures and move on to do better.
#5. “What is the one thing you’d most like to change about the world?”
Sometimes, I catch myself judging others. That being said, I wouldn’t just like, I would love to get rid of the act of judging and bullying others. This would make the world a better place where everyone could just accept one another, letting each others be who they are.
#46. “What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?”
The only thing I would do is open myself up more to people. I’d feel more myself knowing that they accept me the way I am. I would reach out to more people and make a lot more friends by just letting people in. I’m friendly and I like to meet new people, but a lot of the times I hesitate and close myself off from people because I’m afraid of judgment.
#36. “Is it possible to know, without a doubt, what is good and what is evil?”
Yes it’s possible but we all have our own different views on good and evil. So, then the answer is uncertain for anyone to agree on the same terms of both good and evil. For example, some could say her friend was being truthful and then another says she was being bitchy.
34. Have you ever been with someone, said nothing, and walked away feeling like you just had the best conversation ever?
ReplyDeleteYes yes yes yes. I absolutely love this question because it’s so cute when you look at it from the standpoint of love. It is the best feeling in the world. Just being given the opportunity to just sit with a special person and not have to open your mouth. You can just sit there in each other’s silences and it is like you are having a full on conversation. When I am in this boy’s arms it’s like heaven. We really can just sit and not talk in each other’s arms and it’s like words are spilling out of each other’s mouths. It is just a such a perfect experience.
1. How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?
I would choose to be in my late 20s. Out of college and married. I want to skip high school and bad experiences and pain and the stresses of growing up. I would just skip it all and go to right where life really matters.
3. If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do?
This question really makes me think. Like why waste time doing something we do not want to do? I think people do something and they just feel kind of forced to keep doing it if they are good at it. Like soccer I love it when I’m not playing. Like off season I miss it, in season I have mixed feelings. But I’ve played since I was three so it would be a waste to stop now after spending all my time playing. I feel like we like the things we don’t do simply because we’ve never done them. We really do not know anything until you try it.
26. Would you rather lose all of your old memories, or never be able to make new ones?
Memories are such a precious and sacred part of your mind. Making this such a difficult question to answer. I would say though, I would rather lose all my old memories. Yes, I have some amazing memories but I have only been in this world for 17 years. So looking at this logically something I never do, I have so many more years left in this world for new memories. I would make more memories in the rest of my life than the ones that exist now. However, memories are like pieces of you. When you take away a piece of something it changes. So the downside is I would probably change. My personality, the way I view things, everything would change due to the loss of memories. But living the same day over and over, never being able to live your life and create new memories just sounds like hell to me. For example, the movie 50 First Dates, I would hate to go through that every day.
46. What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?
Honestly I would do so many things differently if no one judged me. I am the kind of person who worries about what other people think, but then sometimes I’m not. I don’t know I’m weird sometimes I really care, sometimes I don’t. I think I would talk more in school or like social situations if I wasn’t judged. As you know, people like to make fun of me sadly but it’s fine I am just an easy target. So because of that I hold back on a lot of things I say or do so if that did not happen I probably would talk more in school and other situations. I also would dance if no one judged me because I cannot dance for my life lol.
17. What one thing have you not done that you really want to do? What’s holding you back?
ReplyDeleteSinging. Singing. Singing. Singing. Was going to write that three times but realized that’s an odd number haha. But yeah singing. Gosh I really love it so much. It takes place of soccer, it takes place over everything. My entire life I’ve wanted to try out for a singing show but fear and insecurity just overtakes me. But what some people would see as insecurity, some of it is, to me it is just blunt facts. Look at all the singers in this world and on these shows. They are so so so so amazing. They surpass me in every way. Looks, dancing, stage presence, voice. They are so damn good and it sucks. Yes I know I am good, I know I can sing but when you compare it to all these other talents singers it just is overwhelming and causes me to hold back.
18. Are you holding onto something you need to let go of?
Ugh. Yes. I’m not holding onto a boy or anything ew hell no I have the most perfect boy in the world right now. NO. I am holding on to more of an idea. I am holding onto an idea that people are going to leave. That this beyond perfect boy I am so in love with will leave. I need to let go of that thought because it is irrational but it’s a fear. I cannot help it. But I want to let go of it and I need to.
5. What is the one thing you’d most like to change about the world?
The world contains so many wrong and horrific things in it. But the one thing I am very adamant about is the stigma of mental illness. I want that erased, gone. I want the way the world views people with depression, ocd, schizophrenia, bipolar changed. I want people to stop saying “oh I have ocd yeah I don’t like lines that aren’t straight.” That doesn’t mean you have ocd like trust me. That is my pet peeve. Also when people say they are bipolar. No you are not like just because you were sad then happy you aren’t bipolar. The actual bipolar illness is extremely serious and there is so much more to it. I just want that stigma gone. How people call people in mental hospitals crazy. They aren’t crazy they just need some extra help. I wish the world do not view the mentally ill in such ways and I would change it in a second if I could.
Delete2. Which is worse, failing or never trying?
This is a very tricky question for me. Simply because failure terrifies me, but trying new things is petrifying. I eat the same things and do the same things every day, I do try new things. I make sure I don’t put myself into situations where I can fail, besides tests I’m just immune to failing tests in every subject. But if I really am answering this question, I feel like failing just feels worse and people who don’t try are the ones afraid of failure. So those people, aka me, don’t try because they are terrified of the end result. So failing might feel awful, but never trying is even worse because if you do not try how can you even succeed?
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ReplyDelete1. How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?
ReplyDelete- If I didn't know how old I was, I would say that I am in my early-mid 20s. I feel like I am not quite an adult, but I'm not quite as innocent as one would say a 17 year old is. I've experienced too many things that a 12-14 year old should never have to experience and I think this shaped who I am today. I was a good child up front, but behind closed doors, I was absolutely out of my mind. I did ridiculous things just because. But, if I told anyone this, they wouldn't believe me because I keep those things to myself because I'm not proud of them. All of those things eventually "aged" me more and more and now at 17, as a much smarter person, I feel older than I should.
9. To what degree have you actually controlled the course your life has taken?
- I think I have not had complete control of the course that my life has taken. I believe I choose what direction I move in, whether forwards or backwards, but many outside forces have had an impact on it. I believe I am who I am today because of people I met that either affected me negatively or positively. There are two very different people that have come into my life. One person came and, unfortunately, treated me wrongly. I look back at this and still have some anger boiling inside, but most of that anger has subsided. Although this person was terrible, they are the reason that the wonderful person came into my life. Although I wish people didn't affect my life so much, they do. I may not have total control, but I try to control as much as I can.
12. If you could offer a newborn child only one piece of advice, what would it be?
- I look at Annabelle, our foster baby, and think about what she's going to be like when she's my age. If I could give her one piece of advice, I'd tell her to not let anyone step on your creativity. As we get older, we're affected by many different things that make us lose our innocence. I believe innocence is something that should stay with us, even if it is just a small amount. By the time we're 30, I think we have lost most, if not all, of our innocence and that's unfortunate. Hold on to your childhood as long as you can.
34. Have you ever been with someone, said nothing, and walked away feeling like you just had the best conversation ever?
- This is every "deep" thing that Bunje has talked about in class. I love the days that Bunje just talks to us about things that matter. It is not uncommon for me to "feel some type of way" (as Bunje would say) about something that she talks about. I will never forget the day that she gave us all a notecard and told us to write down the thing that we want to change about ourselves. It was an emotional class period for me. I was tearing up and I think everyone in class could tell, but I didn't care. I don't have to say anything in these moments to know that these are the things that I will miss when I have to leave Bunje at the end of this year and eventually at the end of my senior year.
41. If you knew that everyone you know was going to die tomorrow, who would you visit today?
- If I knew everyone was going to die tomorrow, I would visit my boyfriend today. He lives very far and we often fantasize about that moment that we see each other, but of course there are restrictions that hold us back. For example, money, the obvious one. He was my best friend long before he was my boyfriend and he has had a huge impact on my life and one day we will be able to see each other.
1. Based on the way act, behave and think, I would believe that I was nineteen, possibly a little bit older. I’m more mature, serious and realistic about life and the events that take place. I handle them well. My sense of humor is complex and somewhat polished compared to most of my peers. Sure, I can make a SMALL joke about DICKS or refer to a “Worldstar” video but that’s just the side of me that wants to stay a kid. The same side that wants to stay relevant and up to date in social interactions.
ReplyDelete2. Never trying. I have a short list of regrets in my life, most of which are about NEVER TRYING. The short disappointment of failure can never outweigh the burden of realizing that “You could have tried your best.” Outcomes could have been different. Better. Failing has a way of helping someone learn from their mistake, whatever it may be. Never trying, however, stays with a person forever and there is no benefit from not trying.
3. Exposure. Simple as that. When people see the “amazing things” that other people do, they start to want them. Moreover, whatever it is they do that they don’t like, was most likely something that they thought was an “amazing thing,” once before but it became too boring; trite. People start to not appreciate what they have and start yearning for what they don’t.
8. I wouldn’t try to become a doctor or even attempt to obtain a high paying job; both of which typically require the first 28 years of someone’s life to be about studying and getting a degree. That would only leave me with twelve years to live. I don’t want that. I don’t want to try and cram everything I wanted to do and experience in just twelve years. I wouldn’t have time to fully appreciate each moment because I would be contemplating about what came next… I would settle for a decent job, maybe work after high school. Make money to live and possibly support a family. We wouldn’t have the nicest things but we’d get by just fine. I would, maybe, get to spend twenty years with my family. What more could a man want with such a small life span? A decent job, wife, and a family.
10. Screw doing things right. I’ve mastered the art of making mistakes and it’s beautiful. Not only does it help me grow as a person, but not worrying about being right would most likely lead to fun and memorable moments. Thus, I always prefer to try to do the right thing. As many people know, I value a lot of simple things in life to such a high degree, like quality time. In this instance, it is the simple philosophy— which I treat as a sort of motto or life purpose—of being a good overall person. A universal person. One who is open-minded, able to do many things, tactfully knows how to interact with people, treats them well, etc.
12. Don’t be a hopeless romantic like me.
13. HELL YES. Laws don’t truly dictate and resemble what is right and what is wrong. It depends on what the person believes is right and whether or not they can live with the consequences.
18. OG. (Requires context and is for people that know.)
26. Losing all of my old memories because what is the point of living if I can’t make new ones?
34. Every time I start to like a girl and we have, what I always think of as, “moments.” Or, “That Moment.”
41. A HYPNOTIST. THAT WAY I COULD ASK HIM TO ERASE MY MEMORY SO THAT “EVERYONE I KNEW” WOULD BE ALIVE!!
I don't know where to start with these questions because there's quite a bit which is overwhelming so I am going to start with number one. If I did not know my current age, which is 16, and I had to put an age on myself I would say mid to late 20's. Now maybe that is because honestly that's where I wish I was in my life right now. But I think I relate to that age a little more. A lot of my friends that I hang out with are older, and by older I mean 22 to 24. But when one is in their mid to late 20's they are mature, they have experienced many things in life so they have learned some valuable lessons but at the same time they are still young. At that age there is still so much learning to do. It is the time a person is trying to figure out how exactly to make life work. They might have a job and a house but need to figure out relationship and family stuff. Or they may have a house but they need to figure out how to dive into their chosen career. I just feel that a person in there 20's is at that age of wanting to grow up and finally trying to. They are mature enough to say okay I need to pull myself together now and they try to make it happen. So maybe I don't know if that's the age I would give myself or the age I just actually wish I was. And off topic a little if we are going off appearance and I didn't know my current age I would still think I was sixteen. Me currently there's nothing to exciting I don't look younger than 16 but I sure as heck don't look any older.
ReplyDeleteNumber 3: I just want to give you a very short answer to this one but it would make me seem bitter so I will expand. I do not think life is supposed to be spent doing things we want to do or doing things we like to do. Life in my weird strange biblical understating of it isn't supposed to be spent all happy and jolly. Although I'm pretty sure my interpretation and my churches are completely different... I think my life is supposed to be spent living for others. I may not always like putting others first but I just think that's what I'm supposed to do. For example, something as simple as running for secretary for class. Sure, I would like to run but I do not want to take from someone else. I do have enough in life so the right thing for me to do would be to give it to whoever may want it for they may just want it more, and say by chance they don't want it more but they still want it maybe I just made their day a little easier knowing they don't have to worry about coming up with a speech because someone else is running against them. I kind of look at it this way if I die and go to Heaven then it was all worth it. I helped others and along the way maybe they learned to help others too and maybe say they didn't, hopefully then at least I can say I tried or I made an attempt to impact them in some way, shape or form. Anyway life is short and I think some people were put on this Earth to do things they don't like to do and they don't want to do simply because others need them on this Earth to help them. I hope I can work on being a little less selfish to be one of those people one day because I don't think I'm here to be happy all the time I think I'm here to try my best to make others happy.
Number 5: If I could change one thing about the world it would have to do with people's perceptions of others. Lately that has been where my mind has been a lot lately and I'm sorry for you may see such evidence of that throughout this whole entire blog. But I would make sure to change the way people view each other. Or at least change the invisible scale everyone judges each other off of. To often people are so quick to judge. Judging is done on so many different scales. We judge how hard someone is working, or how successful a person is, how good their career is, how nice their clothes are, how athletic they are, how pretty, and this list goes on for so long. That sucks why is judging so okay in today's society. Change needs to happen in that field. Once we see change their I think it will make change easier to happen elsewhere.
DeleteNumber 9: Man is this question quite humorous just due to the current life situation I have found myself stuck in. I can probably right you a book on this question alone. I have no control over my life it feels like right now. In reality yeah, sure, I have control over my life. I could just pull all of my crap together and tell my self to grow up and be healthy and get myself back in school but I just don't think it's that easy. I am trying so hard to have control of the course of my life right now, but I just can not seem to grasp the concept of how to do so. I am stubborn. Too stubborn.
Number 10: I am more focused on doing the right thing, rather than doing things right. If I do the right thing and I mess up atleast people know I had the right idea in mind. I was trying to do the right thing. Whereas if I do the wrong thing and I do it right, does that even matter? I mean I would have done the wrong thing so who in reality even cares if it was done right, it is pointless. Let us think homework for say. This example would be more relevant in a math class. So the teacher assigns page 128 questions 2 to let's say 30. I do page 28 questions 2 to 30 because I was barely paying attention when she assigned the homework but I do them all correctly. Who cares? Now when the teacher goes over the homework not only can I not participate because my answers are wrong but I do not even have the correct problems written down to try them then and there as she is going over them. Whereas if I did the correct page and the correct problems wrote out all my work and tried yet got them all wrong I still can listen and explain how I got what I got and even get help without being completely clueless to what we are even doing. So doing the right thing trumps doing things right.
Number 12: The one piece of advice I would offer to a newborn child would be not to let others opinion and judgements get to you. Once you do so it is a downward spiral from there. I would want this little newborn bundle of pure innocence to understand that the way they perceive themselves is very important. But to also understand that they shouldn't be too hard on themselves. Because well, we are our own worst critics.
Number 18: Well good golly that's personal. The only thing that pops into my head though that I am holding onto is all the lies I am telling to myself. I need let go of my stubbornness and accept the fact that the right thing is always the hardest thing to do and yes it sucks I mean why wouldn't it it's the hardest thing to do but it needs to be done.
Number 23: I absolutely do not think I have been the kind of friend I want as a friend. I mean my friends are amazing. And my friendships are great but I think they are lacking on my half. I often talk wayyy to much and I always need to talk about something, I am a little too open about my problems, I think I might be clingy, I gossip a lot without noticing I am doing it which I find unfathomably annoying when others due so therefore I deeply apologize to whoever I may do that to, and the list goes on. So um no I am not being a friend that a friend would want.
DeleteNumber 34: Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes! (To the question "Have you ever been with someone, said nothing, and walked away feeling like you just had the best conversation ever?") I think I might just be crazy but yes. When this happens, not often at all, I get that sort of butterfly in stomach feeling, it's like one of those sun stand still moments like did that really happen. It makes me all jittery and I act like a second grader. It's just something very cute that happens in the eye contact mixed with a sense of security and comfortableness with the person you had that moment with. I absolutely adore when this happens and it's such a treasurable moment.
Number 36: Yes and no on the is it possible to know, without a doubt, what is good and what is evil. I say yes and no because not everything is so clear cut. Weird example but think murder. Automatically one would say evil, right? Murder is to be considered an evil action. But yes and no. If a man murders an elderly women in the process of robbing her house he is evil, no question about it. But, if a young girl shoots a man who just killed her sibling and was trying to kidnap her I don't really see that act of murder as evil. I see it as an act of self defense in her case there may have been no other way out of the situation. Now let us look at what is considered "good". Here's a real simple one- to me going to be at 10 is good that's early enough on a school night in my book that is a success. To a mom of two preschoolers 10 is not a good bedtime at all she puts her kids down at 8:30 to her 8:30 is good, to me an unreasonable procrastinating teen that's just not a time that would ever work no matter how hard I tried that in my eyes it's bad.
Number 46: I again could write you a book with this question. If judgments were non existent honestly my entire life would be different. First of all I hate straightening my hair. I mean I do not like the way it looks curly but I hate taking all that time to straighten it. So if I did not have to worry about others hating it too I would just leave it curly all the time. Second I am never comfy! I just don't know what it is but I am never comfortable. If others wouldn't judge me I would be in fuzzy pajamas pants every day, cause I'm like always cold, and I would wear high socks and sweaters. That outfit sounds horrendous but who would care. Also I would listen to my music out loud, I always feel like I will be judged on my music since I listen to like Noah Gundersen and Bon Iver( since no one knows who they are that says a little something). There's so many things I would like to change, so many, but judgments do exist so..
1. How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are? (I love this one!)
ReplyDeleteThere are so many ways I can go about this. I can find out my age by asking someone who knows me if it is the case of Alzheimer’s Disease, or simply by looking at my birth certificate. Statistically speaking, I would most likely be 0 because humans with age less than 1 make up more of the Earth than any other age (which is about 2%). Another reason why I would most likely be an infant or a toddler is because infants and toddlers are incapable of knowing how old they are because they are ignorant of the concept of age (of course there will be exceptions). It is hard to be any other age besides something really low or really high because age is not an esoteric concept, and, therefore, most, if not all, people would be aware of their age.
2. Which is worse, failing or never trying?
Albert Einstein once said, “A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new”. According to me, Albert Einstein, and many other people, never trying is worse. Never trying eliminates one’s chance of succeeding, even if it is a low chance. Failing is often, but not always, due to mistakes. However, it is a good thing if you make a mistake because then you get to find out what went wrong and fix it for future purposes. Making mistakes again and again, and failing again and again will eventually lead to success. On the other hand, the person who never tried anything will have no knowledge of whether he can do it or not until he/she does it. Never trying would not lead to new things, and, therefore, the society won’t advance. In the past, if astronomers and astrophysicists never tried new things, we wouldn’t know anything about the space and what lies beyond our solar system. If authors never tried starting or finishing a book, we wouldn’t have great books by them. If chemists never tried new and different experiments, we wouldn’t have much knowledge about properties of different elements and even the existence of some elements. It is getting so long. You get the idea.
9. To what degree have you actually controlled the course your life has taken?
DeleteI have 1.62 x 10^-35% control on my life. To be honest, ever since I grew up, I have been told to “do the right thing” and be a morally good person (not that I wanted to be bad). I always had to follow my parents’ and grandparents’ rules and had to be an epitome of a best son in their eyes. My parents nitpick a lot about how I study so I often have to adjust my lifestyle because of even the tiniest things that my parents don’t like (for example, my wallpaper of Star Wars for my computer; it irritated my dad every time he looked at it and thought that it will distract me from learning and studying even though i rarely looked at it since I always had Google Chrome open on top of it. I had to change it to something “inspiring and educational” like the symbol of NASA). My parents are used to the traditional thinking that learning can ONLY be obtained from books. My dad always tells me that computers, pictures, videos, etc. is not the way to learn. Because I am a son of strict Asians, I am not supposed to, and I don’t, talk against my parents or be angry at them. All I can do is do whatever they tell me to do. Otherwise, I would have to listen to their 1 hour lectures every day instead of once a month.
17. What one thing have you not done that you really want to do? What’s holding you back?
One thing that I have not done that I really want to do is time travel, especially to go back in time to punch Trump in his face really hard because he deserves it. I would punch him in past and not in the present because then it would be easy to track my identity and it would be hard for me to go near him in first place. With time traveling machine, I can go anywhere in time and place without anyone knowing who I actually am. While there, I would also give him advice to not run for presidency. When I come back, Trump should not be in the presidential race due to butterfly effect if he followed my instructions. If he didn’t, I would go back in time again (I know it is bad to mess with time but it is worth it for Trump) and make him understand until he finally agrees. Oh and I will also tell him to go back to his ancestral name Drumpf by telling him that it turns out to be more successful than Trump. There are lot of things holding me back however. I am not capable of building a time machine. In fact, no one currently in the world is capable of making a time machine because the concept of it is too complicated (I will not go into it). Even if I found a time machine from somewhere, it would be really hard to pinpoint the time and place accurately with it. I would also need to know where and when Donald Trump was alone in the past. Even if all the aforementioned things go perfectly, my morals, about which I talked about in #9, would hold me back from committing such a crime.
9. To what degree have you actually controlled the course your life has taken?
DeleteI have 1.62 x 10^-35% control on my life. To be honest, ever since I grew up, I have been told to “do the right thing” and be a morally good person (not that I wanted to be bad). I always had to follow my parents’ and grandparents’ rules and had to be an epitome of a best son in their eyes. My parents nitpick a lot about how I study so I often have to adjust my lifestyle because of even the tiniest things that my parents don’t like (for example, my wallpaper of Star Wars for my computer; it irritated my dad every time he looked at it and thought that it will distract me from learning and studying even though i rarely looked at it since I always had Google Chrome open on top of it. I had to change it to something “inspiring and educational” like the symbol of NASA). My parents are used to the traditional thinking that learning can ONLY be obtained from books. My dad always tells me that computers, pictures, videos, etc. is not the way to learn. Because I am a son of strict Asians, I am not supposed to, and I don’t, talk against my parents or be angry at them. All I can do is do whatever they tell me to do. Otherwise, I would have to listen to their 1 hour lectures every day instead of once a month.
17. What one thing have you not done that you really want to do? What’s holding you back?
One thing that I have not done that I really want to do is time travel, especially to go back in time to punch Trump in his face really hard because he deserves it. I would punch him in past and not in the present because then it would be easy to track my identity and it would be hard for me to go near him in first place. With time traveling machine, I can go anywhere in time and place without anyone knowing who I actually am. While there, I would also give him advice to not run for presidency. When I come back, Trump should not be in the presidential race due to butterfly effect if he followed my instructions. If he didn’t, I would go back in time again (I know it is bad to mess with time but it is worth it for Trump) and make him understand until he finally agrees. Oh and I will also tell him to go back to his ancestral name Drumpf by telling him that it turns out to be more successful than Trump. There are lot of things holding me back however. I am not capable of building a time machine. In fact, no one currently in the world is capable of making a time machine because the concept of it is too complicated (I will not go into it). Even if I found a time machine from somewhere, it would be really hard to pinpoint the time and place accurately with it. I would also need to know where and when Donald Trump was alone in the past. Even if all the aforementioned things go perfectly, my morals, about which I talked about in #9, would hold me back from committing such a crime.
Questions 18, 34, and 41 all involve the same person. I don’t exactly need or want to say HIS name but we all know who im talking about…
ReplyDelete12. If I could offer a newborn child only one piece of advice (assuming they are capable of understanding me at the tender age of zero) I would tell them to cherish everyone in their life, always. I feel very strongly about this considering all that myself and everyone in this town has been through with the recent events happening. Everyday we take the people in our lives for granted thinking that they are going to be around forever when that is just very untrue, sadly.
26. This question put me in my feels. But after a lot of thinking and picture scanning I decided that I would rather lose all of my old memories. I thought that since I am only 16 and have already made so many amazing memories then I am going to do even more incredible things as I grow older and I know those new memories and adventures are going to trump any of the memories I have grown to love. Although I am obsessed with reminiscing I figured that if I lost all of my old memories I may be able to imagine what they could've been like and felt like because I write all of my favorite memories down and I take pictures of my adventures and the people I choose to spend them with. I also have many "memory boxes" so, although I may not be able to remember actually being a part of the memories I will be able to read and visualize them.
18. Am I holding onto something I shouldn’t be. Hell freaking yeah. Im also holding onto someone I shouldn’t be. I have the hardest time letting go and it is incredibly unhealthy for me and it affects my family, my friends, and my education. I feel everything so deeply and the fact that I am holding onto someone and something is just no good for me in anyway. Its sick that I know for a fact these things are bad for me and I cant move on from them, I don’t know whats wrong with me. I am holding onto my favorite person that I love dearly that has an indescribable hate for me. Why? I wish I knew. I am also holding onto the idea that the people that are currently in my life will always be there though I know that is not true, which is a sad thing to have to admit. I cant let people go, I just cant.
34. I used to feel like this all the time with… yaknow. I enjoyed our comfortable silence so much. Sometimes saying no words was the best way for us to converse. We spoke with our eyes and body language and I think its amazing to be able to have a connection with someone in that way.
34 cont. By just looking into his eyes I knew how he was feeling or what he wanted to say when he couldn’t formulate the right words and those were my favorite conversations.
ReplyDelete41. I feel bad for not answering this question with "my mom" or "Dave" but I feel as though they already know all they need to know about how I feel about them and what they mean to me so there's no need to express it to them again because we already understand each other to know everything. So, with that being said I would visit (yaknow) because I don’t like leaving things off on a bad know and I wouldn’t want him to pass away only remembering the bad times we had and the times we fought. I wouldn’t try and fix things necessarily because when I do that I make things worse but instead (assuming he'd actually go with me) I would go with him to a place or places that hold meaning to us and I would simply tell him thank you. Thank you for the memories and the heart ache and the amazing adventures he helped me experience because without him I wouldn’t be the person I am today in any way. I would want him to know all the things I was always too choked up to say so that when he passed away he would know that he did impact someone's life for the better and that he could definitely be able to say that all the motivational talks and late night adventures did help someone when they were in a really bad spot in life. I would visit him in hopes that I could help him finally understand that he is important and that people do appreciate him.
How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?
ReplyDeleteAt first glance, I probably look like I’m twelve years old. I’ve been told many times that I look young for my age because unfortunately, I was cursed with a baby face. This means I can’t grow facial hair without looking weird. Plus, my height doesn’t help. However, having a baby face is also a blessing in my opinion. When I’m 40, I’m going to like I’m still in my 30’s. I’m going to be like Leonardo Dicaprio --that guy never ages. On the other hand, when it comes to how old I act, I would say that I act the same age. I believe I act like a teenager. I’m mature, but then I can be really immature within seconds. I think I’m wise, but then I’ll realize I still have much to learn. I know when to be serious, but then I’ll end up laughing at inappropriate things. I act like I want to be independent, but I probably can’t fend for myself. I’m mature, but I’m not mature enough to be acting an age older than I am now.
2. Which is worse, failing or never trying?
Never trying is definitely worse than failing. After most of my failures, I could at least say that I tried. Of course, I feel bad about failing, but I eventually learn from it and move on. However, with never trying, my only feeling is regret. Regret is one of the worst feelings ever. The feeling of regretting not doing something will leave you wondering what could’ve happen if you did.
5. What is the one thing you’d most like to change about the world?
I would change the way money impacts people’s lives. Somehow and someway, everything is connected to money. The world revolves around money and we rely on it too much because that’s the only way to make a life in this world. The moment we step into school we’re being programmed to focus on making money. I feel as if education is a business and it’s not about the pursuit of knowledge. Plus, everybody knows money makes one greedy. This leads to people scamming other people and not helping others because they run the risk of losing their wealth.
12. If you could offer a newborn child only one piece of advice, what would it be?
“Stay gold, Ponyboy. Stay gold…”
17. What one thing have not done that you really want to do? What’s holding you back?
Many people know I just want to drop all my possessions and travel across the country with nothing but a dollar to my name. F the system. I don’t want to be a part of it. Supertrampin is my dream. I want to see everything this planet has to offer without being limited to rules set up by the g-men. But seriously, I want to travel in a van with a mattress in the back. I want to go hiking and see everything mother nature has made. Of course, the thing that’s holding me back is money. Because we all know the world runs on money.
36. Is it possible to know, without a doubt, what is good and what is evil?
No. Everybody has different perspectives. Therefore, it will be impossible to officially label something as “good” and “evil” because someone out there will always think otherwise. It’s an opinion to say something or someone is evil. We believe terrorists are evil, but in a terrorist’s eyes we Americans are probably the bad ones.
46. What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?
I would wear my Birkenstocks. They’re these nice sandals I got in the Philippines that would cost about $120 in America. I wore them everyday while I was there. They hurt the first few days you put them on because they mold to your feet and it eventually becomes really comfortable --and they last for life. BUT, I would not wear them to Oakcrest because they’re basically the Jesus sandals that everybody puts on twitter. I really f with it though. But I’m not trynna get roasted.
Questions? This may be difficult, or easy, idk. It all depends on the question, now, I have not read the questions yet, lets hope these are really as thought provoking as everybody is gassing him up to be, so I can have some fun with them.
ReplyDeleteIf I did not know how old I was, I would be the same age. I don’t think I act any older or any younger than I am. I have my moments when I act like a little ass boy and then others where I act more mature than the age that I am. I’ve been told by people and websites that I look older than what I am, but really I’m just a 16 year old. Don’t get it twisted though, I’m still a grown ass man.
There are 2 ways to look at and answer this question. What's the better short term option and what's the better long term option. Clearly between the two the long term option is going to be the better choice, but I will explain both. Short term, you do not get the sense of rejection. For people like myself, rejection is a greatest fear, rejection can be and is devastating. Failure the same. To spend great lengths of time or even a little of time just to fail, can be a horrible feeling that is sometimes better not to go through. On the other hand, the reward outweighs the risk. You gotta risk it for the biscuit. THe final product will be worth the hard work put in to achieve the goal. Even if you come up short, with every step of the way a lesson will be learned, or with every mistake you learn something not to do, or if the whole thing is a screw up, you learn to not do anything the same.
Annoying, boring things, are necessity, not a choice. School? I love it. I love the environment, I love being around all the people I feel comfortable with, I love socializing with all my friends and overall school is just great for me. I don’t have the luxury of having friends that will hang out with me outside of school or even very many people who associate themselves with me outside of school, so school is the place to be. But the learning part, that is boring for the most part, especially when the teachers piss me off. For example, Ms. Kemenosh is teaching spanish to english speaking kids and is not very good at english. Or spanish at that. Like what? She checks to see if her spanish is right with a girl in our class that speaks spanish. She makes errors when she translates stuff to english and has the nerve to try to correct my paper I’m writing in English. Ms. Kemenosh, we don’t have beef, but you really piss me off. And Hearn, I really enjoy learning about history, but we don’t learn in that class. It’s movies and busy work all the time. Let me stop talking shit. What I’m trying to get at is to enjoy life, there are these boring, pestering things that you don’t like or enjoy, but these are necessary to do the things you enjoy. There are kids who would like to play football their whole life without stepping foot in a high school or college campus, but that’s just not how the world works, the boring is a necessity to enjoy life.
There’s too much negativity in the world. I’d like to just pick the negativity up and throw it somewhere else, but unfortunately, negativity is not a physical thing, and it’s definitely not that easy to get rid of. My mans Logic (a rapper if you don’t know) is always preaching “Peace, Love, and Positivity.” If the world had those 3 things it’d be a better place.
DeleteNow that i think about it, I really haven’t controlled my life very much. Everything I’ve been through, I haven’t really had much say in, and there really isn't anything I could have done to change it. The only thing I’ve done myself is change myself, as a person. I was at a very bad point in seventh grade. Just kinda miserable, didn’t really have real friends, as you can see from pictures I was physically at a low point as well. Eighth grade was pretty good, came out of my shell a bit and made some good relationships some I still keep until this day, I was up. Freshman year was alright, and I’ve been going up since then. This is because of choices I made to better myself. I’m pretty sure I’ve talked about this in multiple blogs before so I’m not gonna go through this again. But yeah now I’m here.
If I had to give a newborn some advice, it’s be DO NOT BE AFRAID OF ANYTHING. Now by this, I do not mean don’t be scared of lions or ghosts. I mean don’t be scared to go and make some friends. Don’t be afraid to go get involved in a new sport or activity. You can’t live life sheltered, it’s not enjoyable. I’ve been alone and sheltered, and together and involved, there’s a clear winner. There’s so much more to life when you just try to make the most out of it.
I’m not sure if this is something that you’re looking for, or if this is really a valid answer to this question, but the one thing I have not done is have a serious relationship. The one thing that’s holding me back from doing this, idk? Things just don’t work out. I get curved, every time. I mean, there’s not really anything I can do I don’t think. It just doesn’t happen.
If I knew I was going to die tomorrow, I would visit, well everyone today. I would take my father's truck, even though i don’t have my license and my permit was stolen because I forgot my pants on the floor of an Oakcrest locker room, and visit everyone who's making a positive impact on my life. My closest friends, my best teachers and coaches, my mother, grandmother, and anyone else that I think of and thank them. Just give them a thank you for helping me enjoy my life.
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