This is something sacred to me. I don't feel that way often, but about this, I do. This, to me, is one of the most important things I will ask of you. To me, this is the key to your success, and you all know that is always my primary goal.
I keep meaning to explain this to you in a very conversational way, but somehow there never seems to be enough time to be able to really just "talk" to you. So, in an effort to make better use of "time," I have relied on the wonders of Wikipedia to be able to explain the 7-point Creed, which is the integral foundation of this week's blog question.
Without further ado--
John Wooden's Seven Point Creed,[1] given to him by his father Joshua upon his graduation from grammar school:
* Be true to yourself.
* Make each day your masterpiece.
* Help others.
* Drink deeply from good books, especially the Bible.
* Make friendship a fine art.
* Build a shelter against a rainy day.
* Pray for guidance and give thanks for your blessings every day.
If you don't know who John Wooden is, LOOK HIM UP HERE--his story is quite remarkable. As a coach, I deeply admired him and the things he has accomplished. As a human being, he is amazing in every sense of the word and one of the few people I can honestly say I aspire to emulate. As you know, I don't say that about very many people.
In any case, your task for this week is to come up with your own 7-Point Creed and share it here. I know that I am asking a lot of you. I know that this is not something you can do in two-three days. And this is why I am extending the deadline until FRIDAY night (the 20th). You will really need to put a lot of thought into this.
Ask yourself these questions to help you along:
What do I value?
What are my morals?
How do I want to be perceived by others?
What do I want my legacy to be?
What have I learned in my life?
What else do I want to learn?
Now, I certainly don't want you to answer those questions and consider that to be your creed. Remember, a creed is a sort of guideline for living, but it is also completely subjective. Look at Wooden's creed again. The statements there are kind of ambiguous and can be open to interpretation, don't you think? So, when you are doing this, try to keep that in mind. However, it is precisely BECAUSE the statements are ambiguous that you will have to explain what you mean by them, what they mean to you and why you chose them. Always the why.
What you are basically doing is creating a blueprint by which you can live your life. YOUR life. Nobody else's.
After all, who is more important than you?
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ReplyDeleteSe7en Point Creed:
ReplyDelete1. Pursue and promote knowledge without expecting any results other than further understanding within yourself and others, and do not put faith in any one book no matter its subject nor how convincing its argument is. Acknowledge your own ignorance.
2. Do not strive for the conventional form of “success”. There is no “pyramid of success”. Turn all social pyramids on themselves and find out that true success has no shape.
3. Stand out in the rain.
4. Laugh at your mistakes and others’.
5. Do not offer respect easily, do not entertain the idea of “patriotism”, judge others strictly, and judge yourself even stricter.
6. Admire great people, such as Henry David Thoreau, George Carlin, Yoda, Friedrich Nietzsche, Noam Chomsky, Richard Dawkins, and Jacque Fresco, but do not aspire to be them.
7. Never blindly accept any argument, always promote original thought, look for faults even in the people you look up to, and find all of the faults within yourself, and it will probably take most of your life to find them all.
Se7en Point Creed Explained:
1. “The Bible”, “Mein Kampf”, “The Communist Manifesto”: three very influential “books” that many people have lived their entire lives based upon (I put “books” in quotations because “The Communist Manifesto” is a lengthy pamphlet). I own copies of all three “books” because of my curiosity as to how so many people could be influenced by them so much. The Ku Klux Klan was a group inspired too much by the Bible, Nazis in 1930s-1940s Germany were influenced too much by “Mein Kampf”, and Soviet China was influenced too much by “The Communist Manifesto”. Reading one book may result to “radical” behavior as it did in these three groups. Read many books, then result to enlightened “radical” behavior.
Do not try to get an “A” in a class; try to learn something. The “A” will take care of itself. If a class is boring and unhelpful, it does not deserve your time and it does not deserve your “A”. School is for learning, not for stressing yourself out over stupid assessments that teach you nothing.
2. “Success” is not money. “Success” is not good grades. “Success” is not doing well in sports. “Success” is not even something warm and fuzzy on the inside like friendship or the amount of people you have “touched”. I am tired of hearing about pyramids; we live in one. Upper class is the smallest and on the top and it just goes down-pyramid from there. Turn that pyramid upside down and watch it crumble under its own infrastructure. Then, dance on the pile of rubble. Do not build a new structure with the stones; there was never supposed to be any structure in the first place. “Success” is not a pyramid. I do not know what “success” is, but I know what it is not, and as I eliminate everything that “success” is not, I will find out what it is; and I will be successful.
3. John Wooden said to “build a shelter against a rainy day”. This cannot be more wrong. If you build that shelter, you will be safe against the drizzles, but a hurricane will come, and when it does, your shelter will be blown apart and you will be forced to face the rain. Only this time, the rain will be big. You will be overwhelmed by it. I love the rain. When it rains, I often stand outside and get soaked for apparently no reason. When the hurricane comes, I will be used to the rain. It will be hard and I will come to miss the drizzles, but I will not be overwhelmed.
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4. If I do something stupid, and I often do, I laugh at myself. I laugh at others too. Life is not a serious thing, and it IS a laughing matter. It is as simple as that.
Delete5. The whole “respect your elders” thing is a joke. Pat Robertson, Ray Comfort, and Bill O’Reilly are my elders and I have absolutely no respect for them and, I am afraid to say, I lose respect for people with respect for those three guys. Respect should be earned by one’s actions, not age. This brings me to patriotism. The Flag Salute stings. The United States has done nothing to earn my respect and it is one of my most firmly-held beliefs that, not only is the United States a terrorist state (I will get to that in part six with Noam Chomsky), but anyone that has patriotism, anyone that stands up and says the Pledge and means it, is less likely to want to change the country that they love so much, and if the number of patriotic people becomes too big, nothing gets changed in the country because everyone loves it too much to change it, and the U.S. gets worse in comparison to other countries by, say, falling behind in education and healthcare and soaring in the amount of money spent on the military (and its actions in the unnecessary deaths of thousands of people) and the amount of wealth it takes from the poor and gives to the upper class businessmen.
6. Do not try to be anyone. Do not even try to be yourself. Do not try to be anything; just be. I admire many people, mainly scientists, but I do not try to be these people; I do, however, let these people influence my life. Henry David Thoreau’s transcendentalist anti-establishment views should be looked up to, although not taken to the extreme. George Carlin probably had the most influence on my life out of any other famous person, with awesome quotes such as, “Atheism is a non-prophet organization,” “Frisbeetarianism is the belief that when you die, your soul goes up on the roof and gets stuck”, “ ‘One thing leads to another’? Not always. Sometimes one thing leads to the same thing. Ask an addict,” and “Don't sweat the petty things and don't pet the sweaty things.” I could go on, but my favorite quote ever spoken by anyone belongs to Carlin: “The reason they call it the American Dream is because you have to be asleep to believe it.” Moreover, Yoda has influenced my life with his “Do or do not, there is no ‘try’” quote and Friedrich Nietzsche has influenced me a lot; he is perhaps most known as the originator of the “Golden Rule” and the speaker of, “That which does not kill us makes us stronger,” which are both awesome. Noam Chomsky has influenced some of my anti-United States beliefs by proving, in a YouTube video, how every president since FDR can be charged with war crimes. He also fueled some of my already-existing anti-patriotism beliefs by speaking about the place of sports (in another YouTube video) and propaganda in society: “Propaganda is to a democracy what the bludgeon is to a totalitarian state.” Richard Dawkins’ “The God Delusion” was very influential to me as well as Jacque Fresco’s economic ideas. Despite all of this, I do not want to be Fresco or Dawkins or Chomsky or Nietzsche or Yoda. They have simply influenced me, Br’Yan Mango.
7. This goes along with point one. One should look for faults in others, even if he or she admires those people greatly. This will prevent the possibility of blindly accepting a belief because it will be known that no one is right on a given topic; some are just more close to finding the answer. If someone knows this, he or she will be encouraged to find the answer for himself or herself versus blindly accepting someone else’s belief. Finally, one should never take himself or herself too seriously. Perhaps “the meaning of life” should be the finding of all the faults within thyself and working to lower the overall number of faults.
Delete(7.5) “After all, who is more important than you?”
No one is more important than anyone else. I am not higher up on the pyramid than anyone else because I plan to destroy that pyramid, so I am not more important than anyone else. Thus, no one is more important than me because everyone is of equal importance.
For some reason I always feel like I should write a little intro before answering the question, but I realized that my intros are never good.
ReplyDelete1. Nothing in life is true for sure.
I think about this statement a lot, something I guess you could argue. My point is anything can be argued and nothing is really for sure true. I guess you can say 2+2=4, but what even is 2? We are all just things who made up things to communicate it to each other. What if in a crazy universe 2 actually means 5? This statement is important to me because it has always made me prove myself wrong in order to understand other people’s sides. I always try to understand and that usually helps me process things. It’s important to know that the things you believe can hold a different meaning to someone raised differently, which is why you should consider these things before making rash decisions. The things you decided to do may not be the “normal” or “truest” thing to someone else.
2. Care about the people in your life. Always.
I know I may not always be the nicest person, but if you are in my life, and it doesn’t matter how long, I care a hell of a lot about you. I will break my back to make sure you know that there is someone in your life that cares about you. When I was a kid, I always felt really alone because my parents never really cared about my life outside of succeeding in school and my sisters hated me. So, I’ve always wanted to care and I do. I will drop everything to make sure the people in my life don’t feel alone because THAT is the worst feeling. I’m terrible at advice, so I don’t usually give that but I remind that person that I’m there for them.
3. It is okay to be selfish.
People try really hard to be there for people and usually forget that you need to be there for yourself. It is okay to take care of yourself and love yourself. It is okay to be sad. Society always tells people that they shouldn’t worry about their problems because it is petty and small compared to someone else. That is wrong. You are allowed to feel alone, sad, whatever. There is a difference between throwing yourself a pity party and needing to take care of yourself. Love yourself, always.
4. Family isn’t blood.
If you know anything about me, I have like six different moms. All hold a really important place in my heart, but only one “supposedly” gave birth to me. (Pretty sure I was adopted.) I think I prefer moms because although I have a dad, I’ve never really had a father figure and I’m not quite sure why they are so important. I, accidently, care about my friends too much as if I’m their mom and treat them like my seed(shout out to Jan Zachary Gonzales). It is important to understand that the people that are genetically related to you, are just people and you don’t owe them anything. You don’t have to follow the path they want, you don’t have to love them, you don’t have to be them and you won’t be them. Find a people who you actually love and who love you back and call them your family.
5. It is okay to laugh at yourself.
I guess you could say I laugh (and scream) a lot. I laugh at everything. I laugh when I’m mad, sad, happy, or when I actually think something is funny. Sometimes people take things way too seriously and that’s when you lose a sense of self. I laugh when I make mistakes, I laugh when I fail, I laugh when my fob mom yells at me for something I probably didn’t even do(which always gets me more in trouble, so I don’t recommend doing it.) I laugh because it is the best way to accept things. People dwell on things that they could never change way too much, and sometimes you just gotta laugh and accept it. You will feel so much better about that 40 you got on a test if you laugh about than if you dwell on it.
6. Always give others and yourself respect (when deserved of course). My mother would kill me and make me pray to Buddha for nine hours if she knew I wrote this. Culturally, deserved respect is unheard and as should would say, “In my country, you respect your elders or they beat the crap out of you.” But, age means nothing. Respect the people who respect you. Respect the people who deserve it. Age doesn’t mean wisdom and it doesn’t mean they are right. Older people can take advantage of that respect that they think they deserve. You have to respect yourself enough to be able to know who deserves yours. Sorry Momma Q, I still respect you.
Delete7.The only thing you will remember and have forever is the experience. People tend to want people and things in their life forever. I don’t. Sometimes the things you go through will give the experience to grow and learn. You will remember the memories and the experience forever; you will have grown from these things whether or not the people in the memory are still in your life. I don’t know why we are constantly pressured to worry about the future. That is when you lose the importance of just enjoying things how they are. Just enjoy the ride and remember it.
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ReplyDeleteEvery night I do what I can to wake up happy and refreshed. There are some rules I like to abide by to make sure I live my life to the fullest because you never know when it will be taken away from you. Here are my 7 creeds to life.
ReplyDelete1. There is no set good or bad days, it's up to you to decide if your day will be good or bad.
2. Do not cross oceans for people who will not even cross puddles for you.
3. Before reacting to something, wait a couple of days, if it doesn't bother you after a couple of days, it was never worth reacting to in the first place.
4. Imagine if all the words you said appeared on your skin, would you continue to talk?
5. Being nice to the people who hate you is the only way to become higher than them.
6. No one ever gets yelled at for being too happy.
7. Give people flowers while they can smell them, don't wait until it's too late.
Some of these may seem confusing so I’m going to do a little explaining.
1. Calendars don't say which days will be good and bad days. Its up to you to make it either a great day or a horrible day. If you wake up feeling upset about something that happened the day before you need to do something about it. You can't let the past bring you down. You should wake up everyday and be thankful you are able to get up and be health. Everyone should be able to make everyday a good day and try to not have bad days more than once a week. There are only 365 days a year, try and make them all as fun as possible.
2. I always tend to do things for people who don't appreciate it at all. I could do everything for someone and return they just treat me like trash. So as I get older I want to try and hold back from always doing things for people who give me nothing in return. Everyone only cares about themselves in the end so you should do the same.
3. Time heals everything. If something is really bothering you don't make an irrational decision because of something that just happened. Everyone needs sleep to recover mentally and physically. So don't let something bother you in the moment. Wait it out, sleep it out, if it doesn't bother you after a couple sleeps, usually 3, then you shouldn't need to react to it anymore. If you forget about it after a couple days then it wasn't important enough to react to it in the first place.
4. Everyone spends too much time talking to much to actually listen to some people. I bet that person who sits in the back of the class everyday not talking, just listening, might just know more than everyone in the class combined. If you spend all your time talking and arguing your not going to enjoy life. Just stop and listen sometimes. Do not start unnecessary fights with people and do not say unnecessary comments.
5. Kill people with kindness. Nothing gets people more mad than when you smile after they say a mean or snarky comment. Stooping down to their mean nasty level does not make you better. Be higher than them, be happy, do not let their rudeness ruin your day and absolutely do not ever be that rude person that ends up being killed with kindness.
6. Life is the longest thing you will ever experience yet it is so short compared to the life span of a rock. So there is no time to waste, be happy while you can. If you come into school everyday looking upset you make everyone around you gloomy and sad. You need to be that person to be able to cheer up anyone when they are upset. Everyone deserves to be happy all the time. It is better to be laughing in the hallways than bawling your eyes out in the corner.
7.Support your friends when they are upset, not the ones who don’t cross puddle for you, the ones who you are genuinely friends with and care about them. No one seems to care about someone until they are gone. After they are gone it is too late, you can go back and help them, you can not go back and talk to them, nothing. You need to be proactive about situations and act on them before they happen instead of after they happen.
1) Acknowledge your own privilege.
ReplyDeleteEverybody has some form of privilege. There’s male privilege, white privilege, cis privilege, educational privilege, the list goes on. Being able to recognize the privileges that society has given us because of our identities is crucial to understanding others and their disadvantages. By becoming aware of our own society-given advantages, we are better able to recognize and combat social inequality.
2) Do what makes you happy.
Okay I know this sounds cliché, but it’s true. One of my worst fears is waking up, years from now, and dreading the thought of getting out of bed because it would mean going to a job that I hate. Working a monotonous cubicle job in an office every single day is literally my interpretation of hell. I want to do what makes me happy, not what pays the most. I can’t bear the thought of being eighty years old and realizing that I wasted my life, that I never did what truly made me happy. Live life for yourself, not for society’s definition of success.
3) Be a decent human being.
Smile at strangers. Hold the door open for someone. Say thank you. Offer a compliment. These things take minimal effort, yet will most likely better a person’s day.
4) Live life uncomfortably.
I recently went on a college visit to New Haven University. In addition to touring the school, the visitors listened to student speakers recount their recent college ventures. One senior decided to talk about the time she studied abroad in New Zealand for a semester. When asked why she chose New Zealand, of all places, the girl replied that she wanted to step out of her comfort zone. I found this profound, yet inspiring. It’s crazy to think that someone would willingly fly half way across the world to study for several months, whilst leaving all familiarity behind. I aspire to be as brave as that girl someday. It’d be a shame to miss life-changing opportunities just because I didn’t find them 100% comfortable and safe.
5) Don’t judge. Ever.
Judgements are trivial and shallow assumptions made by the ignorant. They provide impetus for the deficiencies of society: racism, homophobia, sexism, ageism, etc. By judging another person, you are inadvertently perpetuating the cycle of hatred.
6) Recognize society’s chains.
ReplyDeleteRousseau used to be my favorite philosopher. Then I found out that he was an ardent misogynist (according to him, women are “the sex that ought to obey”). However, I do enjoy his one famous quote: “Man is born free and everywhere he is in chains”. Rousseau was no doubt referring to white, privileged men, but I like to think about this quote in broader terms. There are chains everywhere in our society, which shackle all people. Conformity is a chain that binds one to society’s expectations, rather than to one’s potential. It asserts the ideal that we must act like everyone else because normal is good and normal is right and normal is acceptable. Conformity and gender roles go hand in hand. Boys play with trucks. Girls play with dolls. Boys have to marry girls and girls have to marry boys. These chains are constantly weighing us down and preventing us from being our true selves.
Education, or the illusion of education, is another chain. Today’s school system is a main contributor to this. We are taught to define intelligence based upon GPA’s and SAT scores- students work to receive good grades, not to gain knowledge. Society teaches kids that the only way to become successful is through good grades, when in reality, test scores do not reflect the intelligence of an individual, nor do they ensure a successful future. Unfortunately, conformity and education are only two of many examples. It’s important to be able to recognize these chains, though, so that you can define your own limits in life, rather than let society do it for you.
7) Form your own opinions and beliefs.
Many people blindly accept and embrace the thoughts of others. Parents, friends, and relatives all play such influential roles in our lives that we often neglect to take a step back and question the ideals they force upon us. Why do I believe in this religion? Why do I want to pursue this career in the future? Why do I only find certain fashion trends acceptable? Asking ourselves questions like these will help us to differentiate between others’ opinions and our own.
1. Don’t let mistakes define you: As Hannah Montana once sang, “Nobody’s Perfect” and this statement couldn’t be more accurate. Sadly, some people seem to forget that people make mistakes and they use mistakes as a reason not to like someone. When someone hurts your feelings it’s definitely not the best feeling in the world but it happens. I feel that some people don’t associate with others who have hurt them before. Which I guess could be a smart thing but at the same time, people make mistakes and they do things that they don’t mean to do but they learn from it just like you do.
ReplyDelete2. Treat others the way you want to be treated: Yes I know, the common 2nd grade rule, but I feel like it’s so easy for people to forget about. People that don’t follow this rule are often referred to as selfish and I completely agree. If you wouldn’t like it done to you than don’t do it to someone else. Sometimes the concepts that seem the most simple are the hardest ones to follow.
3. Be thankful for what you have: Especially in high school, you meet a lot of new people that grew up in different ways than you did. Sometimes it’s not always better than what you have. As teenagers we easily confuse the ideas of what we want and what we need. Whenever I feel like I’m having a bad day I always think of my mom telling me, “there’s always someone who has it worse than you” and at first I would never believe her because what could be worse than being grounded right? Well that’s when I was younger and thought everything was a big deal and now looking back on that day it really wasn’t. I should be thankful for everything that I do have instead of focusing on the things that I don’t. I’m blessed with a loving family, a roof over my head, and food on the table every night. Sometimes you just need to take a step back and focus on the things you’re fortunate to have in your life.
4. Sometimes it’s easier to be the bigger person: We’ve all been there, that moment you’re just so angry and you don’t process what you’re saying and you just say it. Fighting (verbally) is something I’m sure we’ve all done with someone at some point in time no matter what it was about. But is fighting with that person really worth losing a friendship or relationship with them? Even if you know that person is wrong, sometimes it’s just not worth the fight and it’s easier to just be the bigger person and apologize.
5. Don’t take people for granted: Family is important. It’s what life revolves around and some people take their family and friends for granted. What these people don’t realize is that one day those people might not be around anymore. That saying “you don’t realize what you have until it’s gone” is true and these situations are far too frequent. It’s important to build strong relationships because those people make up your support system. If you take people for granted, one day you might regret it, but it could be too late to apologize.
6. Be yourself: This one is huge for me because it’s so easy for people, especially at our age, to be a follower instead of a leader. Everyone is so worried about fitting into a group or standard that they lose focus of who they really are. People pretend to like things that the majority enjoys just to fit in, and they stop being true to themselves. A lot of people are worried to be themselves because they’re afraid to be different. If more people were true to themselves and dressed how they want to dress, and hung out with whoever they want to hang out with than I don’t think it would seem as different if someone did their own thing.
7. Live everyday like it’s your last: I hate having regrets. Especially with people who I can’t make amends with because they’re no longer here. Everyone remembers the slogan YOLO and no matter how annoying it gets, there’s no better way to sum up life. Are you happy with the person you are? Are you satisfied with the last conversation you had with someone? Did you try your best? These are always questions to take into consideration to make sure you’re living your life to the fullest.
1.Love Yourself, Be Yourself.
ReplyDeleteDon’t let your insecurities run your life. Learn to accept yourself for who you are and embrace it. Once you love yourself, judgement from other people won’t really matter as much. You’ll be so much happier once you see yourself in a positive way. I used to be really insecure about myself and there were times where I wouldn’t do something that I really wanted to do because I was scared about what others thought. But now I know that it’s stupid to worry about other people's opinion and that I shouldn’t let that stop me from having fun. Also, you are your own person; don’t try to imitate and be someone else. You can always aspire to be to be like another person, but you will never be that person. Focus on building your own character and forming your own opinions.
2. Always be punctual.
If you have an appointment, a meeting, a date, or anything, always arrive on time. You are not better than anyone else, other people’s time are just as important as yours. If they put aside some time to meet up with you, you shouldn’t waste their time and make them wait for you. Plan accordingly and leave a couple minutes earlier in case of traffic or any other diversions. If you have to cancel, try to do it early. Canceling at the last minute is a jerk move and should only be done in emergencies.
3. Strive For Your Best, Not Perfection.
It’s good to have goals, but take things little by little. Don’t expect perfection at the start. All that matters is that you put in your 100% into whatever you are doing. It’s okay to make mistakes, you just have to learn from them and improve. If you set your expectations too high, you’ll only end up with disappointment and discouragement and probably end up quitting. Just work on improving yourself because progress is worth more than hitting a certain goal. You might not improve as fast as you would like, but if you keep working hard you will eventually reach your goal.
4. Question Everything.
You don’t know everything. New information is always popping up, often contradicting old facts, so keep your mind open. Nothing is definite, so don’t act like it is. If someone tells you something, question them on their source and how they got their information. Don't blindingly accept an argument. Always search for more knowledge because knowledge is power.
5. Own up to mistakes.
Everyone makes mistakes and that’s okay. However, you should own up to your mistakes and take responsibilities. Don’t give excuses for why you messed up or blame another person for your own shortcomings. You. Made. The. Mistake. If you give excuses, you will never learn how to deal with your problems. Fallbacks are what makes a person grow.
6. Don’t half-ass anything.
If you are doing something, you should put your 100% into it. Half-assed efforts lead to half-assed results. Your actions reflect who you are as a person, so why would you put your name on something that is worth shit?
7. Be mindful of other people.
There will always be people whose morals and beliefs differ from yours. All you can do is acknowledge their belief, and respect it (unless they hurt other people) because there’s probably no way you can change them. Don’t scream at them,fight with them or purposely aggravate them because you disagree with their beliefs, that will only result in anger and hurt both parties. If you can, try to learn about their perspective and why they feel the way they do because then you will understand where they’re coming from and that might ease the tension. Life isn’t black and white, it’s a whole spectrum of colors. Some people prefer red, and others like blue. What appears red to you might be orange to someone else. People are different, and that’s okay.
Blog: 7 point decree
ReplyDelete1) “Love Yourself”: After enduring the turmoil of many self-induced catastrophes, I realized that loving yourself is vital to a happy, prosperous life. Loving yourself is not equivalent to confidence; it is embracing who you are. To love yourself means to accept every one of your current and past characteristics despite the varying degrees of ugliness that those characteristics may have. At some point, indefinitely, everyone receives judgment. The ability to love yourself will prevent you from taking criticism to heart and will enable you to truly understand criticism. You will be able to decipher whether or not the criticism is cruel or constructive and whether or not it is worth your consideration, ultimately resulting in a more confident, happier you. You can’t love your life hating yourself because there is only one person who will be there from the beginning until the very last second: you.
2) “Chase Knowledge, Always”: Opportunities to learn constantly present themselves to us everywhere we go. School, parties, concerts, the mall, the gas station, even home; literally everywhere. Without knowledge, our existence is pointless. Communication requires knowledge. Communication is essential to our lives. In Maslow’s pyramid, it is the most necessary element. You need knowledge to understand. The ability to understand is necessary in relationships of any kind. Knowledge provides you with the ability to obtain personal truth, which is an essential part of decision making and discovering who you truly are. It is important to chase knowledge because it is important to achieve every level of enlightenment humanly possible for the benefit of our race and this world as a whole. Additionally, everyone is different. Be open minded to new knowledge because there is always always always something to learn from people, no matter how repulsive you consider them.
3) “Believe in Love”: For one thing, you need to believe in love in order to love yourself. Aside from that, without faith in love we make peace among us way more difficult than it needs to be. When violence occurs, believing in love is the first step in hoping for a good outcome. Hope relies on love. The only way peace is achieved is through love. Believe in love. Additionally, like I said before, everyone is different. Love is acceptance. Believe in love.
4) “Live in the Moment”: This is important to me because it applies HEAVILY to our generation. From the moment we are born on, our parents have a sort of “life plan” for us (refer to the book “The Little Prince” or the movie). We are labeled as future doctors and lawyers and all that boing generic bs before we even enter into fifth grade. When asked “what do you want to be when you grow up?” we shake with anxiety because the answer is not clear to us. It is fogged by parent’s expectations and society’s expectations. In fifth grade they told us middle school is serious so we transformed ourselves into more mature fifth graders, constantly worried about what sixth grade will be like. Then in middle school, they told us that eighth grade is serious so we spent sixth and seventh grade worrying about eighth grade. In eighth grade they told us how important it is to be an example to the younger kids and how we need to learn to be mature because high school is serious. Before freshman
orientation, we were told how serious college is and how important it is and never once did they present to us the unpopular option of not going. They told us which jobs make the best money, which jobs help you gain “success”. Our freshman year we worried about our sophomore year and our /sophomore year we worried about our junior year and all the while we worried about SAT’s, PARCC, PSAT’s, ASVAB, AP classes, GPA, class rank, social status, losing friends to the hardships of this stress, losing friends in general, having none, and simply being okay when we wake up in the morning. Since fifth grade, parents and teachers and counselors (that are supposed to help not harm) and society told us how important the future is and should be. They said it should be our top priority because school is the equivalent of a job and if you can’t hold a job you’ll never be successful and we all know that without a high paying “successful” job and ten different degrees in the same subject, we won’t be happy, right? We did not benefit from that. From what they told us. But they did. They work in high average schools now, with students that attend, droopy eyed, no matter how much school deteriorates them from inside to out, every single day. Living in the moment prevents other people from ru(i)nning your life. That’s why it is important, especially for us.
ReplyDelete5) “Decide Who Your Family is for Yourself”: Family isn’t always who you find in your living room afterschool, especially because some of us don’t even find anyone there. Family should consist of the people who inspire you, motivate you, and truly care for you. Sometimes, parents don’t hold those characteristics. Sometimes, parents aren’t even present. That is not family. Going to a Thanksgiving dinner and being told “Happy Birthday” by everyone there except your dad when you birthday is really all the way in May…not family. Decide who your family is for yourself and stop wasting time trying to please the people who do not care for you and who live their lives through you. Do not allow your life to revolve around people whose lives already revolve around themselves. Choosing family is choosing the good support system and leaving behind the bad one for your own sake, whether they are you blood or not, which is pretty important.
6) “Only You Can Define Yourself”: No matter how many names you get called, or how many black eyes you get, or how many heartbreaks you have, or mistakes you make, nothing can define you but yourself. If a girl calls you a slut, do not let her win by accepting her jealous insult to be true. If a boy (or girl) tells you that he thinks you’re completely hideous, believe that you aren’t. Insults and labels of society have nothing to do with who you truly are. So don’t allow petty words or catfights or suggestive magazines or your parents or your teachers or a number or a letter define you. Only you define yourself because only you can; no one knows you better than you.
7) “No Ragrets”: Look, I don’t care how many studies are done to prove that I am not yet who I will indefinitely become… because having no regrets doesn’t disprove that fact. The things I’ve gone through make me who I am, not who I will be. And “who I am” is an important thing to figure out if I ever want to get to “who I will be”. Regretting something is a choice: it is the decision to mourn over something that can no longer be changed. It is the decision to avoid the undeniable value of the knowledge that you can take away from an experience. It is literally the decision to remain upset over something, rather than move on and use the knowledge to your advantage. Living with regrets is living with remorse and anyone can tell you that that isn’t ideal. Again, having no regrets doesn’t mean that I am who I am and that that is the same person as who I will be. It just means I’m choosing to be okay despite all of the (figurative) grenades I’ve thrown on myself.
If you know me well enough, you know how badly I struggle with anxiety and OCD. There are days my struggles lay close to dormant, and days my struggles control me. Struggling with this gave me no choice but to find a way to cope, which is very relevant to this blog. Forced to create ways to deal with myself, others, homework, and plans day to day, it’s important that I make a list of creeds when I wake up everyday to get through to the next morning when I then make a new list, and so on. But of all the lists I’ve made for myself, seven of them are essential to my survival and are my 7- point creed.
ReplyDelete1. Always be optimistic: Being optimistic for me isn’t as easy as telling myself to be optimistic, but in order to live a happy life, you must look on the bright side of things. It’s extremely easy for me to have an anxiety attack about something that didn’t go as planned, or something awful happening unexpectedly so staying optimistic gets me through the hard times. I remind myself often that flowers blossom in the sunshine, not the shade. What happened in the past, happened; but for the future, we can only hope for even better things than what we’ve been blessed with so far.
2. To get RESPECT, you must give it: This is a big one for me-- hence the emphasis. Respect to me is like water to fish. I value respect enormously. Not only respect for others, but for yourself as well. Respect is extremely important because without it, the word would be a mess. I give the utmost respect to everyone I meet, and continue to have respect for them until I don’t get the same amount of respect back from them. One of my biggest pet peeves is disrespect and when someone doesn’t respect themselves like they deserve-- it irks my nerves like no other.
3. Everything happens for a reason: I believe in fate 100%. I believe that life happens in ways we’d never see coming and it challenges us to then benefit us and life gives us people and things we don’t need in order to find who we do need.I believe in fate because everything in my life makes sense and although it makes zero sense while it’s happening, you have to remember everything happens for a reason. If you look back on your life from today and reflect on the challenges you’ve encountered and what you came out with in the end, you’ll know exactly why it happened. It’s important to believe in fate because you don’t have control of your life so you have to make the most of what you’re given, or what you go out of your way to get.
PART 2
ReplyDelete4. Do it because it makes YOU happy: Nobody in this entire universe matter more than YOU do. This means a lot to me because I tend to do things for other people and not myself but I’ve realized my happiness is more important. Although people will say otherwise and say people such as their bf/ gf, parents, family, or even animals are more important than themselves, they’re wrong. Think about it-- if you didn’t exist, you wouldn’t have them in your life to be important to you, so be happy and enjoy living so that you can have those special people in your life. This goes for making yourself happy despite what others think or say as well. They’re not living your life for you, so you make the decisions you want to make and you do the things you want to do and you do whatever it is that makes you happy because happiness is they key to life. You’re so important and you are beautiful and you deserve to be happy so tell those people to falc off and do you and be happy.
5. Be a little more everyday: I constantly think of success. Succeeding. By doing and being a little more everyday, you’ll only benefit. I personally don’t like consistency, so doing little things and reaching little goals is an everyday thing for me. A little more and a little more and a little more and a little more adds up over time. If you do the same thing, you get the same result. No matter if you like or dislike that result, you can always do better. A little more everyday will give you results 10x better than what you’re usually content with by doing the same thing everyday without even realizing it. Be a little more by giving your extra change to the person behind you that’s short on money, push yourself to go that extra mile, study five minutes longer and you’ll see the results.
6. Forgive, forget, and never regret: Life is hard, life is funny, life is good, life is life. I’ve had my share of life and in a weird way, I value the bad in life that taught me more than the stuff that came easy. I’m aware that neither me, or any human is perfect and there’s plenty of room in life to forgive and forget. Throughout everyone’s lives, they’ve made just as many, or maybe more bad decisions than good-- that’s life. There’s no time for mercilessness in life, it’s too short. Forget what happened in the past because it’ll ruin your mindset for the future to come. Nothing’s more important than the future because you can’t change the past, but you can do everything in your power to help shape and guide you to a successful future. And lastly, never regret. Like My other creed, everything happens for a reason and if you didn’t do or say the things you regret, you wouldn’t be who you are today. Without all of those bad times in life that happened for you to have to forgive and forget, you wouldn’t be anything close to the person you are today. Your past has shaped the person you are and without them you wouldn’t be on the road to a successful future that you’re on, that we’re all on.
7. Commit and don’t be a coward: Commitment is also easier said than done. We often bite off more than we can chew-- I know I do. I hold myself to such a high standard being a perfectionist, but I can’t always reach those standards I set for myself. It’s important for me to stay committed though, no matter if I reach them or not. Not succeeding and being a coward are too different things. Being a coward means you’re afraid to face the challenges life throws at you, afraid to go through with a plan because it seems too hard. It means you take the easy way out instead of challenging yourself. Life is all about challenges, because if you’re not challenged, you don’t grow and you don’t prosper. Not succeeding means you tried and did everything you could with and had pride in what you did to try to reach those standards, but you simply didn’t make it. Commitment is also important in relationships with family, friends, and partners. If you're not committed to putting your all into those people or person you love, the relationship won’t go anywhere.
This is kind of similar to something I did in Clark's class for our transcendentalism project. I presented ten things I thought were true about me. I guess what I wrote could be turned into my “7-point creed”. Looking back at them though, some of them are questionable so I’ll only use a few of them.
ReplyDelete1. Cherish some of the small moments in life
2. Find a passion and use it
3. It’s okay to fall
4. Change is also okay
5. Respect yourself and those who deserve it
6. If you have a full plate, don’t go trying to attack it all at once. Take your time and do it piece by piece.
7. Be happy.
1. As a high schooler I have so much going on in my life that I don’t take the time to enjoy the little things. We experience so much in our life and we always forget the little things. When I’m older I’ll probably remember the big things from high school like graduation, prom, and homecoming, but I won’t remember stuff like hanging out with my friends, messing around during study hall, or laughing at something Kayla did. It’s crazy how I’m already a junior. Next year I’m a senior. Then I’ll be going off to college and finally I’ll be living my life by myself. It’s scary how time flies and how many big moments we experience in our life. But sometimes the small moments are when I’m the happiest. Cherish the small moments because we eventually all forget them.
2. Find the one thing you love to do and use it. It’s hard to find a passion for something. It’s even harder to love what you do and be good at it. That doesn’t mean your passion should be something you’re good at, there’s so many people out there who love to sing but can’t. However, that shouldn’t stop you. I was lucky enough to find something I love. I love drawing, painting, sculpting, anything related to art. I think I’m good so I’m extremely lucky for that. But this talent is wasted on me. I’m not going to pursue anything related to art in the future. I don’t think I’ll ever really use it. It’s depressing for me to have a passion for something but not do anything with it. If you find something you love to do, don’t give up on it.
3. No one likes to fail or do something wrong. When we think we can’t do something we don’t attempt it because we’re afraid that we will fail. Who does? So the idea of failing is scary and considered a bad thing. But we can’t be afraid to fall. I do not like doing things wrong so I avoid certain things I know I can not do. But sometimes I regret not trying because it doesn’t hurt to fail. For a while I’m upset but I pick myself up and try again. Most of the times, after trying again I do it right. We all have regrets about not doing something because we didn’t want to fail but failing doesn’t mean that’s the end. After falling, you need to get back up. Now after falling, you know what you did wrong and you can fix your mistakes. Never think that you can not fix your mistakes. Learn from them.
4. I wouldn’t say that my life has changed drastically at one point but I’ve changed as a person. I used to be shy, timid, and only had a few friends. As I grew older though, I saw myself becoming more outgoing and now I have a group of friends that I love. I’ve changed so much as a person and I’m okay with that. Some people are afraid of change. We should embrace it. Everyday we are changing because of the decisions we make.
5. I wrote about this before but I’ll say it again, you should respect yourself and only those who deserve it. I don’t believe in always respecting your elders. If it is not mutual then there’s nothing. Loving yourself means respecting yourself and giving it to only those who deserve it. If you can’t learn to respect who you are then you allow people to step all over you. My family is kind of traditional so respecting your elders is a big thing. I would politely sit right next to my mom while her friend would make nasty comments about me because I couldn’t talk back. There’s something about my culture where older people just don’t have any respect for younger kids. Just because someone is older than you, does not give you the privilege of receiving respect. You have to earn it.
Delete6. From what I learned about high school is that when you have a lot of things going on, you can’t focus on all the things at once. You have to take it piece by piece. This past week has been stressful. I have powderpuff, homecoming, four quizzes, my drivers test, my volleyball banquet, SAT studying, and because of this stress I almost forgot about my birthday this week as well. I just feel like there's this heavy weight on my shoulders because of the things I have to do, and I feel like I don’t have the time. But I sat myself down, breathed a little, and told myself I could do this. I told myself I’d do it step by step. I planned out what I would do each day and made sure I’d do it. It’s almost thanksgiving I just need to make it until then. When there’s a lot going on, it doesn’t help to look at all of as one big thing. By splitting it up, it’s easier to manage and it doesn’t seem like a lot anymore.
7. Be happy. It’s pretty self-explanatory but it’s not easy. There’s a lot be sad about and it’s okay to be sad, but can’t let it consume you. Find little things in your day that’ll make you happy, it doesn’t have to be big. I always think about the future and whether or not I will be happy. I don’t want to live my life doing something I don’t love. But I can’t predict the future so instead I try to make myself happy now. I do little things like knit, draw, or watch movies because they all make me happy. Make yourself happy because life is too short to be sad.
7-Point Creed:
ReplyDelete* Pursue your happiness
* Life is unfair
* Stay true to others who stay true to you
* Do not absorb the toxic fumes of hatred
* Make your OWN legacy, do not carry on anyone else’s
* A setback can only make you stronger
* Benefit from the blessings of elderly’s that give you wisdom and knowledge
7-Point Creed Explained:
* Just as you have the right to life, you have the right of pursuit of happiness. Do not let anyone determine your future. It is your life, do not let the negativity influence your decisions. Many people will try to bring you down in your life, you must brush it off continue what you want to do. For example, if you want to be a chef, but that doesn’t have a high enough salary that say your parents want, just because they don’t like it doesn’t mean you have to change it. By pursuing the what you want to be, you’ll be making money off something you love doing. Rather than, dislike your job to make a little more money.
* Be prepared for the unfairness that life brings. There will be many ups and downs in your life so do not wallow in your failure or something that you find unfair. Everyone is dealing with the same unfairness, if not more, you are. Your life is determined by your failures, it’s by how you can pick yourself up from them.
* You’ll have many friends in your life, some will come and go. But others, who stay, are the ones you have to value. With these friends, whatever you give will come back. Don’t ever take these friends for granted, because I promise you, you’ll regret it. I promise you, the same friends you have in high school will not be the same you have in 10 years.
* Just as you will have ups and downs in your life, you will have hatred. In everyone’s lives there are people trying to bring them down. Simply because they’re jealous of the person. Do not let these people affect you. They are insignificant people that you should not pay any mind too. Let them hate you for every move you make, they’re not going anywhere with their life with that anyways. Do NOT let them get into your head, because once the person knows they’re getting into your head they’ll take advantage of it. You should be the one taking advantage of them.
* It’s better to be a leader rather than a follower. Create something that is unique to you. Make people want to follow you. Create your OWN legacy. Than, watch future generations continue it. Then you’ll go down in history, and your legacy will never be forgotten. Why follow someone when you can be followed?
* Back to the ups and downs; when you receive a setback, do NOT let it get the best of you (that’s the worst possible thing you can do). Setbacks are a part of everyone’s life. Rather you come back from it stronger or give up, is the difference between your setbacks and everyone else’s. At one point Michael Jordan was cut from a basketball team. I think that sentence says enough.
* A lot of people you’re going to look up to are elderly (rather you believe it or not). It is key to listen to their advice because they’ve been on this planet longer than you have, they have experience of earth. The knowledge and wisdom they bring to the table is the best blessing you can be blessed with. Rather it be a coach who’s played your sport or a mentor who’s been through what you’re going through right now. They all can help you shape out your future in a positive way. These people are probably the most important in your life. It come be one of your parents (as it is for me) or it could be anyone. They know more than you do, so take their advice into considerations and make your decisions accordingly.
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ReplyDeleteMy 7+ point creed:
ReplyDelete1. Accept yourself for who you are
This is so important for me and it should be for everyone else. I had trouble with this my whole life because I thought I was different from the other people around me. I almost felt like a shadow. I would always change my attitude or look to please everyone else. But they’re just as different as me and you.
2. Try to fail but don't fail to try
It bugs me when some people don’t try because it’s “too” hard or because they “don’t feel like it”. It doesn't matter if you fail, you can always improve. But to even do that, you must try. Trying is the first step to better yourself.
3. Stay positive
In all honesty, I think about negative things everyday. Most of the time, it’s about myself and my life. Negative thoughts just lower my self-esteem and my mood. Negativity has a huge effect on me. It changes my behavior and my actions in a bad way. The only way to avoid that, is to think positive, because then you will be happy and see the brighter side of things.
4. Confidence is key
Some may not know this, but I am a shy person. For example, I hate public speaking. I get so self-conscious about myself. i feel like everyone is judging me in the room when I know that most people don’t even pay attention to me. When I see someone I know or recognize in a store, I avoid them. I don’t really know why I do this and I’m ashamed but it just happens. If I never avoided the person, maybe I would have made their day by saying a simple “hey”. I had confidence in public speaking, my presentation would have been stronger in connecting with the audience and get my main idea across clearer. Confidence makes all the difference.
5. Create, don't replicate
Among my friends and other classmate, I was a “follower”. If they all owned something that was trending in the school or in general, I would buy it too; If they were to go somewhere, I would go too’ even if I didn’t really want to do any of these things. This showed that I was never comfortable following my own path. We’re all different, so be original.
7. Never give up
If you care to achieve a goal, work hard to do that. Giving up because you're failing or making mistakes is NEVER an option. Focus and double the effort to improve each day. Stop complaining and “JUST DO IT”. Your victory is right around the corner.
My creed does NOT end here. Seven is simply not enough, and so now I continue to list a few more….
8. Live your life to the fullest
9. Challenge yourself
10. Be grateful and thankful
11. Respect others
12. Be wise
13. Keep my faith
14. Be kind and honest
15. Forgive
My 7+ point creed:
ReplyDelete1. Accept yourself for who you are
This is so important for me and it should be for everyone else. I had trouble with this my whole life because I thought I was different from the other people around me. I almost felt like a shadow. I would always change my attitude or look to please everyone else. But they’re just as different as me and you.
2. Try to fail but don't fail to try
It bugs me when some people don’t try because it’s “too” hard or because they “don’t feel like it”. It doesn't matter if you fail, you can always improve. But to even do that, you must try. Trying is the first step to better yourself.
3. Stay positive
In all honesty, I think about negative things everyday. Most of the time, it’s about myself and my life. Negative thoughts just lower my self-esteem and my mood. Negativity has a huge effect on me. It changes my behavior and my actions in a bad way. The only way to avoid that, is to think positive, because then you will be happy and see the brighter side of things.
4. Confidence is key
Some may not know this, but I am a shy person. For example, I hate public speaking. I get so self-conscious about myself. i feel like everyone is judging me in the room when I know that most people don’t even pay attention to me. When I see someone I know or recognize in a store, I avoid them. I don’t really know why I do this and I’m ashamed but it just happens. If I never avoided the person, maybe I would have made their day by saying a simple “hey”. I had confidence in public speaking, my presentation would have been stronger in connecting with the audience and get my main idea across clearer. Confidence makes all the difference.
5. Create, don't replicate
Among my friends and other classmate, I was a “follower”. If they all owned something that was trending in the school or in general, I would buy it too; If they were to go somewhere, I would go too’ even if I didn’t really want to do any of these things. This showed that I was never comfortable following my own path. We’re all different, so be original.
7. Never give up
If you care to achieve a goal, work hard to do that. Giving up because you're failing or making mistakes is NEVER an option. Focus and double the effort to improve each day. Stop complaining and “JUST DO IT”. Your victory is right around the corner.
My creed does NOT end here. Seven is simply not enough, and so now I continue to list a few more….
8. Live your life to the fullest
9. Challenge yourself
10. Be grateful and thankful
11. Respect others
12. Be wise
13. Keep my faith
14. Be kind and honest
15. Forgive
7 Creed Points:
ReplyDelete1) Value the people around you and the time that you have with them
Value the people around you and the time that you have with them. You never know how much time you have with a person, so make every second that you have with them count. One day that person could pass away. If you value every minute that you have with them, you will have no regrets. If you don't value that person then you will never get a chance to make that up to them.
2) Never turn a blind eye on something you see is wrong
Never turn a blind eye on something that you see is wrong. If you don't speak out on a wrongdoing, then who will? Nobody. Just ignoring the wrongdoing doesn't benefit anyone. The other person will not learn from their mistake, and you will not understand their reasoning behind what they did. For example, if you see someone pick pocket someone else, don't just sit back and watch. Stand up for that person because if you don't, then you're just as guilty.
3) Don't put things off until tomorrow. You never know what tomorrow will bring.
Don't put things off until tomorrow. You never know what tomorrow will bring. Putting things off until Wednesday will just lead to putting them off until Thursday and so on. I figured this out over the years with homework and asking people to dances. Homework just piles on every day. If you procrastinate, you will fall behind because you will have the next nights of homework to worry about too. Every dance I go to I plan on asking someone. I always have ideas on who I'm going to ask, but I always tell myself "I'll ask them tomorrow," and I never get the chance.
4) Make your own opportunities
Make your own opportunities. Don't wait for someone to come up to you and hand you something. Apply for jobs or ask that special someone to the prom. Jobs and prom dates don't come to you, well if you're a guy anyway. Ride your bike from job interview to job interview; or go out of your way to see that girl in the hallway. But at least make the opportunity so you will have a chance.
5) Learn to forgive yourself and others
Learn to forgive yourself and others. Especially learn to forgive yourself. Don't go through life kicking yourself for failing calc, or worrying about the bad decisions that you made. We are all humans and we all make mistakes. The difference between one human and another is that some forgive themselves and others for the mistakes that they have made and accept them for who they are.
6) Get in touch with your artistic side
Get in touch with your artistic side. Throughout life, pick up an artsy hobby. Learning to either play an instrument, painting, or sculpting, just learn how to do something artistic. Playing an instrument and painting are great ways to relieve stress at the end of a rough day. Also, whenever you finish a painting, or learn a new song, you feel accomplished and you will always have that skill if you work at it.
7) Surround yourself with people who bring you up rather than put you down
Surround yourself with people who bring you up rather than put you down. Surrounding yourself with people who make you feel amazing is that best choice you could possibly make. Surrounding yourself with these people is a great confidence booster. Whenever you're sad, these people pick you up and make you feel better. Also, these are the kinds of people who you will know for the rest of your life.
1)Everything you need is within you.
ReplyDeleteTo me, there is no need to search for whatever it may be such as happiness, accomplishments, etc. outside of yourself. Anything you need to achieve or find is all within you;even if it doesn’t seem like it at the time. It is your job to apply yourself and strive for what you want. If you haven’t noticed by now everything you want to do in life depends on your actions and what you do to get there.
2) Live each day like it’s your last.
In other words, live your life to the fullest, have fun, live a little. This is something almost all students need to believe in. As young as we are, and should be enjoying life the most, we aren’t. I would say about 80% of the time we are spending time in our room stressing over essays, tests, and homework. Yes, we do need to work hard in order to go places we want, but living and loving life is just as important.
3) Learn to love yourself.
Loving yourself is probably the best feeling. When you accept yourself you realize you’ll stop comparing yourself to who you are not, which is a good thing. You will stop looking at what others accomplished that you didn’t, or how they present themself different from you. What you will soon realize is you are great in your own way, why care what people think?
4) Do not let others define you.
For example, I am black. When people see me there are stereotypes written all over. Ghetto, loud, dumb, ratchet, are only some of the things people define black people as. I happen to be none of them. Honestly, I’m the complete opposite. Even though people expect that out of me, it is my job to prove that we are our own person. However, this is not used only towards race. You can apply this to any situation where people often judge you.
5) Always strive for better.
This is pretty simple. Rule #1 never quit or stop trying. You can never achieve too much.Say you set a goal and reached it, it’s not time to go a step further. The more you think to strive for better the more you will begin to accomplish.
6) Turn your dreams into reality.
DeleteMake whatever you wish to happen come true. In order to do this you have to be willing to fail at some points and strong enough to put you back on task to keep trying. Know that with hard work anything is possible and to get what you want there is no time for excuses or claiming you can't do something.
7) Be close with those who believe in you.
There is no time for “haters”, they are only holding you back. Sticking around those who have hope pushes you for better. Also, these are people you are able to trust and love which are two very important things you should have in life.
My 7-point creed in no particular order:
ReplyDelete1.Be nice to everyone.
I try my best to be nice to everyone I encountered. Of course, my mother told me, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it at all,” in the first grade, but it’s always stuck with me. I love and I hate that I subconsciously do this. Whether a girl deliberately makes catty remarks or my friend buys me food, I act nice towards both of them. I don’t think I can be mean to someone on purpose unless they’re my friend and I’m playing around. Examples:
While exiting the school bus on the way home, I say, “Thank you,” to the bus driver.
Somebody-anybody- says hello to me. On my phone or not, I look up, smile, and reciprocate their hello.
If I go into or leave a store and there are people behind me. I hold the door open for all of them.
These may seem like ordinary, courteous actions, but there are many people who don’t even think to do these things.
2.It’s okay to have fun by yourself.
Everyone should be mindful of this. This rule states that doing something by oneself is okay. I know that movies people want to see come out and none of their friends want to go, so they don’t go. I love to dance and sing. I can’t dance or sing. Unlike others, I’m not afraid to embarrass myself as long as I’m having fun, so I will gladly do both at anytime. Because of this, I learned how to be self sufficient. I also learned how to laugh at myself.
3.Don’t let other people change who you are.
I see this happen a lot. Someone gets a boyfriend or girlfriend or a new friend and they start acting differently than they normally would. By differently, I mean in a bad way like they’re rude or constantly ditch their friends. I value individuality. It’s agitating that people think other people won’t like them if they act like themselves.
4.Show people that you’re not who you’re perceived to be.
First impressions scare me. Not because of my personality. But because the first thing people see is my race and gender. In many minds, it is wired that black + girl= loud and ghetto. I am neither of those things. There are positives and negatives in this. A positive being that I have never been bullied because they think I’m tough. Negatives: People think I’m not smart or take smart classes. Potential friends see me as something I’m not. People think I have weave in my hair. They think I automatically can twerk and do all of the dances that are cool now. They assume I know all slang kids use nowadays.
5.Don’t cry. Ever.
I hate showing negative emotions. I prefer not to show when I’m mad or upset. This is more a pride thing. I don’t like when people pity me or feel sorry for me. Once, I got hit in the face by both hand and softball (both by accident) and had the worst bruises ever. But, only shed tears of pain. I didn’t cry. I wanted to scream, but because I was in front of other people I acted like it didn’t hurt.
6.Go hard or go home.
I know this seems stupid, but it’s my mentality for all sports. Even if we’re going to lose (@JV Girls Soccer 2015), I still play my heart out. I enjoy playing all sports, and I get very competitive. If I don’t try my hardest, why am I even playing the sport? Fun fact- I’m one of those kids that people hate because I go hard in gym. I’m not always good. But as long as I’m having fun (#2), I don’t care.
7.Be a good friend.
I have the hardest time cutting off people whether they deserve it or not. If I got cut off, I would be really upset especially if they were a good friend at one time. When it comes to friends, I follow the rule, “Treat others how you want to be treated.” I am always there for my friends day or night. Though I suck at it, I try to console them when they are sad. I listen and help with their problems. I do everything that I expect a friend should do and I would never leave them unless they left me first.
ReplyDelete1. Embrace Yourself! Not Change Yourself!
The American standard of beauty is narrow, ignorant, and it discriminates against everyone who goes against the grain of the traditional idea of beauty. Beauty can be interpreted in many different ways, yet, this subjective concept has been adjusted so that women feel like beauty is objective. For example, the media creates ideals, in the form of celebrities and models, for women to admire. However, the creation of ideals causes a negative impact on women as their perception of beauty is altered to complement the media. If you haven’t noticed, the “ideals” created by the media have flawless skin, amazing figures, perfect facial structures, and lustrous hair. Which suggest to the average woman, that in order to be considered beautiful, she, too, must look like what she sees in ads. But this is where we go wrong!
LADIES, OPEN YOUR EYES! The media thrives off of our insecurities and flaws, and they are making a killing. We are giving the media exactly what they want, and allowing them to destroy how we view ourselves. Society is another factor that influences the perception of beauty. Nowadays, people are so judgmental of others. Women criticize other women, men criticize women, and women criticize men. However, this is unacceptable!
You know what I have to say about the media and society? FUCK THEM! And yes, I understand that these things are a lot easier said than done, but as women, we need to learn how to not care about other people’s opinions and embrace who we were intended to be. I am actually in the process of learning how to embrace my insecurities, flaws, culture, etc. I have come a long way. In fact, the girl that I was freshman year , is no where near the same as who I am now. I have slowly learned how to be more accepting of myself and others. I lowkey love myself, but it took many people to get me to this stage in life. I thank my loving friends, family, and teachers who allowed me to realize all of the great qualities I possessed. And now, I am doing the same for you. DO NOT, I REPEAT, DO NOT try to change who you are or what you do simply because someone else hates it. YOU are YOU for a reason.
2. Live YOUR Own life
This creed, is specifically for those who are pressured to live their life though someone else. There is not a day that goes by, where someone doesn’t ask me “what I want to be when I grow up”. This question irritates the shit out of me! I barely know how to get through the day, and now you expect me to know what I want to do two years from now. C’mon people, I’m still a freaking teenager. I want to be something different every second of the day. Anyways, when people ask me this questions, I try to avoid saying I don’t know. The reason why I do this is because, when you have no plan people think of you as some lazy bum who has nothing going for themselves. Well I am not that, so when someone asks me this annoying ass question I blurt out “ I would like to work in the medical field, perhaps as a pharmacist's or pediatric dentist.” See, it sounds much more persuasive than “idk”, and it will convince people that you know what you’re talking about. At one point, I considered being a pharmacist or dentist, but now I’m undecided. Sometimes I feel obligated to work in the medical field because it’s what my mom wants me to do. Everytime, I mention it, her face lights up with happiness. But, I don’t know if they are things I want to do for my entire life. I would really hate to disappoint my mom but if my heart's not in it, what’s the point? I know for a fact that I’m not the only child who goes through this. Which is why I dedicated this creed to us. Don’t spend your entire life doing something other people want you to do. Do what YOU want to do, because in the end you will be the one suffering and miserable every day. Don’t get me wrong, our parents, teachers, friends, or whomever may be upset, but they will eventually get over it.
3. Surround yourself around people who will encourage you to move forward in life.
DeleteIt is very important to surround yourself around the right people. It is always nice to have the support of family, friends, teacher, etc. when trying to move forward in life. Family, friends, or teachers are the second most supportive people in your life. You are the first. When life becomes difficult, people tend to shut down and give up on themselves. Which is why it necessary to have a backup support system. In the beginning of the year, Bunje told me that she was going to figure me out. It is now the third month of school, and she has already done so. She has taught me so much in such a little amount of time. Not only does she teach educational lessons, but life lessons as well. Bunje motivates me to become a better writer, student, and person, and I greatly appreciate her for that. Mrs. Rock encourages me every day to have confidence in myself. And last but not least Mr. Clark. Clark motivates me almost every morning in first period to “keep doing what I’m doing”. Also, my friends are a large part of my life. Most of my friends have similar goals as me, so we all help each other in a way. We push each other, work through things together, and support each other. My friends and teachers at Oakcrest high school are like a second family to me. I love and appreciate them so much, because without them I would most likely not be where I am at the moment.
4. Remain open-minded
Someone who is open-minded, is willing to consider new ideas.(refresher) It is impossible to know everything. Honestly, how do we know what we know now isn’t wrong. I mean think about it, almost everything we know today is derived from someone else’s theory. Yet, how did that person know what to name whatever they were experimenting? What if , the words I’m typing mean something totally different? These are the questions that constantly run through my brain.
The knowledge we currently have is not definite. This is evident, because almost every day new information is released, which usually contradicts the old information. You should never agree with someone else's opinion until you have enough evidence to prove that he/she is correct. Also, you should never rely too heavily upon one document. Use a variety of sources, in order to understand the different perspectives of the situation.
5. “Pursue and promote knowledge without expecting any results other than further understanding within yourself and others” - Bryan
Shout out to Bry Bry for this wonderful creed. I totally agree with him on this one. Anyways, I have to admit, last year I was very concerned about my grades, perhaps a little too concerned. I was caught up in the whole ranking situation. That explains it all. I wouldn’t say that I didn’t care about learning, but at times my grades became way more important to me than actually learning the content. I would check my genesis account three or four times a day. Every time I took a test, I walked around asking what everyone else received. It was terrible, and all I can say is that last year was a stressful hot ass mess. The main reason why I was so competitive about class ranking, was because my teachers, friends, and parents made it such a big deal. They pounded it so much into my head that I literally went crazy. However, since then I have changed. I barely check my genesis, because I honestly don’t care. Now, when I say “ I don’t care” I mean I don’t care as much as I used to. This year I focus more on understanding the concept of the material, rather than getting it done and receiving a grade. This year is a lot less stressful to me because I actually take the time to understand the content, rather than rushing through it. Don’t allow grades to control your life. Receiving an A because you cheated your way through, is incomparable to receiving a hard earned C. Also, keep in mind that school is for learning content, not stressing over grades.
6. Don’t be a bystander! Take a firm stance on whatever the issue may be, and advocate for what you believe in.
DeleteBased on my own observations, I noticed that people never readily stand up for what they want. They automatically think that their point is invalid, so they crumble it up and hit a three-pointer into the “recycling” bin. Even though our school doesn’t recycle. Anyways, if you take a firm stance on something you believe in, find evidence that supports it and tell people about it. Never bite your tongue, especially not in instances like this. I am a young african american woman, who defends her culture and people. I speak on behalf of those who share similar struggles, and I speak up for those who are too afraid to publicly speak.
7. Never expect something in return.
If you are doing something out of the kindness of your heart please do not expect something in return. Thats is just straight up rude. I honestly hate when I see people who only participate in volunteer activities, for the sake of a banging ass college application. Seriously though? That is the most selfish thing a person could ever do. Personally, I love and enjoy doing volunteer work. I lifeguard, I mentor younger students, I serve on the Juvenile Court Committee, I help the elderly, I help out a lot with my grandparents, I clean up trash, volunteer for the soup kitchen, volunteer for the food bank, etc. As you can see, I am very involved in the community, and I absolutely love it. I honestly love volunteering and interacting with older and younger people. They brighten my day! However, I don’t expect anything in return. In fact, when people offer me rewards I turn them down, because I don’t need it. They could probably use it more than me.
1. be nice but not overpowering
ReplyDeleteThis is very true. Be nice to people, but don’t be that person who is just annoying all the time. Buy people food, hold the door for the old lady, and respect your authority figures. You can be nice but strong. If someone does something to you then you have the right to treat them like anything.
2. don’t lie to anyone including children
Lying is the worst thing to do because, well what’s the point? If you're hiding something then it must be bad. If your lie to someone their respect for you will be low or nothing. Children shouldn’t be lied to just because they are children. Maybe say it in a easier way or simpler but don’t lie.
3. let out your anger but not on people
everyone should start crying. Yes it’s sad but it lets out everything you don’t want to have. If you want to draw or break things so be it. Just not the good plates. Let it out responsibly. Don’t ever take it out on the people you love. It just drives them away. If you care about someone then don’t have your feelings all in your head then do something you’ll regret….
4. look at the positive side and the negative. me rational.
If your boyfriends cheats on you, hell yeah be mad and all kinds of angry. Talk to the other girl or guy and see what happened. Don’t burn his clothes or scratch his car. If theses are life rules then you should be old enough to not do dumb things like that. Never say something that will set you as a kind-less person. You can be hurt and upset just don’t make other people feel that way in the process.
5. find the guy who opens the doors for you and makes you feel special
Finding a guy that is right for you is very hard. For some people, it takes years to find one. The key rules are to watch how he treats you. Don’t fall for the guys that make you fall. NO ABUSE IS WORTH STAYING. I believe there are multiple “love of your life” men. Jump. Don’t stand. Don’t assume. Assuming is the enemy. Trust your partner even when signs tell you not to. Love till the end. Give up on love either he’s not the one or it’s just not time.
6. do what you love and never less
Never let someone tell you what you should do. Now if your obviously bad maybeee. Find something you’re good at and love. If you don’t, then there will be that empty spot in your life wishing you had. Settle for less when knowing there’s more will eat you up inside. Find it and go do it.
7. be human
Being human is more than just having a heart and fingers. It has a meaning in which you should act. Know good from bad. Know him and her but also know him & him and her & her. People tend to not accept how things may be. They got to get over that. These different groups and cultures are suppose to make what the world is today, different. Being human is not killing others. Not killing them for a belief. Being human is reacting with other humans and loving each other.
Seven Point Creed:
ReplyDelete1. Be happy, life is too short to be angry.
As you all probably already noticed, I am usually always happy and nice. There are reasons for that: That was how I was raised: to be nice to others and to never hold unnecessary grudges, another reason for that is because I choose to be happy. Life's too short to be angry, hold grudges, or stress. I try to live my life as how I want it to be: simple, fun, and cheerfully. I want to make the most of my life and being angry takes up too much time and is not in my life schedule.
2. Strive to thrive, not just to survive.
The world is a big and scary place and if you don’t have all your ducks in a row, the world is going to eat you up and chew you out. That is why I included the phrase, “strive to thrive, not just to survive” because no one wants to live a mediocre life and work for a minimum wage job. That is why I always try to work my hardest because I want to be successful and make something of my life, so when I get old I can look back and see that I had a wholesome and successful life.
3. Persevere, don’t leave loose ends.
This Point entwines into Point 2 in ways because in my life, you should always get your work done diligently. Don’t wait to the last moment to get your homework done because then it won’t be your best work and no one ever wants to put their name on a piece of lousy work.
4. A spade is a spade
Some of you may not know this saying but it means, “calling it as it is”. Meaning that you are truthful and you don’t beat about the bush. I believe I live by these words because I don’t like to circumvent the truth, even if it is hurtful, because people have the right to know things. For example, if you have something on your shirt or on your face, I am going to tell you because I don’t want you to walk around all day having you think nothing is on your shirt. It’s better off having a moment of embarrassment of being told something is on your shirt, than having it on you all day with people secretly laughing at you.
5. Don’t be afraid to fall.
In other words, don’t be afraid to take risks. I need to learn this because most of the time I always play on the safe side, but I need to play on the risky side once in awhile. I am not per say a “goody two-shoes”, but I don’t want to get in trouble or I don’t want to get hurt, therefore I always seem to fall back into the safe side.
6. Do as much as possible.
As I said in point 1, life is short. Since life is short, I’m going to try to live it to the fullest. I came to this realization back in May when I was told I had to get back surgery. As I was in my orthopedic surgeon's office, he was listing all of the side effects to the surgery, such as paralysis. To me, that is a huge life altering change. Therefore, now I try to live to the fullest because you never know what could happen to you at any given time.
7. Go to the beach.
Most of you are probably thinking, “Is this supposed to be a saying for something insightful?” or “This is quite the ambiguous statement”. Well, it’s not a substitution for an insightful saying and yes, it is an ambiguous statement. I put this in my seven point creed because I absolutely love the beach. I have gone to the beach every summer of my life for as long as I can remember. Therefore, I thought I might as well include it because that is how I like to live my life: living it at the beach.
1. Be nice to people.
ReplyDelete2. There is no such thing as the “best.”
3. Embrace art.
4. Love the people in your life.
5. Words and actions have equal power.
6. Your struggle is real.
7. Ignorance is not, nor will it ever, be bliss.
1. “Nice” is such a simple, easy word (it’s not even AP Lang worthy) but it reflects exactly how simple and easy it is to just be kind to people. Being rude takes way too much energy, and the energy you put out is the energy you receive back. In this case, opposites don’t attract. Constantly being unnecessarily nasty will not bring you happiness or “good vibes” or good friends. I hate the fact that “mean” has become the new “funny.” It’s not funny to bring someone down for no reason and it’s not funny to be completely insensitive to others’ feelings. It costs nothing to simply be polite and amicable. It’s not being “fake”-- it’s being aware of social boundaries. Obviously, you don’t need to respect everybody, and you probably shouldn’t, but it isn’t an arduous task to just be a decent person.
2. I’ve been told from a very young age from numerous people, “You’re so smart!” And the continued repetition of that very false message, along with my idealistic dad believing that I’m super gifted and super cool, made me feel that I was somehow responsible to try and be the “best.” (I am not gifted, nor am I super cool. Obviously.) My mind hardwired itself to believe that I had to be the “best” at school, because as a child who was never put in any sports, what else could I try to be the “best” at? Needless to say, this killed my self-esteem because there was no possible way for me to be the “best” anything. I was a hot mess of a sixth grader, minus the hot, and no matter where I looked, I could not find my worth. It wasn’t until I dropped the mentality of trying to be the “best” that I became ten times happier. I’ve found my worth in other things, and instead of trying to be the “best” at school, I’ve started to try and become the “best” me. And having a “best” mentality is not only damaging, but it’s also illogical. There is always going to be someone that’s better than you, and then someone better than them, and that train will go on forever. Why waste your time trying to be better than everyone else, when you can be a kickass version of you? The only person you need to make proud is you.
3. Something that blows my mind is the fact that human brains have the ability to create. We don’t just think to survive like animals do. We think sometimes, just for the sake of thinking. We paint and write and sing to tell stories and messages, and we do all of these things for our own satisfaction and happiness. Art is so important to the fabric of human nature, to our culture, to our world and to our way of life. We have to embrace that and never ever let it go. Music holds value. Books hold value. Movies hold value. Paintings and sculptures and fashion hold value. We are so blessed to have ways of expression that other creatures don’t have-- ways of expression that go beyond simply language. So draw as much as you can, even if it’s just stick figures. Dance to your heart’s content, even if you look like Taylor Swift at award shows. Sing, belt that Adele song, even if you’re tone deaf! We have the ability to do all of these things, so why wouldn’t we?
4. A lot of the time, in small suburban towns like our beloved Mays Landing, groups of kids become glued together. First we meet at Shaner, then we get shipped off to Hess, then to Davies, and finally to Oakcrest. This can be a good thing and a bad thing. It’s good that we’ve grown up around each other so we’re comfortable with one another. It’s also good that most of us have our set friend groups where we are supported and loved. But on the other hand our familiarity with each other can often be intimidating to “outsiders.” And also, when we’ve been friends with the same four people for so long, it can be hard to break away. The length of a friendship has no bearing on its healthiness, which leads me to believe that if you don’t truly love the people in your life, they probably shouldn’t be in your life. “In your life” is also not to be taken literally, because obviously your parents are in your life and if you don’t love your parents, you can’t kick them out. “In your life” means to have any sort of influence on how you live your life. If you don’t love someone, you generally wouldn’t let them affect you. Therefore, they’re not “in your life.” Anyway. If you’re surrounded by people that don’t recognize your worth, you have every right to leave them, regardless of how long you’ve been friends. Surrounding yourself with good people is one of the keys to a happy existence, so when you decide who you want to be influential in your life, ask yourself if you truly love them.
Delete5. Humans have a system of sounds and syllables and inflections and tones that allow us to communicate. We can communicate complex ideas, or cheesy knock-knock jokes, but all the same, we have words. We give these words power, sometimes even more power than a physical weapon. And because they have power, words can hurt, words can better, words can make or break your life. Therefore, the expression, “Actions speak louder than words” is not always true. If you communicate one thing with your words, and then do another thing, you jumble up your intent. Words and actions go hand in hand. One does not supercede the other. I find myself constantly telling my little brother, “Watch what you say.” This isn’t because he curses or says something inappropriate. Rather, I want to teach him that he has to make himself understood. His words have an impact, no matter how big or small, and I want to make sure the impact is always positive. We can’t take back words-- once they’re out in the universe, they’re never coming back. Instead of just trying to do the right thing, let’s try to say AND do the right thing. You never know how your words can make someone’s day, or save them from something unknown to you.
6. In society we are often told that our problems don’t matter because someone out there has it worse. This could not be more false. Everybody’s problems matter, and it’s unfair to weigh one person’s struggle against another’s. If you have a problem, you have every right to be bothered by it. Consistently shoving your feelings back down because “oh, people are starving in Africa” is not healthy. Work through your issues, talk to people about them if you want to, and don’t try to minimize them. As a matter of fact, this recently happened with the Paris attacks. Individuals took the tragedy in Paris as a way to attack the #BlackLivesMatter movement. This was entirely unwarranted. The events in Paris were devastating, and to use them as nothing more than a propeller to demean another social issue is disgraceful. Terrorism and violence is an issue, racism is an issue, and both hold priority and importance.
Delete7. I cannot even count the amount of times I’ve been so enraged by someone’s ignorant comment that I’ve either 1. left the room or 2. sent a five paragraph essay in size 12 font MLA format to my cousins just ranting and cursing like a sailor. I’m sick and tired of hearing “Ew, feminism.” I’m sick and tired of people thinking “The Great Gatsby” is some kind of epic love story between Daisy and Gatsby. I’m sick and tired of people everywhere thinking they know everything. I don’t know everything (I barely know anything to be honest), you don’t know everything, not even Bryan knows everything, and that’s just the way it works. But it’s what we do with our ignorance that matters. The pursuit of knowledge is about understanding other people around us. The pursuit of knowledge is opening your mind and listening to others’ opinions and ideas, whilst still being able to form your own. I don’t remember a time I’ve ever said, “I’d rather not know.” I always want to know more and more. I cannot bear to live in ignorance, even if it might potentially save me from hurt feelings. It’s especially important to make valiant efforts to educate ourselves on serious social issues that may not affect our lives directly, but may affect the lives of others. If you don’t see the point in “feminism,” talk to somebody who does. (Please, I beg.) If you can’t figure out for the life of you how anyone could like Donald Trump, talk to somebody who does. (I still have yet to do this.) You don’t have to agree with them, but understanding more will be nothing but beneficial to you. Instead of making assumptions and going off of what you see on meaningless Twitter accounts, make an attempt to educate yourself. Life might be easier in a state of ignorance, but it will never be fulfilling.
Sorry this was so long, but like "Emotional Ashley" from The Bachelor once said, "I have too many emotions to ever be brief."
1.Don’t be your own worst enemy.
ReplyDeleteI often tell myself there is no way I can realistically get the solo or role, or finish my homework early, or ever be able to be completely happy with all aspects of my life. You know what I found? I’m always right. Of course, I will never achieve these things if I have that mentality. There are already enough bullies in the world. I shouldn’t be putting myself down too.
2. You are not committing a disservice to anyone by doing what you love.
People always tell me I should study medicine, law, accounting because I am definitely “smart enough for it”. But I would be living a nightmare if I ever pursued these paths. I don’t want to pick a degree just because the job I will get after pays well. If I did that, I would be stressed and unhappy. I want a job that isn’t a job. I want to proudly say I never work because my work is what I love to do. And there isn’t anything wrong with that! I wish I could always be so confident because this conversation with every adult in my life makes my skin crawl.
3. Do stuff for you.
When I do things to impress or please someone, I just get upset in the end. When I try to impress people, I never get the reaction I want out of them. When I try to please someone, I just become more frustrated with them for pushing me to do things I didn’t want to do. I have to do things because I want to.
4. Sleep is the best.
There will always be tv episodes to be watched, homework to do, and songs to practice tomorrow. But today you need sleep. Without sleep, you will be cranky and it is so much better to wake up in a good mood.
5. Strong people ask for help too.
I have a voice in my head constantly telling me I have to be strong and show no weaknesses. For years, I thought this meant that I couldn't let anyone see that I was struggling or that someone or something hurt my feelings. Living this way made me miserable. I didn’t feel comfortable with anyone and I felt like I was alone. I couldn't overcome this sensation until I asked for help and actually talked to people, as opposed to the surface conversations I always had. Everyone needs help. It’s fine to ask for help.
6. Appreciate all that you have.
I have my family and friends who love me. I live in a country where I can get a great education just like any boy. I go to a school where performing arts thrive. I live in my home, which I know is safe and sound. My family has food to eat and clothes to wear. This is all amazing. I am so blessed to have what I have, and I should focus on that instead of the small stuff that worries me.
7. Set Goals.
If you are not working towards a goal, you are wasting your time. It’s not fair to you to just go through the motions of what others’ expectations are for you. Freshman year I tried playing golf with our school team. I didn’t necessarily want to play it, but I thought it would be really bad if I didn’t play some sport in high school for college applications. I went to practices for a few weeks and it became clear to me that golf is not the sport for me, at least not now. Nothing about it excited me. The practices conflicted with rehearsals for One Acts so I faded away from golf after a month. I didn’t make any goals for golf because I didn’t care about it, and it was only going to take time away from what I am passionate about. Working towards goals motivates me to give my best effort to everything I do. I never get anywhere with other things like my brother’s video games because I don’t have anything to work for.
Seven Point Creed:
ReplyDelete1. In order to cross oceans, you need to burn bridges.
People will always attempt to hold you back from your full potential, with people always holding you back you can’t make large amounts of progress forward. Sometimes you just need to cut your losses with them to do what’s best for you. The only way you can hope to make huge strides in life is to cut ties with the people holding you back.
2. I am not my own absolute
There is a higher power than myself. Whether or not you believe in Religion it doesn’t matter, I try to live in retrospect to Christianity. I don’t use to the bible as most self-proclaimed Christians use it which is to basically make the point that they are “holier than thou”. I simply hate that people use the bible as a way to portray their hatred toward groups of people, in my opinion it is no different than what groups such as ISIS do. I believe that you can’t be your own absolute, you have to have an absolute that wasn’t created by you.
3. A fool can appear wise along as he keeps his mouth shut.
Don’t try to be something you’re not because eventually people will find out the truth. If you just keep to yourself then you will not appear foolish. (This one is pretty self-explanatory)
4. Carry yourself as you would want others to carry you.
Have confidence in yourself. Don’t slump and lack confidence, you would want people to drag you on the ground when they could carry you above their heads so why to give that impression. Everyone has something that they can be proud of. How you carry yourself is important when it comes to interactions with people, so carry yourself well.
5. Search for perfection and it will never be reachable.
If you crave always being perfect, you will never be able to actually reach it. The more you want perfection the more your imperfections will bother you, this applies to relationships, looks, and family not to mention many other aspects of life. You have to accept that perfection cannot be reached in order to live a happy life.
6. My universe doesn’t revolve around me.
Don’t be that person that believes that the whole world revolves around then. Think of other people, you’re not the most important person in the world. If you want to do something reckless just think about how many people could be affected by that action, for example drinking a driving instead of you thinking about getting home just think about how many people’s lives you could ruin. Think of other people because you’re not the only person affected by your actions.
7. Consistency.
This is perhaps the most important of all of my seven creeds, mainly because of how simple it is. Consistency is important in almost any aspect of life; work, relationships, etc.… all need consistency. Even though most of us have not experienced what “work” is actually like, we all know that it’s important to show up early or on time, if you’re consistently late then most likely you will lose your job. When you’re working the amount of effort that you exert is also important, if you work hard every day then most likely you won’t get fired while if you have a consistently low work rate then you have the larger chance of getting fired. In relationships, consistency is extremely important whether its communication or commitment. If you don’t communicate what annoys you it will just keep happening, in order to stop those things from happening you need stress every time that it annoys you, don’t say it bothers you one day and then let it slide the next. Commitment needs consistency if you’re constantly indecisive about whether you want to be together than simply you shouldn’t be. Try to be consistent in everything you do.
My creed is always at the back of my mind. This is mainly due to the interesting ways I have acquired a few of the sayings. Let’s get right into it.
ReplyDelete1. My first and second sayings come from one person, my dad. Every morning when he called me from work before I went to school when I was younger he would preach these words, “It’s your day make it what it is, be a sponge and absorb, know what’s going on around you.” Let’s break it up first, “It’s your day make it what it is.” Yes, this is funny, and even more annoying considering I would hear this every morning. But I actually like this. You should always have confidence in yourself. Stay positive, if you want to feel good and have a good life or “day”, make it that way. Amazing things don’t happen for no reason. You have to make wonderful things happen. The attitude you take on the day with is how the day will be. I chose this because I actually like it, but I cannot ever seem to get it out of my head.
2. Now the second part, “Be a sponge and absorb, know what’s going on around you.” Again stupid right. The sponge part just means to learn and absorb those things. The rest is just common sense, do not be oblivious. Be aware of your surroundings, if you’re in a car driving, pay attention so next time you may recognize land marks. When the time is serious do not be daydreaming about who knows what, pay attention. If you miss something important you won’t know it until it bits you in the ass. If you’re aware, you will never miss an opportunity and you will never live in regret. These two sayings mean so much to me because I will always remember my dad’s words, no matter how dumb they may seem.
3. Treat yourself fairly. If you think of yourself as incapable or stupid and constantly say people are better than you, than that will soon be true. You are what you…think. If you think bad things about yourself than you will not have very high expectations. Be who you want to be and do not let anyone including yourself interfere with that. You are the most important thing in your like, get that strait. Similarly, if you do not think highly of yourself, chances are that other people will not think too highly of you either. I chose this because happiness is key and this is a step in that direction. Confidence is everything. If you have enough confidence you can just fake your way through life—not saying this is a good idea but it is true. If you are that confident person than other people will think of you as extremely confident, and maybe aspire to be like you.
4. Have faith in people. Or at least give them a chance to prove themselves. Everyone at one point in their life or another needs someone to lean on. If you think of everyone as inferior and unable to do the plethora of tasks you do on a daily basis, you will just wind up shutting everyone out. There is always something you could use some help with, so give someone your faith to help you. I’m not saying lean entirely on someone, but what’s the worst that could happen? At least give them a change, and you know what if they fail, they fail, that isn’t a good person to put your faith in, but give them a try first. Don’t just assume that they are not capable, because you know what they say about people who assume right? Having faith in people is key because you do not want to learn the hard way like I have. This is why I chose this saying.
5. Be happy. This is very important when your life is crazy. Sometime there is just too much that you have to do in a short amount of time. Often times stress can change your mood, which makes people think differently. In these circumstances you can come off as rude, mean, a stick in the mud, and many other condescending descriptive words. But if you always stay happy and remember that whatever is going on, there could always be worse. People envy happy people.
6. Keep a good group of friends. To me friends mean the world. When it has been a long week at school or whatever is on your shoulders, hanging out with friends is the cure. The only way for friends to be “good friends” is if you all appreciate each other. Being friends with someone is a relationship. There should not be any gossip or things like that that make you even more on edge between your friends. You also should not be “fake” in order to get or keep friends. Friends are people you have common interests with, unless that common interest is being an ass, your group of friends should not contain any gossip, talking behind people’s backs or anything of the sort.
Delete7. Finally, you should have an open mind. Do not be open to everything, but do not be a “NO-ER”. Yes I have made up that word. If someone says, “We should do …” do not just say no. Think it over, and if you really don’t want to do that thing, than give another idea. Having an open mind will get you farther in life than not having an open mind. Think of all the experiences that you missed out on because, “you didn’t feel like it”. What a lame excuse. Being open-minded can get you very far in life.
Jasmine Tran’s Seven Point Creed:
ReplyDelete1. Appreciate the things in life.
Whether it’s people, memories, or even a simple pair of socks--we often take these things for granted. Life is unpredictable. One minute you could be alive, the next--dead. There’s no telling what tomorrow will bring, so you must treat it like it’s your last. Life is a gift. We should cherish it, not kick it off to the side and forget about it. Up until the last month, I was like everyone else: not having a care in the world, or at least, being oblivious to everything around me. I knew, but I didn’t really “know” (If you get my drift). But then my aunt was put on life support. Seeing her so sad and suffering made me realize just how truly lucky I was. And you are too. We wake up. We go to school. We hang out with friends. We watch movies with family. We have food on the table. We have it all. But some people, those who aren’t as fortunate as us, can never wake up, or go to school, or hang out with friends, or watch movies with family, or eat. They don’t have it all. So, my friend, never take anything for granted. You may not think so, but you have a good life.
2. Find happiness.
I say “find happiness” because I feel like it’s hard to “be happy”. It’s not easy to obtain, and when you do, it’s difficult to hold onto. Happiness is like a switch: sometimes it’s on, and other times it’s off. But that doesn’t entirely mean when it’s off, you’re sad. Or when it’s on, you’re happy. You have the ability to control the switch. As my main man Albus Dumbledore once said, “Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times, when one only remembers to turn on the light.” With everything that’s going on in the world, or even personally, it seems like there’s no hope. But you must remember, life is full of obstacles, and you WILL get through it. I promise. It will be hard, I understand, but like everything on this planet, there’s always something to balance it out. You just have to keep that in mind. Look to the light. never the dark.
3. Remember where you came from.
After you graduate from high school and move to the other side of the globe, remember where you came from. I’m on the same boat as you: I dislike New Jersey. It’s boring, I feel ya. But this place, this boring old state, is what made you the person today. The people who you grew up with and the town you lived in has shaped you in more ways than one. You just don’t realize it. Face it, this is home. Bad experience or not, what happened here is the sole reason you are who you are. So, when one of you become famous, don’t you dare forget me.
4. Be respectful.
You don’t know how many times I’ve seen a lunch tray sitting on top of the water fountain. THE WATER FOUNTAIN. A lunch tray belongs in the lunchroom, not on a public drinking facility. The custodians work hard to maintain our school, especially since ours is old. Why do you have to make their job even more difficult? You do not own the place. Be mindful of where you’re at. This is not your home. Show some respect, please. I don’t care what excuse you have. These people come into school every day way before we arrive and stay after we leave. They clean every single room in the building. Every. Single. One. Do you know how stressful and tiring that is? So a simple thank you, OR RETURNING THE LUNCH TRAYS BACK TO THEIR DESIGNATED AREA, will do them wonders.
5. Learn to forgive.
DeleteOne should never have to live life with hatred or grief. You’re making yourself suffer, and you don’t even realize it. You’re missing out on life, my friend. Thus, learn to forgive yourself. What happened, happened. There’s nothing you can do about it anymore. You must pick yourself up and continue on. It will be hard, but once you finally relieve the weight on your shoulders, everything will be A-okay. I guarantee, it will be smooth sailing from here on out.
6. Remember, you are a human being.
I don’t know if you realized this or not, but you’re a human being (CONGRATS!). So you’re allowed to break down here and there. You’re allowed to make mistakes once in awhile. You’re allowed to be angry at stupid things. No one will hold it against you. You are you and that is truer than true. No one is perfect. It’s okay to fall. Sometimes, you just gotta have those days...
7. Breathe.
When you feel like the world is caving in on you, and all this stress is attacking you like a herd of geese, stop for a moment and breathe. This week as been one crazy week, I admit. And I don’t even want to talk about next week, but we’ve made it this far. I found that if you take it one step at a time, life wouldn’t be so horrible. I assure you, we can do this. Just breathe. (I know, I’m sorry. This last one was bad)
My 7 point creed. I live everyday like my last and learned the hard way on why I should live how I live. I keep my friends close and my enemies closer and all my walls I have built over the years have been created because of some of the people I would have taken a bullet for. Life is good though, sometimes you just have to breathe and remind yourself it's never that bad.
ReplyDelete1. Show me your friends and I’ll show you, you.
My grandfather used to always tell me this when I was younger and I never actually understood it. I would just do the typical nod my head like I knew what he was talking about then carried on with my day. But now that I am older, I grasped that it was his way of saying who you’re friends are, are who you are. If you have a bad reputation, chances are people are going to look at you the same. I don’t live by this because I care about what people think, because I don’t, I live by this because I think picking the best friends in high school is essential. My amazing friends are the reason I am who I am today and I couldn’t thank them enough. Their good habits have rubbed off on me and I hope I taught them some things along the way as well.
2. Home isn’t always a house.
Home isn’t always a building with a mailbox, driveway, front door, and windows. Home can be someone’s arms. A school. A person. A place. I don’t believe “home” is on North Street. I don’t refer to my house as home. I consider home 204, my friends house, and certain people's arms.
3. Take care of those who take care of you. "Don't bite the hand that feeds you." I strongly believe the people that go out of their way for you, should get the same in return. It is hard to come across a lot of nice people, so keep them while you can. Showing people you care can be a way of taking care of them as well.
4. Time does not heal everything. I say this and I say it strongly. Things don't always get better, they just get easier. Time heals a lot, broken bones, heart ache, the feeling of missing someone, but it doesn't remove memories. Sure, time heals broken bones, but that pain can still strike back sometimes. I broke my foot in 8th grade and sometimes I still feel the pain. Just like how heartaches get better, but sometimes the pain still comes back in little tabs. Time can make things easier, but how much easier would life get if time erased memories as well?
5. Love yourself first. I learned the hard way that a person cannot love another fully until they love themselves first. But then again, on another hand, sometimes we need to meet someone to teach us to love ourselves. At the end of the day, all we really have is ourselves. We never exactly know what someone's true intentions are, so if someone does hurt you in the long run, you will always have self-love. With self-love, a person could never feel lonely. And feeling lonely is by far the worse feeling in the world.
6. Some things are better left unsaid. I have no filter, and whatever I think, I say. Which most of the time this comes back and bites me in the butt but I learned throughout my long 16 years that biting my tongue is usually the right thing to do. In most situations, or arguments in that matter, people just want a rise out of you, so it's just better to shut up and move on with your day.
7. Appreciation. I suck at showing people I appreciate them and that's why I lose a lot of people. I care about EVERYTHING anyone does for me- little or small, I just have a weird way of showing it. Maybe this is something I overthink, or something I actually need to work on but I think showing someone how much are care, love and appreciate them is essential to any type of relationship.
My 7 Point Creed
ReplyDelete1.Forgive, No Matter Who It Is
Everybody in the world makes mistakes. We must learn to never hold grudges. Even if we are mad at something, we must eventually forgive at the end. We must also learn to forgive ourselves. Do not cry over that test that you just failed in class. We must forgive yourself and promise to do better. If we do not do that, then our life would be miserable
2. Laugh At Your Mistakes
If you make a mistake, laugh it out. So many people in this world never show their true side because they are afraid to make mistakes. But when they do make mistakes, they are ashamed of it. Don’t be ashamed of your mistakes, instead laugh at it. People learn from their mistakes.Even if it's not a happy laugh still laugh. Whenever I fail Ms. Bunje’s vocab quizzes, I laugh bitterly and I get over it. It encourages to never make the same mistake again, even I still fail them the next time too.
3. Money is Not the Solution to Everything
Sure we need money to function in life, but you cannot buy everything with money. Those celebrities that you see on TV, they buy their happiness. They buy huge houses and rich cars just to show themselves off. They do not know how to appreciate even the smallest things in life. I’m not saying all of the celebrities are like this, just some of them. Nobody needs money to be happy. The love of our life, cannot be bought with money. Everyone in this world needs love, and that is not bought with money. Just love can make you become the happiest person in the world.
4. It Is Okay to Fail
Failure drives you to become great. You learn from failing. Those math quizzes you fail and those SAT vocab quizzes that you fail, all motivate you to study harder on the next quiz. People succeed in life because they keep on trying even after they fail multiple times. Just like how Abigail Adams mentions Cicero and how he overcame obstacles in her letter to John Q. Adams, people must overcome failure in order to succeed.
5. Respect Yourself and Others
There is this saying that in order to get respect, you must give respect first. Everyone in this world deserves respect. Okay maybe not all people, but you get my point. Respect others because it will make you have a better reputation. The thing that annoys me the most is when students do not give respect to teachers. I mean come on people, the teachers go through all the trouble just to help you learn. If you give teachers a shitty attitude, then you do not deserve their help. Also, respect yourself. No matter who you are, you should give respect to yourself. Those people who think so lowly of themselves, it annoys me. You are created with a purpose in life, so treat yourself like a champion.
6. Only Trust Yourself
I’m not saying to not trust your friends. I mean, the only person you can trust is yourself. If you think a decision is wrong, then don’t make that decision. Don’t let peer pressure get in the way, or be influenced by your friends. The worst scenario might be is when your friend that you trusted so much, betrays you. I know that feeling, it sucks. I’m not saying to not trust your friends, but trust yourself the most. It is your decision that matters, not anyone else's decision.
7. Reward Yourself
For all the hard work and for going through life, you deserve to reward yourself. Small things like buying yourself a present. Or for every good grade that you get, reward yourself by going to the movies. Studies prove that rewarding yourself, motivate you to do good things because we think of the reward at the end. So next time, you get a good grade, make sure to reward yourself at the end.
1. Embrace your mistakes and learn from them.
ReplyDeleteEverybody makes mistakes; it’s just the way life is. But, whether you learn and grow from them or not, is up to you. I believe that with every mistake made, a new learning experience is now available. With every error, you can gain knowledge of what is right and of what is wrong. You can learn of past experiences and apply them to the present and future. You can now know what to do and what not to do with a better sense of judgment. I try to live by these words as much as possible because people tend to give up on the things and people they care about after making a mistake or doing something wrong. They ignore their mess-ups and hope for the best, but the best won’t come without the realization of what went wrong and how to either fix it or learn. But, it’s not even just that. Some people are too scared to mess up and live life in the comfort zone and stick to what they know, and while it is a safe way to go through life, it’s not the way to be able to experience all that life has to offer. I don’t want to be someone who lives life being too afraid to be wrong and I especially don’t want to keep making the same mistakes time and time again.
2. Take risks and do something crazy once in a while.
Some of the best memories come from the most impetuous ideas. My life right now is a narrow one-way road. I know what I have to do and I do what I know. But when an unknown intersection comes up every once in a while on that road, I make the turn and go down the unmarked road and take my chance. Taking risks will always be dicey as you can never expect what’s going to happen. But, I believe that the thrill of not knowing whether it will pay off or not is worth it. Because if it does, then you’ll revel in it, but if it doesn’t at least you wouldn’t regret not taking the chance. It’s better to live life taking risks every once in a while than to think back and regret it ten years down the line when you’re thinking about what could’ve been. And the same the thing applies with doing something wild and unimaginable, especially doing it with your closest friends. Life is a rollercoaster and you chose the craziest one to go on.
3. Don’t expect so highly of people all the time.
Having such high expectations for anything or anybody can unknowingly make you suffer. If you keep looking for people that hold up to your unrealistic expectations, sometimes you’ll miss those who with time could be best for you. Expecting too much of someone can be good and bad, they may come through, but sometimes there’s a chance of your expectations crashing down on you. I try to set high expectations for myself and even I disappoint myself many times. So, if I can’t even reach my own expectations I can’t rely on the expectation that I have for others, so I try not to expect too much.
4. Cherish the little things in life.
Life is full of surprises and you will not always get your way and get what you want. And that goes to say that you will not always be happy about how things turn out and come to be. My solution to that problem is to be grateful for the little things you have. Be thankful for your close-knit group of friends who you know will always be there for you. Be appreciative for those few treasures that have an irreplaceable value. Be happy that you have a roof you’re your head and food on the table Because a ton of friends you barely know, a trunk full of fancy material objects, and hopes for richness don’t come close to the simple things you already have and don’t think about. If you can be happy for the little things now then you’ll be ecstatic when the bigger things start falling into place.
5. Don’t try to please everybody; it’s impossible.
DeleteNot everyone you meet will like you. It doesn’t matter whether it’s your appearance or attitude, some people will find a reason to judge. No matter where you go or what you do, there will always be someone who will disagree with your ideas and views. And when that happens, you should never change your beliefs to fit theirs or do something against your moral standards just to feel accepted. You should never change who you are to make yourself more pleasing to someone else. If you never gave them a reason to dislike you, then don’t go out of your way to please them. If someone doesn’t like you for who you are and what you stand for acknowledge it and either move on or understand where they are coming from. I like to try my best to make people happy and like me but when I know that that’s not going to happen I realize that I should stop trying. Because if they don’t like me and judge me without really getting to know me, then that’s their problem and I don’t need to deal with it. No one should go out of his or her way to make people like them because sometimes people are dead set on hating. And no one should pretend to be someone they’re not, because really, the only person one should really ever try to please is themselves.
6. “Treat yoself.” – Tom Haverford
Treating yourself once a while for your efforts and accomplishments is something everyone should do. It gives you an incentive to do bigger and better things and motivates you to stay on track. Rewarding yourself not only allows you to spoil yourself, but it also is like a present from you to you saying that you appreciate your own efforts and have done a great job. I think this is an excellent idea, which is why I added it as one of my creeds. I like to treat myself to things after things that are difficult and take a lot of effort, especially after doing things that I don’t like because it gives me the drive to do it again week after week. Treating yourself is such a simple concept that most people should do more often.
7. You choose your family.
Everyone has heard the saying, “blood is thicker than water.” Although that may be true literally, it doesn’t always have to be true figuratively. Yes, your family is your family. You can’t get rid of them because they will always be related by blood. However, they are not your only family. I like to think of the word family to mean “a group of beings who care about each other and will do anything for each other.” Your friends can be your family, in fact, I think of my friends as part of my family. Your pets can be your family. Your teachers can be your family. And your family can be anyone else that you feel close to and will always be there for. Not only that but sometimes the family you create is stronger than the one that you are born into. The one you create consists of those select people you choose who understand you and know you better than your real family. Because why else would be a part of your chosen family if you didn’t connect with them on a certain level. And as before I mentioned the proverb “blood is thicker than water,” but did you know that we, as a whole, have misinterpreted that for such a long time? The actual proverb is “the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb,” which means that families you make with people of no blood relation are deeper than the one that consists of blood.
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ReplyDelete1. Always Look to Improve Yourself
ReplyDeleteYou only have so much time and it would be ignominious of you to waste it. Everything in life should be made use of. While you sit idly on the couch people are out there giving purpose (the movement) to their life and are trying to make the best out of it. I make sure I utilize every ounce of my time, even though ounces don’t measure time, and I use it to learn something new. Whether it’s watching a documentary, reading an article or playing an instrument. All of which are things that would make me a better person. Being a good person is something that I wish every human being should strive for and I praise people who try to accomplish that.
2. Be Selfish
You should always look to do things for other people. However, you should always give time to indulge yourself. Believe me, I tried to live a life where I helped other people 100% of the time and I could not do it. When you try to live a life like that you will end up with more regrets than praise. In the end of the day the only one you can really trust is yourself and you should reward yourself now and then for everything you do.
3. Friends
They are always there for you when you need them and are usually the first people you look to talk to about your problems. The first people you trust with your problems. If you keep them at arm’s length then the only you are truly hurting is yourself. They will stand by you when you need them so treat them how they deserve to be treated; not like shit.
4. Family
They have been with you since birth, hopefully. They are connected to you through blood and through love (hopefully) which I believe are the strongest connections between people. When you’re friends are gone, most of you have your family to turn to when you need them. They have been with you for the longest time and took care of you when you needed them. Most of us feel like we owe them our lives and would easily trade it to save theirs. Try to keep a relationship with them; as good as you can manage.
5. Love
I am a hopeless romantic. I would do anything and everything for the person I love even if they don’t love me back. It is hard to find your “soulmate” but I believe trying to find one, then finding the right one is one of the most beautiful gifts that this life can give you. Some things are better when you have someone to share it with.
6. Quality Time
Spend your time wisely in this short-lived world. Spend it with family, with friends and with things that you love to do. Fill it with happiness, sadness, and laughter. Spending time with your family and friends results in very precious times. Very memorable times that you can treasure forever. Times like these became different and harder to obtain due to this busy life we call today. Always look to share the time you have in this world with others. Loneliness is not an option.
7. Don’t Be Afraid to Be Yourself
I have encountered so many people and participated in so many things; all of which culminated into what made me, me. I am proud of who I am and I make sure everyone knows that I don’t care what they think of me. Only my opinion of myself should matter. I am a nerd, a geek and a weirdo in many aspects. All qualities that I cherish in myself and what other people cherish about me. It is better to be yourself and to have people love you for it; than being someone you’re not and having to live the rest of your life hiding behind a mask.
Alphonso--this would be more powerful if you turned the words of your creed into statements.
DeleteOhhhh wow. This is going to be a hard one. I do not think about what I do, I just do it. Yeah after I do something stupid (I do a lot of stupid things) I think, I am stupid why did I just do that I should’ve known it would turn out bad, but i never really find myself thinking about things that I live by and I do not have thing’s that I base decisions around. But now it is time to think about what I never do and it could be helpful.
ReplyDeleteMy Seven Point Creed
1. Do not lie to yourself, accept and embrace it.
Now this is a controversial one. I say that you should take and own up to what you have/do/say/are etc. If you are something that may not be to your standard, then you should either work as hard as possible to change it, or if it is not able to be changed, just accept it. Do not lie to yourself or anybody around you, just accept whatever is and make it in some way positive. Me myself, I make jokes about my faults, some people laugh and some people yell at me cause they don’t agree with my point. For example, I usually just sit at home when I’m not at school and I don't get out that often beside sports and school, and I always make the joke I have no friends. Some people laugh at this joke, some ignore it, and some people are like Haley in the library today threatening to hit me if I say it again.
2. Confidence is key, to a certain extent.
Confidence is great. It can get you out of low points in your life like minor depression and overall can make you a better, happier person. This point relates to the last one with what I am going to say. Confidence is only good to a certain point. There is such thing as over confidence and it can be a problem. i believe you shouldn’t think of yourself as something that you aren’t. I used to know a kid who, to put it bluntly, was horrible at every sport he tried, specifically football because that is the sport I played with him. Now if you are bad at a sport, it’s probably not your fault, some people aren’t built for some things, it’s not a problem, but I hated this kid so much because he was the cockiest person ever but he was horrible at the sport he would have nothing to back it up. I hate to be “cocky” I hardly even talk trash about how good my favorite football team is because I just don’t like it. (Even if the patriots are the best team in the NFL.)
3. Care for all things, even inhuman.
I care about everyone and everything, for the most part. Sometimes I think I care about certain things a little too much, but for the most part having a caring trait is good. Caring makes everyone around you like you more, and give you a better experience in life. If you go around not caring about anything your doing, then what is the purpose of doing anything. I personally hate when people don’t care about other’s feelings or even the feelings or how they affect animals because they have feelings too, and I’m sure a lot people will agree with me.
4. Learn from your mistakes, successes, and everything you do.
Nothing you do is for nothing. Everything happens for a reason. These are cliches that you hear all the time from parents teachers, motivational speakers etc. but they are very true. Everything you do can teach you a lesson to use later in life. It is up to you to find that lesson, master it, and apply it later. You put a cup on the counter, it falls off, lesson learned, put your cup farther away from the edge. You walk through a doorway, you kick the wall and drop to the floor crying, lesson learned, be more meticulous in how you step through a door. You’re watching TV at night all comfortable and a show comes on you hate, the remote is dead, lesson learned, keep extra batteries unless you don’t mind ruining your comfort to push buttons or change batteries. The point is, no matter how stupid or unmeaningful something seems, you can take something away from it.
5. Do your best succeed in whatever your goal is.
DeleteWhatever the goal is, you can achieve it. That is a bs statement that i do not believe in, but it has some truth to it. If you have a goal, you must do everything in your power to achieve it. Will Smith in “the Pursuit of Happyness” does an amazing job displaying this when he is talking to his son in the scene that is to this date still all over twitter and still is just as effective as when the movie first came out. “You got a dream... You gotta protect it. People can't do somethin' themselves, they wanna tell you you can't do it. If you want somethin', go get it. Period.” This quote from the movie may be some of the most powerful words I’ve ever heard, and supports my point perfectly. If you have a dream or goal, you have to do all in your power to go achieve it, No matter what.
6. Be Happy.
Don’t do what others want, do what you want, what makes you happy. Do not change your personality for anybody, do not change what you do for anyone, do what makes you happy. I personally need to do a better job at this as I do catch my personality changing to people around me, and I do try my best to change back because that is not what I strive to be. I do not want to do what everyone else does, I want to do what makes ME happy.
7. Appreciate the little things in life.
It’s crazy what the smallest things can do for someone. Whether it’s something materialistic, like five dollars that somebody uses to make a lemonade stand and make over one hundred dollars, or a few words exchanged that gives someone a major confidence boost. I love the little things in life. Vines with hamsters eating blueberries, I watch over and over and over again because I just can’t get enough of the 6 second cuteness. Little compliments from my father, other family members or friends, they could mean nothing or sometimes not even be sincere, but to me it means so much. I specifically remember a few days ago, I Haven't seen this person in a few days, and they came up to me after football practice and said “I’ve been looking for you all day!” Most people probably would brush that off or say it means nothing but stuff like that gets me deep down and gives me a good feeling.
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In my opinion, this is the hardest blog I have done so far. Not necessarily because it is longer than the usual blog, but because it takes a lot of thinking and if thinking deep down is not your cup of tea, it'll be harder.
ReplyDelete1. Always keep in mind that we are all people going through similar struggles.
Unfortunately, people suck. That's the honest truth and there's no way to cushion it. Although everyone has their struggles, there are people that don't recognize that. It's extremely important to remember because YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT OTHER PEOPLE ARE GOING THROUGH so don't assume. You can't assume from the clothes on someone's back that they have everything or don't have anything at all.
2. You don't have to forgive the people that don't deserve to be forgiven.
Not everyone deserves an apology. Not everyone deserves your forgiveness. I believe that this may be an unpopular opinion, but you should be at peace with the fact that they don't. Just because you don't forgive them, does not mean that you are petty. It means that you recognize that they did something terrible to you and you are willing to move on without them.
3. Surround yourself with non-toxic people.
These people are hard to find and that's just how life works. But that doesn't mean they don't exist. It can take years to find someone that possesses those qualities, but once you do it feels amazing. There's nothing like knowing that someone wants for you to be happy, rather than wanting something from you. I often hear people complaining about their friends treating them badly and all I can think is "Why do you still hang around them?" I think it has something to do with people not wanting change. That actually brings me to the next thing.
4. Don't be afraid of change.
You can't live your life the same way for the rest of your life. Things will change and that's not something to be afraid of. Change is not always good but it can't be stopped so you have to learn to cope with it. I'm not someone who is good with change at all, but I have learned to understand that it's just a part of living. You're going to change and grow as a person and the only way to do that successfully is to not be afraid of that change.
5. Treat yourself the way you would want others to treat you.
DeleteClearly, this is a twist on the annoyingly common saying, "Treats others the way you want to be treated". You don't want people to tell you that you aren't good enough, smart enough or pretty enough so why would you tell yourself these things? How you see yourself reflects your mood. If you constantly see yourself as thing no-good waste of space, then how can you expect to truthfully be happy? You can't. This is something I struggle with on a daily basis. No matter the situation, I always seem to turn it around to make myself feel bad even if there was no reason for it. It's never on purpose, but this is the point that I need to work on the most.
6. Give yourself a break.
Breathe. Being an AP kid, this is not an easy thing to do. I think anxiety is just something that runs through every AP kid's veins. We just never stop thinking. Even if our teacher looks us in the eye and tells us we have no homework, we will still wonder what the homework is. Give yourself some time to breathe. You can take a 30 minute break. It won't kill you. It won't kill your grade. Believe me, you need it. Lay down, turn on some music and breathe.
7. Set your own standards.
Living up to the standards of others is pointless. You're only human and you can only do so much. Set goals that you can reach with challenge. Challenging yourself will help you learn. You learn what to do, what not to do, and how to reach success. Of course it's a long process, but with a short, simple process, you may come out of it with no knowledge at all. Don't try to live up to someone else's expectations.
Believe in yourself and these things will come to you. Keep working and I promise you will get what you want in the end.
1 What goes around comes around (karma). Karma is a very very simple concept. If you are nice to someone, most of the times they will be nice in return. Also, nice things will happen to you. If you are mean to someone they not only will be mean to you, but mean/ bad things will happen to you. Karma means a lot to me. I always try to be a good person, act nice, be respectful and for the most part life is good back. I choose karma because it's an important thing for everyone to know and always live by. Your actions will come somehow at sometime come back at you. The world needs more nice people or people who will just think of what will happen later on to them if they do bad things.
ReplyDelete2 Not everyone is your friend and not everyone is looking out for your well being. In life you will encounter people. People who will stick around because you do many things for them or because you're going to end up getting a reward. If you didn't do things your "friends" or you weren't somehow about to see success, then the friends wouldn't be around. Some people make it seem like they are routing for you, but they really aren't; they're waiting for your downfall. This is such an important thing to remember in life because I am such a caring and giving person. If anyone needs anything I always try to do the best I could possibly do to help them. Sometimes I am so naive to the fact that some so called "friends" will use me and keep me around because of my affection. I choose this because everyone needs to understand that sometimes people are cruel and a lot of people have a mask on.
3 Be kind to everyone and do good deeds without expecting a reward in the end. Be nice to the girl who no one talks to. The one girl you were nice too while everyone ignored, can later become the manager for a new invention/ technology. The person can remember that and you guys can live happily ever with money. :) Also help people, and not expect them to help you back. Do good deeds all the time, because your "reward" that you receive is seeing someone else's happiness. This is something EVERYONE needs to have included for their rules to tackle life. I try to give to others as much as possible. After helping someone you just get this feeling and you feel just incredible. Our world is so brainwashed with the concept "what am I going to get in return?". NOTHING expect nothing back, to unlock the closed door of having a true happy life; you have to be a helpful and giving person.
4 Life does get better, it has it's ups and downs, but sometime life will get better. This is SO IMPORTANT!! I can't stress this enough. I choose this because it's something I tell myself very frequently recently. It's also what everyone who battled their own demons have to keep in mind. This is just a reminder that there is light hidden in the darkness somewhere. Without this "rule" I don't think many people would still be here. Life is like a roller coaster. It has the ups and downs, but it always somehow someway gets better. In life you will face many problems. No matter how many problems you encounter, the good things will out weigh the bad. Always stay focused on the future.
ReplyDelete5 Praise and love God through the good and bad times. God has a plan made for us whether we like what happens or not. What this rule means to me: everything. God is my savior, God is who helps me conquer everything. I choose this because anyone who is "religious" needs this too. God is through the good and bad times. And constantly supports us through it. Gods plan is what will benefit us in the long run. If that means the boyfriend we thought we were in love with isn't what we thought and he is gone; that was in Gods plan.
6 Stay away from anyone who makes you feel bad and that is a bad person. This is a huge rule, who you hang out with, is who influences you. My older god sister started to hang out with people who were into drugs and smoked weed all the time, and soon she did the same thing. Later on we almost lost her until she hit rock bottom and I mean absolute bottom and she decided she wold consent to going to a rehab. If you hangout with a person who talks illiterate, soon enough you pick up on the slang. If someone makes you feel like a bad person no matter what you do, then you need to cut them out of your life. You need people who spread positivity and who believe in you. This means a lot to me. I sometimes find myself around people who degrade me and who aren't a good influence on me. When this happens and I realize it I distance myself from the person. I need to become better not degrade myself.
7 Always go with your gut. There is a feeling that every human feels. It's that feeling that is being stimulated from the back of your mind. It's telling you the thought you don't want to think is right and you just need to go with it. My gut is extremely important to me. Majority of the time, my gut is right. It's actually really strange on how much my guy is reliable. Here is an example as to how reliable it is: There was a party one time at a place called the "sand wash" everyone was going and for once I was alright I think I'll finally go to a party. But then my gut said no, don't go the party its going to get busted. So I stayed home, I listened to this feeling that was imbued through my mind and body. Sure enough guess what? The party got busted!! I choose listening to your gut because most of the time it's right. A lot of people make mistakes and have regrets because they didn't listen to what they felt from the jump. It's important to always listen to yourself, because secretly it's the thing you want to happen or not happen.
Savor every moment, They say you never get the same moment twice, Im not sure who “they” are but I know someone has said it…because its all over twitter all the time. The truth is, you really never get the same moment twice so you have to be grateful for it right then and there. You cant let the moments that take your breath away escape too fast, even if they suffocate you, they're worth it. There will come a time when you look back on your life and wish for all those moments back to…feel a couple things twice. We would all love to feel some things twice, but we cant, so you have to feel it right then and there, and feel it as long as you can. Even if its killing you, savor the moment. Pictures and videos don't capture everything, but you're heart can. So savor that moment with your soul not your phone.
ReplyDeleteDo not let your expectations kill you, Expectations can kill a man. I promise you your expectations can rip you to pieces. So don't let them. Everyone has expectations you cant deny them but you can try and forget them. Don't tell yourself how its going to be, make it that way. You will expect the best from people you will expect that they wont hurt you and you will be let down. Don't suffer let downs your whole life, don't expect.
Chase the laughter, Chasing the laughter is something I have stressed since I grew old enough to develop my own thoughts. Laughter and happiness are the most important things to strive for. There is no point in participating in life if you cant fall in love with it everyday in a new way. So chase after those moments that make you laugh from deep in your belly, the moments that turn your cheeks red and have you grinning. Those moments are important because thats what we remember, not the good days…the great moments.
Be more than a number, You are not a test score you are not a GPA. While its not good to throw those things away you cant focus your whole life on them. The numbers. They are just numbers. You are more then that. You don’t need the best numbers you need the best heart you need the kindest eyes you need the strongest conscience. Thats what makes you a person, so be a person.
Sometimes people are life lessons, You cant always tell who someone is by looking at them. Sometimes it takes years to actually figure out who they are. Maybe after all those years you finally learn how you should be treated, maybe you make some mistakes and realize how to not treat people. Either way you learn from every encounter you have with another human being. You cant look back on those experiences and regret them. Each person you meet has story something to teach. learn from them.
Home can come in the form of anything, Home is wherever you feel safe. No matter what that is. Home doesn't have to be a structure, in fact what they don't tell you is that home can come in the form of a person. That same place you go back to everyday where you lay your head down at night who you're next to. Its important to feel safe, to feel wanted. Home is where you're wanted not where you're born. Home can be anything.
1. Never give up
ReplyDeleteThis is probably one of the most important morals to me. I say this to myself every day because I’m always thinking about giving up. I have learned that giving up gets you nowhere in life and in order to achieve the goals you set for yourself, you can’t give up. Giving up means you aren’t pushing yourself to be the amazing and outstanding person you can be. Your letting yourself get over things easy and that’s not something you should want to be proud of. When you’re thinking about giving up, DON’T
2. Be true to yourself
In order for you to be something great in life, you have to be true to yourself. It means you are honest with what you feel, value, and desire. You make your own decisions and do what is best for you. You aren’t trying to be something you’re not just to impress people or fit in. You should act naturally and if people don’t accept you for you, then they aren’t the right people you should associate yourself with.
3. Never lie
Lying gets you absolutely nowhere in life. One lie leads to another which leads to another and so on. Lies just get bigger and bigger and then you end up getting caught so what’s the point. I see no point in lying because once you get caught it ruins everything. Friendships, relationships, and family bonds all get ruined because of one stupid lie. When people lie it makes me angry because it’s so stupid. You lie knowing that the person will find out the truth anyway and when they do, you say you didn’t want to hurt their feelings. What you don’t know is, lying is way worse than telling someone the truth.
4. Appreciate the little things
The little things in life are the most important. Getting something big is awesome but getting something little is one of the best feelings in the world. Some people don’t have money to buy big things that their friends or family wants so they spend what they have on what they can afford. The little things like candy, flowers or just something simple like a card shows that the person cares about you enough to spend their last 5 dollars. It doesn’t matter how big or small the gift is, it’s the meaning of the gift that counts.
5. Follow your dreams
Your dreams are something you should never give up on. You should follow your dreams because they are your dreams. Don’t let any obstacles get in the way of achieving them. Set goals, follow them and you dreams will be sitting right their waiting for you. Don’t let anyone or anything stop you from reaching you dreams.
6. Forgiveness
You always have to forgive even when you don’t want to. When you forgive people, you are letting go of all the negativity involved in the situation. Always forgive no matter what the situation is. You don’t have to be best friends with the person once you forgive but you’re not going to get by in life holding grudges on people. Even if you don’t want to forgive someone, just think about what would be ruined if you don’t.
7. Do whatever makes you happy
You should always do what makes you happy and not what makes other people happy. I’m not going to be happy in life doing things other people want me to do instead of doing things I enjoy. If I want to be a doctor I will be a doctor, if I want to be a teacher I will be a teacher, and if I want to be a baker I will be a baker. All of these things make me happy and if I want to be them I will be no matter what. Being happy doing someone I like is more important to me than being something I don’t like because it pays more of because my family doesn’t want me being it. I do what makes me happy because it’s my life and no one else can tell me how you use it.
1. You are a person.
ReplyDeleteYou are not a number. You aren’t your class rank. You aren’t your GPA. You aren’t the A you get on a test, and you also aren’t the F you get on a test. You aren’t a body part. You are a whole person. You are a person. A person who is treated with respect. A person who has goals and ambitions. Don’t let anyone degrade you. Don’t let them treat you like the gum on the bottom of your shoe. You have worth and you have value. Somebody cannot tell you what you are, who you are, how you should act. You are your own person. I’ve been called names and yeah it hurts. But I know that’s not me. I'm not a name I am a person. My own wonderful amazing person.
2. Know where you stand.
Knowing where you stand is also knowing the advantages and disadvantages of others. Main one- If you’re white, you aren’t the target, you aren’t the victim (of racism). You have advantages over people of color. That’s how it is. It f**ked up. But that's life. If you are a man, you have advantages over a woman. Know your stance.
3. Do not judge.
DO NOT JUDGE. ANYONE. PERIOD. You have NO idea what people go through. You don’t know their life. You’re going to judge that girl because she’s always crying and making a big deal of things? You don’t know her life at home. You’re going to judge that boy because of his shoes? His family can’t afford the ones you think are “cool”. Sorry you can’t appreciate that mommy and daddy buy anything you want whenever you want while other families have to scrape by just to get barely a meal in their stomachs.
4. Be grateful.
If you’re reading this on an electronic device with internet, you have it better than someone. People, families, are in this world, missing meals, living on the streets in poverty, wearing the same clothes for weeks, if they even have clothes. You have food, you have shelter, you have someone who cares for you (even if you don’t know it). People are dying, while you are living. People are starving, while you’re complaining about how full you are. You’re complaining you’re parents said you can’t buy these tickets for a concert? At least you have parents. Always be gracious.
5. Nothing comes good out of negative energy
If something in your life is affecting you negatively, let it go, move on. If you’re in relationship or friendship that’s putting you in negative positions, break it off. Let the negative things go. They weigh you down from reaching the goals you want to reach. Negative things are nothing but distractions and setbacks. Especially negative people. They pull you down. If someone is trying to bring you down that means they’re already below you.
6. Love yourself.
I know, It is easier said than done. But you will get there. It so important to love and embrace yourself. Someone else will too. When people say “accept your flaws” do we even have flaws? What is the definition of flaw? Google says, “a mark, fault, or other imperfection that mars a substance or object.” A mark? How is a mark an imperfection? You were PERFECT the way you were made. Society's standards of beautiful is curves, big butt, skinny waist, big boobs, big lips, nice skin. They praise women that have those features. You’re put down if you don’t have those features, but you are not a body part. You’re a person who has features that make up you.
7. Be lazy when you want to be.
There has been/will be nights that you will have to sacrifice sleep for work or school work. But once in awhile, just sleep. Sleep is important. Sleep is necessary to stay healthy. Most likely, you’ll either make up the grade or do all your other work and get it up. You need to put yourself first sometimes. It has to be done. There will be days when you say “I’ll clean my room later” ITS OK. If you wanna relax, relax! Mental and physical health are very very important.
I love this blog post so much.
ReplyDelete1.One mistake not two
My lacrosse coach always says “one mistake not two” in relation to lacrosse but I honestly apply it to all aspects in my life. I value mistakes as improvements. Mistakes show your character and boldness. How are you going to get better without failing first? Playing sports is a big part of my life and breaking down over a mistake is not an option. My only option is to build. Therefore, the first time it's acceptable but not final. There will not be a second time. Just like in life, you learn. Learning is the whole purpose to life. We learn from our mistakes and each others. So to not take advantage of our past to form a better future would be ridiculous. No matter the size of the mistake, every one of them has its importance.
2.Be the bigger person
I can truthfully say if there was one quote I live by it would have to be, “Show respect even to people who don’t deserve it; not as a reflection of their character, but a reflection of yours.” Many people find it annoying I give second chances but I take no shame. Im very infamous to it (@myfriends) because in the long run I set myself up to be sad, but I know I’ll get over things and if they really mean something to me I can work them out. I don’t believe in being mean to someone REGARDLESS of what they do to me or others, unless it's something crazy but that has never happened to me so I wouldn’t know. This quote basically says don’t waste valuable time treating others like they treat you to make you feel below them. It’s pointless. We all have a purpose and just because someone doesn't treat you right doesn’t mean you retaliate onto their level.
3.YOLO
You only live once is the most immature thing on this but its the truth. We only have one life to pursue our dreams and value each day. I only have one college and high school experience with my childhood friends. I get to fall in love truthfully once and create my own family. I get one time to be 17 getting my L. I step into the future just once as soon as I fling my high school cap into the air. Life is way too short to be worried about doing it right.
4.Don’t judge people
This is a big one for me. I’ve had brothers that came from a horrible background and their actions reflected them. They were horrible students that could never be permanently disciplined. They got in fights, had anger issues, and often had no explanation for their actions. So, in school I might take a second look at someone but never to the point at judging if you say. Everyone is different and raised numerous ways. No one has the right to interfere with someone's happiness like that. You don’t know who the person is, what makes them smile, or what they’ve gone through. Its sad that some people feel they are above others because their “popular” but I hate that word. The same people are considered “popular” since 4th grade and even younger and it's ridiculous we have these categories since we were that young.
5.Compliment more often
DeleteGassing people is my favorite thing to do. I don’t even consider it gassing but everyone else does so I thought people would understand. Nowadays, compliments are so overlooked. We tend to either not give them, or say them sarcastically. If you don’t know someone and you think they look nice, why not tell them? It builds a positive friendship already. It boggles my little mind that our school, and probably others, think compliments are a way of “sucking” up to people. I’ll give anyone a compliment. Even if it's about their right sock who cares. Compliments make someone's day.
6.Smiling and happiness looks best
I hate seeing people sad. One, I don’t like seeing people upset, and two, why not smile? Sometimes we have rough patches and being sad might be the only option at the moment but walking around miserable at school is not an option for me. It seriously is a blessing that were alive each day. I'd rather someone compliment my smile and joyfulness than my clothes any day. Smiling is contagious. Once one smiles, the next , and the next, and so on. You spread your laughter to each teacher, room, family member, etc. It doesn’t take a lot to smile either, that's the beauty of it, anyone and everyone can do it.
7.Life's a climb but the view is great.
Here we go, my inner Miley Cyrus is coming out. The climb. If you know me, you understand that this is my ultimate rule in life. There is always gonna be another mountain and you're always gonna wanna make it move. Life is hard. but that doesn’t mean it's impossible. If you listen to the song you’ll fall in love. It's my alarm, it's my pregame playlist, and it's the number one comfort zone. It makes me cry and smile. If I’m mad I play it. If i'm bouncing off the walls, I’ll still probably play it. I would/could type all of the lyrics or copy the link to the song but I think everyone knows it and my obsession. Life's a climb. (The Climb-Miley Cyrus/Hannah Montana).
I wouldn’t call this blog easy, but very fun to write. I wasn’t expecting this type of question but I’m glad it was one.
ReplyDelete1. Being the bigger person doesn’t mean you should let people walk all over you.
2. Education and expanding your knowledge is important but an “A” proves nothing.
3. “Seek respect, not attention”. Respect yourself.
4. We’re all dying anyways so might as well eat that devil chocolate cake.
5.God’s plan is better than yours. Jeremiah 29:11.
6. “Everything’s going to be okay in the end. If it’s not okay, then it’s not the end.” -Ed Sheeran
7. “NO RAGRETS NAMSAYIN’?!”
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1. There is a fine line between being the bigger person versus letting people walk over you. Sure, forgive and forget is the fastest and painless way to move on but if it becomes a habit then people will take advantage of that. I was raised to always think of how the other person would feel based on what I would do/say to them. If I said something to offend them in anyway, I wouldn't want them feeling doleful(VOCAB WORD HAAAA). I try my best to take the high road every time, unfortunately due to frustration and lack of stubbornness, I let everything subside and move on -- thus being a bigger person. From a young age and up until sophomore year, I never realized people were walking all over me. You’ll know when people are doing it when they do something disrespectful towards you but if you do the same exact thing, they’re upset and will get mad on you. Why are they mad if they did the same thing? Why is it okay when they do it? Why did you not react or make a scene but they did? It’s because you let them march right over your pretty little face. Don’t let them do that to you, you deserve better.
2. The schooling system is rigged, cruel, and all about money. Each year the curriculum changes and gets harder. It has come to a point where high school students are diagnosed with anxiety and depression. “Health comes before education”, but not when you’re on you’ve absent more than 8 times or else you’ll get detention or suspended (Idk the actual number so I just made that up). Today’s “education” is all memorization just so we can get ace the test and forget about it a month later. Most teachers don’t spend time to make sure we actually learn what’s on the board, students just have to “keep up with notes”. Yes, knowledge is important, but what’s the point of learning a^2+b^2=C^2 if it’s not going to benifit you in the future. In school we should be learning how to change a flat tire or how to balance a checkbook or how to stop judging people and accept everybody because let’s be real -- there are harsh individuals in the world.
3.Hold your head up high and respect yourself. You can never do that if you constantly bring yourself down. In my previous blog about love, I mention that if someone doesn’t respect your wishes, they don’t deserve you. PLEASE do not steal the limelight. Once you respect yourself, that will radiate all over and people will admire you so much more.
Delete4. Like I said, we’re all dying anyways so you might as well eat that chocolate cake. YOLO AMIRITE?! No? Okay. When I hear a person going “no thanks, chocolate makes me break out with zits”, SO WHAT!!?! We all had/have zits it's okay! You know the cake will taste so good so why punish yourself by not eating it? Same goes with everything else, why not do something you love even when you know it's wrong? We’re all dying anyways! “Why live life with ‘what if’s?’”
5. Some of you might not even know, but my family is very religious. We go to church, pray, all that jazz. We’ve been having a tough time ever since my dad lost his job at Revel Hotel, so my mom always reminds me that “we’re going through this now, but I believe that God has something amazing planned for us.” I remember this one moment right after my first heartbreak-- I was in my bed shedding some tears when on my twitter timeline I opened up a picture of a verse from the Bible. 11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.12 Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you.13 You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. 14 I will be found by you,” declares the Lord, “and will bring you back from captivity.[b] I will gather you from all the nations and places where I have banished you,” declares the Lord
6. I love the singer/songwriter Ed Sheeran. His music makes me want to cuddle, cry, and fall in love. One of my favorite songs is “Kiss Me” and I really wish I could play guitar or sing or something musically gifted so I can perform on stage and fulfil my dream of being famous-- but that’s a different story. Anyways, he once said “everything’s going to be okay in the end. If it’s not okay, then it’s not the end.” I find this quote very true but of course there’s a “but”. The quote speaks for itself in the good aspect of it. The bad part is that life goes on after the happy ending. Life is not in movies where the prince and princess runs off into the sunset after getting married. Life is school, work, family, taxes, and a whole lot of stress. Where am I going with this you ask? WELL, my point is, there will always be ups and downs but things will always get better. Trust Ed Sheeran.
7. IF ANYONE HAS WATCHED “WE’RE THE MILLERS” YOU’LL UNDERSTAND AS TO WHY I’M USING ALL CAPS. Scotty P is my favorite character and his catchphrase is “no ragrets, namsayin”. Clearly he isn’t the brightest star in the sky, but if he can get a tattoo of a misspelled word on his clavicle then you can live your life with no regrets as well. Nuff said.
1. Don’t settle for anything less than amazing
ReplyDeleteChange is possible. You have must be willing to take a stupid chance to find what you’re looking for. Nothing will ever land in your lap no matter how many dollar signs remain in your bank account. In order to achieve true success as the old saying goes “If you want it done right you have to do it yourself.” My parents have always said “it is what it is” and in 7th grade even my English teacher claimed the phrase as her own motto. I began to fall into the black hole of self-doubt. That nothing would ever be my way or least some bearable way according to me. I’m picky about most things from food I eat to things I wear. But not because I try to fit in because even folded paper bothers me so honestly there is no answer to my routines. So when everything seem to come crashing down, every decision running away from the way my mind was set I felt trap into a world of disappointment. I’ve learned or I’ve rebelled from my parents saying that I can change it to my liking because if I don’t know one will. We see miracles and fairy tales happen every day but sometimes we don’t see the bigger picture. How did a hobo became a multimillionaire overnight. Or how a bad luck junkie turned his life around and went to college in a week. They didn’t, things take time, and both worked hard and through determination and sheer will power broke through social stereotypes to make something of themselves. Now they live a life people only dream of. Never settle, never stop dreaming.
2. An eye for an eye, leaves the whole world blind.
Today’s society consists of mainly revenge and jealousy within a group of friends. Nothing can stop a person from wanting more than they should have. People with great expectation seek to advance their lives by taking away from others. Arguing comes naturally to humans, wanting to prove they are in the right always. What people don’t understand is fire cannot be put out with more fire. It is impossible and completely insane for such a thing to occur. Revenge leads to the corruption of the world. The very existence of vengeance drives radical, strong willed people to carry out schemes and plots intended to harm someone. Revenge is not necessary for effective communication. The act does not affect the outcome or compromise let alone bring one about between the two conflicting parties. People lie, people hide, people fight. And they don’t know why. They have trust that there will good times after all the pain so they must learn to let go or else their scars will never heal.
3. Laugh a little each time you cry
ReplyDeleteLife is an endless cycle. It goes on and on until we choose to do something, drive, walk go somewhere so anything. At this point in life we’ve done nothing and seen almost nothing. It’s the beginning of a more well-traveled experience waiting to show us the way. Nothing is choosing to get up every morning and studying all day and night. We chose this ENTIRE life. We make decisions every day, we put ourselves through these stresses that have become to apparent their just a part of life, no longer a surprise. There’s always a way out. We go through school complaining when it’s just as easy to drop and start a new business with the right mindset. Despite this major setback we choose to have human interaction and laugh a little when we cry. You have to be willing to get excited over nothing. The obstacles most of us face is ridiculous to cry about, I say this aware that I will still stress to no end. But in the long run who’s going to be bragging about straight A’s 20 years from now when we have jobs and some kind of love interest? When will Henry Clay’s name ever be repeated when you’re too busy smiling for real. After all the tears I can’t help but smile in 8 years school is over, my life will change and I’ll never to worry about another vocab test but ill also never see most of the people who shaped me into me. And that’s why in the end of all things I’m left to reminisce in the past, forgetting about the worries of the future.
4. What we could be if we stopped carrying the remains of who we were.
You WILL outlive your Demons. Strangers can’t see your past therefore why relish in it. We meet new humans every day. Focus on that. Bad things can’t stop us from making our lives good. The ancient world of mistakes can haunt and pick at you until there’s nothing left to take. Sometimes you don’t learn from mistakes, sometimes you make mistakes and you have to live with them. But it’s up to you to throw away the bad and start over with the new. Second chances are rarely given to patch up the hole’s we’ve previously made. Regrets need to be let go, our souls need to be freed from the clawing decisions that hang over our heads. It’s unnecessary, everyday new, maybe minor, mistakes are made. Those don’t affect us, why should we let other things distract us from the main points of life. As juniors, stress circumscribes our lives. We panic, we scream, we cry until there are no more words or tears to describe the way we feel. We should learn to live through the storm not against. Try to get over the past because reminiscing in the bad will only make it worse.
5. Common sense isn’t so common
Common sense is developed through an individual’s personal experiences and upbringing there is general sense of truth. There is nothing more important than an individual’s perception which provoke original thought and opinion on certain or all issues. The idea that common sense is “common” is impossible, especially between two people who’ve lived two different lives. If experiences make you who you are then a well-educated person may see his perception on life as common sense while a lesser educated man’s outlook will differ because his familiarities. For this reason society now demands for analytical and problem solving skills. The crucial act of individual thought process and the ability to understand, relate and solve a life crisis becomes more prominent every day. Proving common sense becoming a lesser importance.
6. Dream as if you will live forever. Live as if one day you will die.
ReplyDeleteFrom the second our parents knew the gender they thought, she’ll be a lawyer or he will love med school not what will we name our beautiful child. But I don’t want to be put on this earth to make money. Recently in AP U.S History we’ve read about many famous names who’ve changed our lives in their own. The textbook gives facts about the famous going to Ivy League school and that. How they rose from the ashes, even when surrounded by doubters or the destitute parts of society. They fought for freedom, they fought so others can explore every interest our growing world has to offer. And here we are, our generation solely dedicated to get a steady job, encouraged more like forced into an environment we all have accepted as the new normal. It’s become a routine that’s harder to break with each passing day. The scariest thought, scarier than stage fright and skydiving (ehhh it’s a stretch) is what happens if I’m not happy. I want to be happy. At the end of the day when all my family and friends are out of sight and our laughter out of mind, I want the satisfactory feeling to be able to smile alone fully knowing I can’t be any more happy than in that moment. I desire adventure and fun but it isn’t the same vulnerable happiness I seek to earn. The feeling is larger than life and I know I need to make the seconds count. When I travel I want to keep the promise that I won’t spend any day indoors and if it rains I’ll find a random coffee to watch the rain from instead of my hotel bedroom window. Happiness is a self-thing at least for me, I need to determine when I’m on my own if I’m truly happy because laughter and smiles are so easily and often faked. As Emily Dickinson simply puts it “Forever is composed of now”, so make the moments mean more than time and breath passing.
7. Blood doesn’t mean family
At the beginning of every episode of Revenge Emily Thorne begins the chaotic hour with her infamous monologue that only make sense at the very end of the episode. Almost two years ago she began with the statement “As children, we flinch at the sight of blood not yet realizing it means family, loyalty, and is the essence of life. But for all its virtue, there is the unavoidable reality that blood is often the child of pain, and a violent reminder that anything can be taken away in the blink of an eye.” When I heard her spiel on blood and family ties I began to wonder the true meaning of family and what it meant to/for me. I guess I would call my family a bunch of conservatives but more in a religious aspect than anything that has to do with politics. They’ve always said friends are temporary family is forever after every horrendous disagreements we have about society and how my life is nothing like they had. Movies even proclaim the idea we cannot choose our family therefore we must choose better friends. But can friends not also be family. If they care, lend money, go to the worlds end just for your success, and do we still then not have the right to consider them family. And I don’t mean the “moms” and “aunts” and “cousins” that run through the halls of Oakcrest. But more like a person who knows a little too much to let go even when fully aware they’re lips are sealed for an eternity and then some. Because of the differences in defining family, family is who we choose them to be. Especially when the chosen family has a more positive impact and understanding of your life.
8. If you love something don’t set it free.
ReplyDeleteThis may be similar to my previous ones, especially since most of everyone’s blogs will be somewhat clichés. Nevertheless I felt a strong need to include this statement. Ever romantic comedy I’ve ever seen starts and ends the same way, and so I don’t understand why I continue to watch them expecting eyes, even when fully aware of the plot and the plot twist. At first they hate each other, fall in love, fall out/move away, realize the stupid mistake and end living the fairytale. I absolutely hate, loathe, and despise the middle scenes in each movie. All of the words in the world, in every language cannot explain how angry it makes me. Some may argue it is the climax and conflict humans yearn for. But when it comes to romantic comedies the middle is neither cure and wishful nor funny. No one ever realizes they love something so much until it’s lost forever. Never let something you care enough to renovate an entire house for leave. Why is that a thing? Hold on to it. Tight. Never let it go you NEVER know when it’ll “fly back” if it really loves you. Reality isn’t a movie, our passionate hearts break in half and sometimes never get fixed. Sometimes you don’t learns from your mistakes, sometimes your just make mistakes and you have to live with it. Why even take the chance. The love of your life is right and front of you, fight until worlds collide and sparks fly, don’t EVER let go. Forget material objects find happiness and fight to keep it.
I don't have an intro to the question, but I will start here:
ReplyDelete1. Don't forget to love yourself first.
I stumbled across this post on pinterest (I am obsessed) and at first I wondered what it meant. It seems so obvious to do, so why would anyone post a quote about it? Which isn't true at all. Loving yourself is very tough to do. Of course you want others to love you for who you are and what you want to accomplish, but loving yourself? Not many people (especially ladies) can look in the mirror and truly say to themselves, "I look stunning, I love myself." We all want someone to love us before we love ourselves, and to shed light on our beauty and look past our flaws, but we can't. I've struggled with looking past my flaws and wanting people to love me, when really, I need to love myself. You never know who will stick around and be there for you, so make sure you love yourself first.
2. Be you. No matter what.
There was a time in my life where I thought people would like me more if I listened to pop and hip-hop music. That sounds so silly now, but back then, to me, it was a life or death situation. So, I changed all my country music on my Zumiez (an I-pod) to pop music. At first I thought it wasn't so bad, new music, new me. But, when we would listen to the radio, 107.3 would be on and I wouldn't know the new song that was playing. That devastated me. I changed myself to fit in with everyone else. Of course I knew all the pop songs, but that didn't make me happy. The songs didn't mean as much to me, like the music of 107.3 did. No matter what the new trend is, stay true to yourself. Don't try to impress people by changing who you are. Love yourself.
3. Family isn't forever.
I learned this in the most dreadful way a 9 year old should learn it. One day, our family was perfect and everyone loved each other, then the next day- boom! Everyone hated each other. I lost 5 cousins, 5 aunts, and 5 uncles. Things changed so quickly. My family used to go up every Sunday to watch the football game and every Thanksgiving/Christmas/Easter, every holiday imaginable. I lost the closest and most supportive people in my life. 6 years later and I haven't seen any of them. I miss them so much. You always think family is forever because, well, they're your family. But, that isn't true. At a point in your life, family will disappear. Unfortunately, it happened too soon for me.
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ReplyDelete4. Laugh at your jokes, even when others don't.
You are hilarious. Who cares if you make a pun and others don't get it, you do, so laugh at it. Everyone needs to have a good laugh at themselves. It makes us feel confident about ourselves. I always laugh at my jokes because I am painfully stomach funny. I laugh until my belly hurts. Not because I want others to laugh, but because I know my joke and I know it's funny. Don't every forget to laugh at yourself, because if no one else does, then it will be pretty awkward if no one is laughing.
5. Treat yourself as if you're dating yourself.
I saw this on pinterest (again, pinterest. I'm sorry) and it made me feel some type of way. When you date someone, you want more than anything for them to call you beautiful, take you out, make you blush on a daily basis, etc. As a society we want someone to do that for us, when it would be more effective if we did it to ourselves. Meaning- treat yourself whenever you have time, who cares if you're the only one in a booth, that makes you seem like an independent women/man. Look at yourself in the mirror and look at all your beauty points. Point out specific ones that make you feel good and put a smile on your face when you look/think of them. Don't wait for Mr./Mrs. right, when you can be Mr./Mrs. right to yourself.
6. Take a lot of pictures.
Not another pinterest quote. But, taking pictures is so important. You have so many memories of yourself, childhood, friends, and close relatives. You want to capture every single moment you can, because one day you might forget about important memories. Having pictures of every memory is breathtaking because when you're older you can line them all up in chronological order and have flashbacks of all of them. Who wouldn't want to see their best memories all over again.
7. It's okay to fail.
It's hard to hear the word "fail" because we automatically think it's ignominious. When really it means you learned something. Failing doesn't mean you're a bad person or can't do anything right, it means you tried something difficult, and didn't hit it right on the mark the first time. Next time, you'll do it better. Failing makes you who are and what you need to work on. Don't look at your failures as a pitiful thing, look at them like they're the path for your success.
1. Respect everyone.
ReplyDeleteRespect is so important. If you respect yourself, others will know where you stand and think more highly of you. If you have respect for others, they will hopefully show you the same respect. If a person doesn’t have respect for themselves or others, no one is going to respect them. In school, there is so much disrespect shown on a daily basis. When I walk down the halls everyday I hear disrespectful comments in conversations. Even at assemblies when someone is speaking, there are always those few disrespectful, obnoxious kids in the back who can’t stop talking or making unnecessary sound effects. Overall if you want others to you respect you, you must respect others.
2. Always be honest.
I’m sure we’ve all lied at one point in our lives. Whether it’s leaving out information or even adding details to spice up a story, we probably have all lied before. Even though lying can solve a temporary problem, the effects of lying last forever. If you lie to someone chances are they will never trust you again. In life, even if we don’t want to tell someone the truth, we have to or else we will dig ourselves into a deeper hole. Although “honesty is the best policy” is quite overused and cliché, it truly is the best policy.
3. Absorb as much knowledge as you can.
Knowledge is everything. The more you know, the better off you’ll be. Even though grades don’t always reflect a person’s knowledge, acquiring knowledge will only set a person farther ahead. Since we “learn something new everyday”, everyday we become smarter than the day before. Knowledge is not only important for school though. Even in everyday life, the more knowledge you absorb, the better you will stand out from others. Whether it is a job interview, balancing a checkbook, or even answering questions on jeopardy, knowledge makes will make you better. People respect people with knowledge. Knowledgeable people get more recognition and credibility.
4. Set goals and make your life purposeful.
Setting goals is beneficial. Goals help us stay on track and motivate us to strive for what we want. Of course you will not reach a big goal instantly but you can set little goals along the way. Once you’ve reached a goal, you will feel accomplished. Along with the typical things we have to work for, goals make our work rewarding. Reaching our goals and making our life more purposeful are very satisfying accomplishments.
5. Learn from your mistakes and the mistakes of others.
DeleteOne of my favorite quotes, “A smart man learns from his mistakes. A wise man learns from the mistakes of others.” is very relevant and relatable. It is not only important to learn from your own mistakes but, to learn from the mistakes of others. When you learn from other’s mistakes, it prevents you from making the same ones they did. Mistakes are only human but, to make the same mistake more than once is foolish and preventable. Also, someone who learns from their mistakes recognizes their faults, grows as a person, gives good advice to others, and betters themself overall.
6. Form beneficial relationships.
Even if you think you’re independent and don’t need anyone, chances are you still rely on some form of a relationship. “Nothing in the world is single”, a quote from my declamation, holds a lot of truth. No one can get through life solely on their own and we all need each other some way or another. Also, in life it is important to recognize which relationships we are benefitting from. This may sound selfish but, it is essential in knowing when to back out of a relationship. If someone is doing you wrong, then leave them. Know that a relationship takes the effort of two, and if you are giving more than you are receiving, you need to stop.
7. Don’t lose focus of what is important.
As Juniors, of course our main focus is our schoolwork, SAT scores, college visits and planning for a future we are unsure of. This all can be stressful and overwhelming. All of this pressure can make one want to cry but, it is important to stay optimistic. Also, it is important to still care about things outside of school. As Juniors, we have other aspects of our lives to focus on besides school. When I sit at my laptop at 12:00 AM, I realize that my first task should be completing my homework. This focus shifts once an upset friend needs my help but, it’s okay because she is more important. My friend’s happiness and well-being is more important to me than school. Last week, my sister faced a somewhat similar scenario. Her boyfriend’s uncle, whom he was very close to, died of brain cancer. My sister’s instinct was to attend his funeral in support of her boyfriend but, then, there was school. My sister was scared to miss her 4 colleges classes but, she then realized that school is only school. Yes, she is paying thousands of dollars for her education but, supporting her boyfriend is priceless. Passion over intellect. Even though our parents and teachers drill into our heads “school comes first”, sometimes you need to look past school. First, make yourself happy, and realize that school work and classes will blend together when you look back on your highschool career. The things you will remember are the times spent with your peers and family. Try to look at the bigger picture instead of the homework assignments that are stressing you out for one night. If only it were that easy.
In my 16 almost 17 years of living I've experienced some things that helped to shape the person that I am and how I choose to live my life. Below are some creeds or guidelines that sum up what I've learned in the relatively short time I've been alive.
ReplyDelete1. Love and cherish who and what you have but most importantly yourself
2. Nothing is more important then your mental well being
3. Don't take life so seriously
4. Feelings are not permanent
5. Treat people how they deserve to be treated
6. Live for yourself but don't be greedy
7. Forgive but never forget
Some of these guidelines may be a little bit hard to understand so below is my interpretation of them and how they affect me.
1. When your in the moment sometimes it's hard to realize those things or people that make your life easier, more exciting, blissful and make your life better in general. It's so important to appreciate those people because they might not always be there. More importantly, loving yourself, while it may be difficult at times, can make or break almost every aspect of your life.
2. I have learned this one from probably the most difficult experience in my life. I worried so much about things in my life that it became less about living and more about surviving. If your not taking the time to make sure that your okay and that your properly taking care of yourself then what is the point to everything else. If you can't live your life to the end because you place other things above yourself then there really is no point.
3. My favorite phrase, " Don't take like so seriously, nobody makes it out alive anyway" always had such a huge impact on the way I view aspects of my life. Yes it does sound like something my brother would say after getting in trouble for something stupid-he actually did show me this saying- but I use it for more then just another way to say YOLO. It is important to try your best but it is just as important to have fun and actually live a little.
4. Sometimes in life it seems so much easier to make a permanent decision to solve temporary feelings and we hear about and are affected by these tragedies far too often. I've had a lot of rough patches in my life and continue too but as long as I remember that it is not permanent, I know that I can make it through and see what is waiting for me on the other side.
5. It may sound a little harsh to say that people should be treated the way they deserve but I see it as fair. If people want my respect then they have to earn it. When I was younger I always viewed the golden rule as, you know, golden, but as I've grown older and learned more about how the world works I know that not everyone deserves my respect and to be treated the way that I want to be treated.
6. Live your life for you because you are the one living it, not your family members, or friends or anyone else. Don't make decisions that concern you to make other people happy but don't be greedy either. Yes you and what you want are important but some people were not blessed with the opportunities that you have so its good to give back to any that are deserving and less fortunate.
7. Forgiving what a person does and forgetting what a person does are two completely different things and can determine how that person treats you in the future. Yes it is okay to forgive and in most cases it's also freeing and helpful, but to forget what a person does to you is just simply stupid. It allows them the ability to hurt you over and over again and think that it's okay for them to walk all over you when it sure as hell is not.
*Always stay positive in any situation.
ReplyDelete*Never give up… Like ever.
*Love endlessly.
*Nothing is forever.
*Appreciate everything.
*Nothing is the end of the world, push on.
*Love yourself.
One thing that I can’t stand are pessimists. Why do you have to be so negative all the time?! Surely there is a positive outcome to any situation you may be in. Sometimes, I have these little panic attacks and I just freak out about literally EVERYTHING. School usually provokes them the most, lack of sleep comes with that as well, so altogether it’s pretty darn awful. That’s why I would put this in my creed; count to 10, calm down, and think good thoughts.
I don’t know about anyone else, but I do not like giving up… on anything. I always have to push myself because when I lose motivation and drive, life just becomes dull and arduous. When you give up on something easily, you’re missing out on an opportunity that’s possibly life-changing or a good learning experience. I always feel that when I try my best and don’t give up, that the experience is a success.
3. Give more love. This world and society today really needs it! So many people feel unloved and judged by everyone else. Treat others the way you would want to be treated, and you’ll 97.56% of the time get that right back. This doesn’t have to just do with strangers and everyday people; your parents, your boyfriend or girlfriend, siblings, etc. Love these important people with every fiber in your being, like you will never love again. You never know when these people will leave your life.
4. Nothing lasts forever. If there is one thing that I’ve learned over the years, it’s this. When you have done all you can do, that’s when you have to just let it go. No matter what happens, it will not last forever and the world is not crashing down. Like in school, you study for a test all week and get a 72. You weren’t expecting that when you studied all week, but if you have done your best, then that grade should not hang over your head forever. Pain will not last forever. You can get through your troubles, with a positive mindset.
5. Appreciate the little things. Your parents, your teachers, your friends, even your siblings. They do so much for each and every one of us everyday, and most of the time it goes by unnoticed. Say thank you more. Say please more. Appreciate even the fact that you were able to wake up this morning, in a house and bed.
6. When life gets hard, it’s a test. Testing your abilities. Every person has their strong points and weak points, but when life gets rough you have to see the goodness to be able to push through these tough times. Sometimes, I get in a serious funk. Nobody expects it, but I can get depressed and feel like I’m in a rut. I just have things that I can look forward to, and I push through all the bad things in life.
7. Be yourself and love yourself. Look at yourself in the mirror and say, “This is unique to me, and that’s why I love it. That’s why I love me.” Pick out your best qualities and say, “This is what makes me special.” Love yourself enough to know what’s good and what’s bad for you. Most people see things in themselves that they wish they could change so badly, and they end up being very unhappy. Only then will you be able to love another person, and live a happier life.
1. Always be Optimistic
ReplyDeleteEven on the cloudiest days, the sun attempts to peek out; but there’s a downpour of rain and your whole day is ruined. Or when you missed the comeback shot in a tennis match final and you’ve gone all this way just to lose. From any experience of negativity or any situation, always stay positive and look at the cup half full. You will never get through anything if you always have a negative point of view to it. When faced with difficulty, always have an optimistic view and don’t stress over every little thing. Having this optimistic view on life will allow you to push yourself to levels you never thought you could reach with the pessimistic view. And others around will notice this quality in you.
2. See Failure as a Victory
When receiving a bad test grade or mess up while in a game, don’t see it as a failure. See failure in which will help you reach victory. Failure will come in many shapes and forms, but will always try to bring you down. Use failure as a motivation to achieve your goals or victories. Because no one’s perfect and people do make mistakes here and there, but dwelling in your mistakes or failures will not help you achieve your victories and to be able to become successful and prosper.
3. Never be limited, always unlimited
There's only one way to have a limit and that’s in Math. But we’re not talking about Math. We’re pertaining to the mental and physical aspect of a person. You should never stop at one point and be content and stagnant with yourself. Always strive for more to be able to burgeon into something amazing. A man named Nick Vujicic was born with no limbs. Throughout his life, he’s faced many obstacles, from people bullying him for his condition or from his past when he had to accept his condition. Overtime Vujicic overcame all these obstacles and with many endeavors has the ability to walk, swim, and many other things. He rose to the occasion and didn’t stay in one place, he pushed himself to become more than just himself. Always push yourselves to do better and better.
1.Enjoy everything while you can
ReplyDeleteNot a day goes by where my step-dad reminds me to experience everything while I can. He always complains that life goes by faster as you get older. I’m not going to lie, I started noticing it myself. During middle school, each grade felt like an eternity. However, high school is going by too quick. I still feel like freshman orientation was yesterday. Then, next thing you know, I’m going to graduate and have my whole life ahead of me. This made me appreciate being young. It also made me realize I need to try everything. One of my biggest fears is growing up and regretting all the things I didn’t get to do. I want to look back at my life one day and say, it was lit. My goal is to experience everything life has to offer. Life is too short to be saying no. A cliche picture on Twitter explained that it’s better to look back on life and say: “I can’t believe I did that” rather than saying: “I wish I did that.” (Of course don’t do anything stupid enough that will ruin your life)
2. Accept change
In a previous blog post, I expressed how much I loved change. It’s one of the many things I value in life. Whether it be good or bad, change will have some kind of benefit. It will help you grow as a person and help you learn from your mistakes. Everybody will have to face it throughout life and it will be easier if you’re prepared for it. Change will also open new opportunities to experience new things. Imagine living in the same place, seeing the same people, and doing the same thing everyday. In my opinion, that’s a very boring life style. I love the area I live in and the people in it, but I couldn’t imagine myself staying here my whole life. Many people don’t like change, but I’ve grown to love it. I’m guessing my personality makes me love this. I can’t sit still and I can’t stand doing the same thing everyday. I need everything to switch every other time and I want to adapt to new places.
3. Forgive, but never forget
I am always forgiving. Maybe it was the way I was brought up, but I believe in forgiving everybody that has done wrong to you. No matter how bad the situation was, I always find it in my heart to overlook it and continue on with my day. It’s better to forgive someone than to hold on all that anger. In addition, it will show who is the better person. Gandhi once said, “Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” However, never forget what the person did wrong. Remembering their wrongs will save you trouble in the future.
4. Respect everyone
It takes little to no effort to not be an asshole; but many people still fail to do that. The amount of disrespect I see everyday sickens me. It mostly comes from kids my age and I find that sad. It’s because they have too much pride or they’re just putting up a front for their friends. It annoys me so much. Being disrespectful shows immaturity and ignorance. It insinuates that you are person that did not grow up a good household. It really isn’t that hard. Know the right things to do when approaching someone or a situation. It’s just the morally right thing to do. Being respectful has many benefits. Not only will people like you, but you’ll also gain their respect. To earn respect, you have to give it --screw whoever doesn’t think that.
5. Listen to the wise
DeleteAlways accept advice from people older than you. They have more experience than you so their advice is better most people’s. They are the ones that already dealt with situations that we are struggling through now. Their advice is very valuable because it is sincere. They are only helping you because they do not want to see you make the same mistakes as them. It shows that they care about you because they wouldn’t be advising you if they didn’t. However, it doesn’t necessarily mean you have to follow that advice; but it’s always nice to keep it in mind. Listening to wise people will even give you a better outlook on life. You can learn the different ideas of people and eventually have your own philosophy on life. It helps you learn and stay on the right path. Wise people help us guide the way into a nice life.
6. Do not surround yourself in negativity
If you surround yourself in negativity, you will become a negative person. Do not stay in negative areas and do not stay surrounded by negative people. This will have bad effects on your mood and emotions. I’ve had many times where I stuck around with pessimistic people. It only brought me down and I was never happy. This will eventually lead you to have a negative vibe. Nobody wants to be friends with a Debbie Downer. Staying positive is the best thing to do because it will keep you happy and motivated. Never look on the downside because it will only discourage you.
7. Keep an open mind.
I hate it when people are close minded. Close minded people to do not accept new ideas or information. Who could live like that? I always try my best to keep an open mind about everything. It opens the opportunity to experience and learn new things that you may have not known about. In addition, keeping an open mind will ultimately just make you a better person. It expands your knowledge instead of being ignorant. Plus, the mind will become more flexible because of the different ideas it has taken in. Lastly, keeping an open mind will make you not miss out on anything. For example, some people are very close minded when it comes to music. They only listen to about one or two genres and they refuse to listen anything different. They don’t understand what they’re missing out on. There is so much different types of music in the world where it’s just sad to refuse to listen to them. In order to have fun in life, you need to keep an open mind.
Part Two
ReplyDelete4. Have a very good work ethic
When working for a company or any job, or even in school, you must have a good work ethic. You have to do all your work to the best of your ability and make sure all work is completed. Even if that means staying up until 3, even 4 o'clock in the morning I know. And this prevents laziness and procrastination which I know personally. Having a good work ethic improves your organization too. You have everything planned out and you know what assignments do on certain days. And doing this can inspire other people to act the same way and people see you as a role model.
5. Don’t Worry, Be Happy by Bob Marley
For all the people who worry including me usually worry about the small things. For instance, worrying about your friends or parents reaction to a question or statement you say or presenting a project and you worry if the other students are judging your every move. With those things, there’s no need to worry. A person’s reaction is not your fault, they’re just stating their opinion on the topic. and with situations with presentations, most of the other students don’t really care about how you look or act They care about the presentation and the information it can provide. Don’t worry and be happy with yourself.
6. Never forget where you came from/ but branch out and discover new things
Your family will always be the first of importance. They were and will be the first ones to console you, talk to you through your troubled times and the good. And will forever motivate you to do better and when you feel lost or don’t have a place to stay they will welcome you back with open arms. Now you shouldn’t be fully attached to your family you should explore and discover yourself. Make decisions and be able to control your fate. Meet new people and enjoy your life. But always remember where you came from.
7. Have a diverse and accepting mind
A person should never be judgemental of another person or their views on different topics. If another person’s morals do not fit yours, you shouldn’t judge them and say they’re wrong; you should be accepting of their opinion. Also have a diverse mind, try new things and embrace different things. It makes you see things in a whole new perspective. For instance, I’m five different ethnicities. And all those cultures are very different and introduce many different cultures, histories, delicacies and more. And with this diverse mindset, you become more accepting of each ethnicity and see the beauty of each one.
1. Respect your elders and those who deserve it.
ReplyDeleteI have grown up learning to respect the elders. Every culture has its different ways to show respect. In my culture, touching the elder’s feet is symbolized as showing respect. In some other countries, respect is shown by bowing or by saying “sir” or “madam”. It is true that only those who deserve respect should get it and not all elders deserve respect. I believe that elders should not get respect only if they are jerks or do nothing about your childhood development.
2. “The pen is mightier than the sword” - Edward Bulwer-Lytton
Words hurt. Sometimes more that an actual sword. If you are lucky, you would survive a strike from a sword and heal. However, the wounds created by words are stuck within your cerebrum as memory. It will hurt for a long time, if not forever. Bullying is often done verbally and gets physical when it gets extreme. About 4400 teens and young people died due to suicide and the number is growing every year. Just watch what you say. Also, replace all the F bombs with “Falcon Squawk” and see how much difference it makes.
3. Saying sorry just won’t do it.
People say sorry all the time after making a mistake or doing something that, in some way, hurt or offended anyone. Really feel sorry for your actions and somehow repay to the person. It would be evident from a person’s face and actions if he or she is actually sorry for what he/she has done. When kids make mistake, the mothers usually say, “say sorry!”. The kid would gladly do whatever the mother said even if he/she didn’t meant it. I get it that making kids say it would help them get used to saying sorry, but that is not the way to teach someone how to BE sorry. saying sorry and being sorry for something are two totally different things.
4. Don’t just sit in your chair, sofa, or bed and say, “Children in Africa could’ve eaten that” after watching someone waste food. Also, help someone poor if you really mean it rather than being a jerk.
“Children in Africa could’ve eaten that” comments have become so clichéd that people have just started ignoring them. I mean if you really do care about feeding the poor and homeless then why don’t you do it yourself rather than making others do it. Don’t be a dick when someone is actually trying to make a difference. Few years ago, I saw this one guy donating lot of money to a homeless man in coins. While giving the coins, some coins fell on the ground. Another lady, walking by next the the homeless man, exclaimed to the guy donating the money before walking away, “you’re gonna make this homeless guy pick’em up? You just want him to bend to your will and show who is dominant, don’t you?”. His intentions were unknown, but atleast he provided the homeless man with something. She just walked by without even thinking about helping the homeless man. Even the slightest contribution would help and make a big difference to those who don’t have anything.
5. Be appreciative of what you have.
DeleteThis one is a big one for me because I have always pondered that my life could be A LOT worse than what it is now. Thinking this way during tough times helps me a lot. There are just endless possibilities I can end up in. People often get mad at God for not helping them and assuaging their pain. How do you know that he hasn’t already done that? How do you know that God didn’t ease your pain by making the life what you have now from a life much worse?
6. Lying is not bad if it is done for a good cause.
One of the biggest lessons we learn in school and life is that lying is bad. Lying leads to more lies which leads to more lies and so on. While this is true, it is not terribly bad. Lying to soothe pain is somewhat better than just telling the bitter truth. I would tell a near-death patient that he/she is recovering rather than dying. I would tell a kid that his mommy went on a long trip rather than telling him that she passed away from childbirth.
7. Don’t let the evil part of your brain take over.
Everyone has this evil part of the brain that leads the person astray away from “what you have to do” to “what you want to do”. I am still trying to overcome this struggle. For one, the evil mind would him/her to play games because that is what he/she wants to do rather than the boring APUSH homework. For another, it would be the evil mind making one binge watch movies rather than do the annoying AP Calculus AB problems. For me, my evil mind tells me to watch youtube rather than do the arduous AP Lang homework and study for SAT vocab. I would do a part of it and then stressfully stop and convince myself that I did a lot and I need a break. I would then watch youtube before realizing the time on my watch. People want to live the life of leisure, but it is society’s chains that keeps us intact and in order.
1. Don't forget who you are for other people. You can't allow people to change into the person you said you'd never be. Let people positively influence you, but don't let them turn you into a drone. Think for yourself, act for yourself, and BE yourself.
ReplyDelete2. Laugh until you can't breathe. I know that when I laugh hard, someone else starts to laugh too. Let your smile and laugh be contagious and infectious. Nothing is greater than watching people laugh until they start to cry or until they fall over.
3. Believe in yourself. It is you against the world. There might be people to help you along the way, but the only way to get through a battle is to truly. believe in all that you are.
4. Live it up. You only get so many trips around the sun, so you might as well just give life everything you have, even when it's a bitch.
5. Do what you want. People are gonna judge regardless of whatever you do, because right and wrong are matters of opinion. Too many times I've seen
6. Be open-minded. Close minded people are those people who put other people down for being different or thinking differently. Look at everything with an opened mind and you'll gain so much knowledge and you'll be able to look at things with a different perspective.
7. Keep going. Look ahead because the past is behind you. You are not the mistakes you once made. You are not those labels they gave you. You are a gift. Turn your one hundred reasons to give up into one thousand reasons to keep going.
So many people try to explain life. They try to define our existence with a theory or teach us humans are no more than a bunch of animals. That’s bull crap. No one can tell me that I was made from an equation, that I am nothing more than a pig at the zoo. Our lives are so precious in ways we cannot even imagine. Every day is a challenge but it is also so beautiful in its own way. This is my seven point creed for a meaningful life.
ReplyDelete1. Love and be loved. Love is the essence of our mere existence. If you do not share love with anyONE else then what is your life worth? We are not wild animals, we are meant to feel emotions toward one another and have relationships. This doesn’t have to be romantic love. You could share a loving relationship with your brother, mother, dad, friend, or even a pet. Love is no chemical and it’s no joke. Love and be loved and it’ll bring you joy.
2. Everything is a song. That terrible day you had last week, it’s a song. The night you couldn’t sleep from all the heart aching stress, it’s a song. The day you got your first puppy, a song. Each one of these events are songs that complete your Life album. Everybody has an album that plays to its own rhythm and its own tempo. Not one single part of your journey on earth is missed or forgotten. Your songs may tell sad stories. They may sing your rainy years and hum your darkest hours but they will also toot your joy and whistle your beauty. The best part of your album is that you can listen to it whenever you want. It is all yours and no one can take it away from you.
3. Stop pretending you are better and/or less than anyone else. We must stop recognizing people by their faces and need to start recognizing people by their souls. I don’t care how good of a person you think you are! A man’s home situation does not describe him. Nor does the words he speaks or how he speaks them. The color of your skin is just a color. I can change the color of my skin all I want but my soul will not change. It does not change because of the money in my pockets or with the amount of friends I have. We are all just souls that need love. So the girl you make fun of every once in a while is ironically just like you. The boy that doesn’t dress like you could talk about that “C” you have in math. Stop pointing your finger when you have three pointing at yourself.
4. Forgive and Forget. It is pretty self-explanatory. Relieve yourself of the memory of pain and forget it. Let it go! This may be your way of getting back at the accused man or woman but you are only hurting yourself. Time is so precious and it must be used wisely. If it is being wasted on someone who has done you wrong than you have only yourself to blame.
5. Revenge is worthless. Revenge is almost saying that you are perfect and therefore have the right to hurt people that have hurt you. Are you perfect? Have you never done any wrong to anyone, on purpose or not? If you said yes you are lying to yourself. The smallest things offend people nowadays so who knows what little comment could have bent someone the wrong way. The fact of the matter is that you don’t know what other people are thinking and you only have one mind to take care of, your own. Don’t spend time plotting against your enemies, spend time planning your dream trip or future wedding.
6. Chocolate before health. I mean this literally and not so literally. Any doctor will tell you that eating clean, green food is the right direction for your metabolism. However, chocolate is the food for the soul. A piece of chocolate will sew up that broken heart of yours better than any rich surgeon can. Is that bad day getting worse? My buddy Hershey will fix you right up. On the non-literal side, there will be occasions in life where you have to lay back and relax. Put down the work and breath. There will always be a tomorrow. Every once in a while choose sleep over work and take a day to yourself. Life shouldn’t be excruciating. It is meant to lovely, creamy, and it comes with hazelnuts sometimes.
ReplyDelete7. Trust God. You will never know for sure what your next path will take you or it is the right path. Trust that the one who has given you life, breath and has known your name since the dawn of time, will catch you when you fall. Be fearless knowing that he watches after you no matter where you are or what you have done. Accept his love and Trust him and whatever you go through in your “album” will be a wonderful part of your journey.
1) Confidence is the key to respect.
ReplyDeleteNo matter the age or size, if a person presents themselves confidently, they will be more respected. Even as a 16 year old junior in High School, I am constantly mistaken for being in middle school. Because of my appearance alone, I tend to send out 12-year-old vibes to acquaintances. Because of this, I have learned to present myself with an aura of discipline, a tall posture, and a verbose diction. Though I know that confidence will help me do well in situations like job interviews and conferences.
2) “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say nothing at all.” -Thumper from Bambi.
Many times in my life, I’ve said something that I have regretted. Just a simple phrase that makes me look bad in the eyes of another person can make me hurt on the inside. Recently, I asked my teacher to “sing with the Soprano 2’s” in order to help them learn their tricky notes. Of course I didn’t mean to sound cocky or come across as better than anyone. That’s not what I do! But his response of: “Nah. This is a smart group of people right here. They can do this on their own…” hit me hard in the chest. If I hadn’t asked to “help them out”, he would never have implied that I wasn’t needed and that it wasn’t my place to ask such a thing. I know it is such a miniscule thing, but for some reason these things make an impact on me. It is much better to be silent than to later regret saying something foolish.
3) Music makes people feel better.
It doesn’t matter what genre, person, or song. Even on the crappiest of days, singing lifts my spirit. If I’ve had a stressful day in school, or an irritating day full of chores at home, I just sing something. Anything works, really. A song from choir, a piece I need for learn for an important audition, songs from the Little Mermaid to prepare for this upcoming musical, and the list goes on. Just letting my emotions out through song is a blessing in itself.
4) Don’t complain about minuscule problems.
There will always be someone more allergic, more in pain, or less fortunate than you. Many people complain about things that are very minor issues in comparison to others. I catch myself whining about small injuries, such as rolling my ankle or pulling a muscle, to my friends quite often. Most of the time I stop myself because I realize how idiotic I most likely sound. If somewhere in the world someone is suffering from a serious illness, what gives me the right to be upset about some petty allergic reaction I had?
5) People’s priorities tend not to change.
The way people were raised is the way people will stay. Don’t try to change them. More often than not, you will not be successful and at least one person in the relationship will be upset. If a person is raised with the fact that everything is provided for them, it will be hard for them to understand the meaning of earning something at a young age. My old friend thought that she was entitled to every bit of everything. Whether it was not thanking me for making her a nice breakfast or taking our food without permission and playing it off as a joke, the little things ticked me off. But there was no way to change her because her parents raised her how they raised her.
6) Don’t lie to yourself.
In those unnecessary disputes I have with my parents, I tend to lie to myself to get my point across. When trying to prove a point, the actress inside of me protrudes through the facts and put on a nice show of lies. Most of these lies are just impetuous and I never meant to hurt anyone by not being truthful! But in the end, I am either caught up in the middle of a fabrication or am upset with myself for not telling the truth.
7) Organization really does help with time management.
To-Do Lists improve my motivation and let me keep track of what I need to get done. This year is especially busy and my planner is already becoming very crowded with lists of assignments. As long as I am aware of what is due in each class and what chores my Mom asked me to help with, I feel reassured and confident in myself.
Be Your Self
ReplyDeleteAppreciate the Little Things In Life
Don’t hold back, go for opportunities and take it, nothing is given
Always be Grateful
Don’t Hold Grudges
Do what Make You Happy Not Others
Help Others, Always be A Friend
1. “Be Yourself”
Be yourself around the people in your life. Whether you feel as if your character doesn’t fit others you act like you if that makes sense. Don’t let the public define how you act and talk just be yourself. Many people feel insecure about themselves, trying to impress others before knowing who they are. If you can't act the way you do in front of people you don't know you're lost. It's like walking into a fake relationship then knowing their true colors once in it. I live by this. Whether you accept me for myself or not I will always remain my character. As life prolong humans eventually figure out who they are as a person. Be yourself and stay true to your character.
2. “Appreciate The Little Things In Life”
First of I would like to say I’m thankful for everyone in my life. Appreciate your friends and family-the homework your assigned-the sports/activities you do because there’s many children in this world that wish to be in your shoes. Everyday you wake up you should thank someone whatever religion for being granted another 24 hours to be alive. Each day is not promised so count your blessings and appreciate the little things in life.
3. “Don’t Hold Back”
Many people lack confidence. If there’s an opportunity open go take it. Nothing in life is given, many people don’t learn this until adulthood because they’ve been babied their whole childhood. There’s many thing out there, there just being waiting to be used or taken. There’s a saying “you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make the horse drink”. Perfect quote/reason to not hold back in life but instead take opportunities and turn it into something big.
4. “Money Isn’t Everything”
This world is revolves around money. Money is nothing but a piece of paper that can get you almost anything you want. One thing money can’t do is buy grades/friend. Money is so important to people that they’ll be willing to kill another human being for it. One day we will all leave this body behind and be in the afterlife but the shmoney controls people. I believe that money is classified as an addiction because people will be willing to do anything for it. Money isn't everything, remember that.
5. “Don’t Hold Grudges”
No matter how bad someone hurts you, you should always find it in your heart to forgive them. Holding grudges affects a person's life. If they don’t let it go they’ll constantly be thinking about that situation. Its best to let it go and forgive and just move on instead of holding a grudge. Knowing that you let go of that grudge holds you at a higher position a person. Letting go of whatever was bothering you is finally in the past and there’ll be nothing to worry about. Don’t hold grudges it's bad for you body and mental state.
6. “Do What Makes You Happy Not Others
The decisions that you choose in life won't affect anybody but you. Don’t let anyone dictate the way that you live your life. If something or someone makes you happy go for it.
7. “Help Others, Always Be A Friend”
If you see someone is struggling you should be a friend and help them. Always have faith in people. If someone breaks that than leave them be. But always be a friend to those that surround you. Especially the ones that you see everyday. Even be a friend to strangers. If you see that their down try to cheer them up, in other words be a friend.
1. See the World
ReplyDeleteMy ultimate goal in life is to see every part of the world and all of its beauty and lowest points. I view traveling as living a full life. What is living on this earth if you do not get to see it all? I know that for me to look at my life as successful I will have to see the world from every angle. Many people say that travelling is like reading a book and every time you travel you are reading a new chapter. Staying in one or two places your entire life and not getting to experience the world is such a horrible thought. I value traveling and everything it gives you in return. All the different ways that people live from all the different places is so interesting. Seeing the world from different angles gives you perspective. Once you see something you act differently and think differently. Once you see a low point or travel somewhere poor you begin to realize everything you have. I want to travel and instead of seeing exotic places online I want to see them in person and get to experience it with my own eyes. Everything is so technological now that you cannot even read a book without seeing that it is online. I do not want to see the world on a postcard or on google images I want to be there in the moment standing in front of a different place.
2. Surround yourself with good people
My friends are the best people I have in my life. I love my family to death even when I’m mad at them but my friends are some of the best people that I rarely get mad at. We get annoyed with each other all the time but there is no way that I could ever stay mad at them. Even on my worst days when I am mad at the entire world they do something or say something and I crack. I start to crack up because whatever they did I just cannot stay mad at the whole world. My friends are my number one support team, the strongest shoulder to cry on and my therapists. I can tell them anything and they know exactly what to say but if they do not they know how to be there for me. Surrounding yourself with good people makes you a good person. Whenever they are sad I am sad and whenever they laugh I laugh. Without my friends I would be heartless. I love my friends to death and could not live without them.
3. Always learn
Knowledge is power and power and knowledge show your credibility. No one takes a dopey person seriously. T have knowledge and power gives you the credibility to have people respect you. Learning gives you authority. People do not trust the dumb chaotic person they treat the respectable intelligent person. Always learning does not only gain you respect it also expands your mind. It is never harmful to expand your mind. It is hard to put into words but having knowledge and always learning helps you become a better human being. Everyone makes mistakes but only some people learn from them.
4. Do not let people walk all over you
DeleteI am definitely not one to let people walk all over me. Sometimes I decide what is best is to not respond or retaliate however I will stick up for who and what I believe in. I do not stand down and I do speak my mind. If I feel a certain way I let everyone know and sometimes that can be a bad thing but honesty and sticking up for yourself is so important. To be rude is one thing which sometimes I am but to have respect for yourself and your reputation is another. You cannot let someone walk all over you because then that gives a precedence for other people to think it is okay to treat you that way as well. You also cannot complain about how you are being treated unless you stick up for yourself. You and your opinion is worth something so to let someone not listen to you or walk all over you is unacceptable.
5. Justice
This is sort of a weird one but I strongly believe in justice. I believe that if you do something wrong the right thing is to be punished. There are laws for reasons and if everyone else can follow them you should be too. There are some people in my life that have done such horrible things to the people closet to me and have not gotten what they deserve but I hope for them not to be harmed but to learn that what they are doing and what they have done is not right. People do not get to ruin other people’s lives and get to have one for themselves. There are laws to be followed and if you do not follow them then-yes, you should get in trouble because you obviously do not understand if we did not have laws then people would get hurt.
6. Take care of yourself
Physically and mentally you should always take care of yourself. I never want to not be healthy because being healthy is so much easier on your self-esteem. Being healthy is one way you get to set goals for yourself. For me exercising is a way to relieve stress and clear my mind. Going into a workout mad or happy always results in me ending the workout on a good note. You should also always take care of yourself mentally. You need to know the differences when you are stressed about something of how important something is. You need to think clearly and decide whether or not you should put your body through this much stress over something that is not that detrimental. You should obviously always take care of yourself hygiene wise. Other than taking shower and alike thing you need to dress nicely. Depending on what you wear will always effect your mood. If you are feeling good in something comfy or even something beautiful you will have such a better mood compared to someone in dirty ripped clothes. You should also take care of yourself respectively. You need to know your worth and you need to know when to let go. To take care of yourself you want to end up happy and if someone you “love” is treating you like you are worthless you need to take care of yourself by breaking up with them for not noticing your true worth.
7. It is okay to be sad
Many people only believe in happiness and that you should always be happy. As much as I agree with being happy as the best mood I know that you need to be sad or mad and have bad days. It is the bad days that make you realize the good ones. It is okay to be sad or annoyed because those are just emotions and everyone has them. If you are happy you know what you are sad about but the happy things make you forget the bad. It is okay to be sad and even a good thing as long as it is not a daily thing. To be sad a few times is good so you can see everything you have however always being sad results in a very sad life. Ultimately you need to be sad and have mad days so you can cherish the good ones ten times more.
My 7 Creeds
ReplyDelete1. “Kick logic to the curb, and do the impossible.” Nothing is impossible. As long as you tried, you can achieve anything. I use this quote when facing difficult tasks because it motivate me that anyone can make the impossible, possible. Also this quote was from my favorite T.V. Show. This quote help me a lot with doing AP work and making me feel confident and motivated to keep on moving forward.
2. “Never Judge a book by its cover” I hate first impression and I don't like it when someone judges me by my appearance or looks. Like since I am Asian, automatically I am smart and great in math. I am not that smart and I don't do well in math. I believe that if they don't judge me, I won't judge them. It is better for the person learn about me instead of judging how I act or look. As simple as counting 123.
3. “Enjoy all the little things” You only live once, so cherish the things you have in life. My friends and family more importantly since they been by my sided since the beginning. Without them, I wouldn't have gotten to where I am today. Since it is thanksgiving, this relates to being thankful. I am thankful that I get to attend Oakcrest High School. I am thankful that meet a lot of wonderful people. I am thankful that I get the knowledge of AP Lang from an amazing teacher.
4. “Stay loyal to your friends” If you glance at my past blog posts, you know the topic of friends will appear sooner or later. Friends are important to me and without them, I wouldn't be who I am today. They push me to try new things and help me overcome obstacles that I know I couldn't do alone. If they have my back, I have their back. I value friendship and think of it as essential for achieving success.
5. “Accept your mistakes” Once in a while, past mistakes and bad decisions ,that I made, will jump back into my head and haunt my insides. These thoughts would make me depress and sad. The only way to get rid of them is to accept them. I have to face the fact that I made those decisions and it could have turned out better. Accepting my past mistakes improves my decision making and myself in general. Those mistakes taught me valuable lessons that can't be taught in classrooms. It made me a better person.
6. “Sleep is love, Sleep is life” Sleep is give you enjoyment and relaxation. It is your break and relax time. I love sleeping . Sleep is essential for every human being and without it, it can kill you. This is apart of my creed because it gives me energy that will help complete each day 100%. Without sleep, I would do bad in school and be tired a lot. Sleep is essential for achieving success in life. The more sleep hours you get in, the more energy you will save for the next day.
7. Like Hannah Montana said, “Nobody's perfect”. We are all human so we tend to make errors. Some of those mistakes we learned, teach us important lessons in life. These mistakes is what make us better people. This relates to my fifth creed, with accepting mistakes. When I become sad from my parent's lecture of bad grades, I always remember that we are human and nobody's perfect. It is all about learning from past errors, and using them as guidelines for future. That is what I want my future sons or daughters to know. That is what I want for my legacy.
Make sure you are keeping yourself happy.
ReplyDeleteHappiness is a big thing for me. Happiness is the key to life. You can’t survive and go through life with the best ability if you are not happy. Happiness isn’t just something you get. You have to work with it. You don’t just wake up happy and for the people who do, damn you have it easy. To stay happy you need to work. You need to make it one of your everyday goals because it isn’t something you just acquire. After reading this blog post I decided to live by these goals. It’s something i have never really thought of until I wrote this post. Keeping myself happy is going to be one of my goals for the rest of my life. I am at such a good place in my life where I can finally be happy. I refuse to let this goal slip away from me.
Stay true to yourself.
Staying true to yourself is extremely important. It’s not just a simple little goal you write on a blog post. it’s something that needs to be followed because frankly, people don’t do it enough. I am happy I can say I have always been myself. I refuse to change for anyone. People want me to change. Every day for example my parents. I refuse. I refuse to change how I am and the way I am. It’s me, it’s how I am and my personality and I will never stray away from that. I wouldn’t say I get bullied whatsoever, but I do get picked on sometimes by a lot of people, always people I am friends with. It’s because of my personality, because of how I am, and because I am such an easy targets. But will I change? Never. I am who I am and that is all who I will ever be.
Don’t take things for granted.
Now this life goal is something I need to start living by. After being left by my ex I realized from that entire experience and my life, that I need to appreciate what I have. It is something I don’t do very often and I hate that I don’t do it enough. Which is why that will change. From now on to the rest of my life I am not going to take anything for granted. I have amazing parents who do everything for me, amazing friends, I have a great life and it should never be taken for granted. I feel like I take things for granted because I don’t take the time to realize all the good things I have and stop surrounding myself with the bad things.
View your mistakes are life lessons.
ReplyDeleteMy mistakes. Yeah there is a lot. But I have learned. From every single mistake I made I learned. I learned about myself and life and that us people do things and mess up for a certain reason. We make mistakes so we can learn and grow from them. There is no way anyone could ever go through life without making mistakes, and if they say they have never made a mistake they are wrong and just being narcissistic. Those people who don’t learn from their mistake will never grow in life. Mistakes are there to teach you to never do what you did again. Something you make the same mistakes over and over again, but you learn. No matter how many times you can mess up you learn and every time I make a mistake I remember it’s all for a reason and I will learn from it.
Never give up on something you want.
This is something I have been known for throughout my life. I do not give up. If something happens, yeah try and stop me because I never give up. I never give up because why would you? Giving up when losing, that is something I refuse to ever do. If you go through life giving up for what you want, what you believe in, how do you expect to ever excel? You need to keep going and that is something I have learned throughout my life. By giving up you are failing yourself. You are not living to your full potential and I have no respect for people like that. Giving up means you are missing an amazing opportunity, which is why I will never give up on anything.
Make sure you surround yourself with the best people you can find.
My friends are everything to me. They tell me from right and wrong, they keep me balanced. They are the people who I can tell everything to. Without my bestfriends, my life would be ruined. Now you are probably thinking, “you are just in high school, how could high school friends mean so much.” They mean everything. By surrounding myself with these people I have become a better person. They have helped me on my bad days and were there to make them good days. In life, you need to surround yourself with good people because honestly, you need them. You need people in your life to help you and tell you when you are being stupid. You need them to experience life with. As we grow and get older we lose friends and gain new ones. I promise myself to always make sure I am surrounded by good people.
Stop doubting yourself and belittling yourself, love yourself.
I put this in here because I also believe the key to living is being confident and okay with yourself. If you can’t love yourself, you can’t love someone else. I myself, have a very low confidence level. I do doubt myself, I do belittle myself, and I am trying to learn to love myself. I decided to put this goal in here because it is something I want to achieve. If I get through my life and do not achieve this goal honestly,it would show that I haven’t grown. Therefore,I am making this my most important life goal. I am promising that I will follow this life goal until the day I die because how can you life without loving yourself?
1. Love/accept yourself and what you have done
ReplyDelete2. Knowledge is key to understanding
3. Take risks for experience and learn
4. Find a way to keep your excess energy under control
5. Use kindness well/kill hatred and jealousy
6. Appreciate everything that you have and that was given to you
7. The moment you give up is when you truly fail
1. Many people say this and I will say this as well because it is true. True happiness and success begins when you truly accept yourself. But this is not an easy task. There are not many people in this world that can accomplish this task. Not even the most intelligent can succeed at loving themselves. People say that the love themselves and accept everything that have done, but deep within them they know that those words hold lies in them. Anyway, loving oneself is not easy and in some cases cannot be fully accomplished, but every single individual must try to love themselves. Loving oneself begins by taking small steps at first, such as accepting that you just fell asleep and couldn’t get the blog done on time (*cough* *cough* me). Everybody should reach some degree of love and acceptance, at least, for them to be a step closer to happiness.
2. Knowledge is truly the key to understanding, but what is there to understand? Surprisingly, there is more than we can comprehend, but I will not go as far as to try to explain the Milky Way Galaxy. Anyway, there are people, and the world itself, to understand, so to do this one needs knowledge. I’m not saying that everyone needs to know everything, but it would be great, but the people who don’t know anything should try to learn. But there is a problem with “dumb” people. The problem is that the less a person knows, the more he thinks he is smart or that he is superior to everyone else. This is why it is so HARD arguing with dumb people. THEY ALWAYS THINK THEY ARE RIGHT! Even my father has problems with that at his job. But in contrast to that, the more a person knows, the more he knows that he knows nothing. Mr. Weisbeck actually brought that up in class and I was enlightened by the fact that it was so true. Even though I’m still young, I can still apply this to myself. Every time I learn about something very interesting or philosophical, a new field of knowledge opens up to me that I have never considered. I’ll just end that there and leave off by saying that everyone should strive to learn MANY things because it is always so satisfying to know that you KNOW.
3. Experience is very valuable to me and it should be as valuable to everyone. I learn a lot from my experiences and also from experiences of others and this makes me want to know more about life and the world in general. So what I mean by taking risks for experience is that I mean to just take risks. I don’t know how much I do this, but I am aware of myself doing it sometimes. A simple example of this would be one from my time in calculus. During a test, there were times when I solved a problem, but I was not fully confident in it. The problem was already solved, no matter if the answer was right or wrong, so I could not have asked the teacher if it was correct or not. So instead of stressing over it, I said “screw this” and took the risk and moved on. After that I usually don’t worry about it because I’m already satisfied with myself taking that small risk. I could’ve cheated off someone else, but I didn’t. Instead of cheating, I rather just go with what I have because no matter what I get from it, I will be able to learn from it. If I cheat and I get that wrong, how can I then learn what I did wrong? I will not be able to because it is someone else’s mistake, so I’ll just be sitting there clueless. To conclude this, I’ll just say again that experience is very valuable so taking risks for it should be valuable as well.
4. The cause of stress and every negative emotion, thought, and actions derives from having too much energy. I know this for a fact because I used to be a kid that got mad and irritated easily. I was weak in that sense. But since I got into sports, I began to use up all the energy that I would otherwise use to cry or complain. So it is my advice to everyone to take upon a hobby or join a sport to keep all that energy under control. Sports help by draining you from all that negative energy, per se, and hobbies, such as writing, singling, or playing an instrument, would instead put your energy in a harmonic flow, hence calming you down. It is very crucial to keep all the energy under control because if not then emotion will leak out much more easily, because you’ll have the energy for it, and people will take advantage of it. People who can manipulate others through emotion and words, and those people do exist, will screw you up so bad if you don’t find a way to keep your energy controlled.
Delete5. There’s so much hatred and jealousy going around everywhere that it is crazy. The negativity in many societies and communities is overwhelming to deal with and it sometimes takes over people and makes them its puppets. Hatred, especially, is chaotic. Hatred lives on and it had lived through MANY generations. It is the chaos of war and all the cruelties known to mankind. When one man kills another then the friends and family of the dead man become hateful of the other man and they wish to bring vengeance upon him in a form of death. If these people succeed in kill the other man, then his friends and family will want to return the favor. This has been the case in many things and this is how wars occurred. Vengeance and hatred. You could say that they are siblings, but I say that they are more like a child and a parent. Vengeance, the parent, gives birth to hatred, the child, and then this hatred lives on and causes more trouble and more chaos until it changes and becomes the parent and then gives birth to another child. I’d call this to be “The Cycle of Hatred.” I don’t know how true this may be, but to me this is very true. I cannot point out many things that could support this, but I know it has much support, not that that is a good thing. I want this cycle to stop, but it will not happen any time soon, I know that for sure. But what I want to do and what I want many individuals to do is to kill the hatred, kill the jealousy, and kill all other negative things that is put in front of us all. One way to accomplish that, or at least take a step closer to accomplishing that, is to be cooperative and be kind. Try to cleanse hatred with kindness. Just smile at the negative. Just laugh at it and say, “let’s be friends.” This is true even to oneself. Accept the negative and hateful side of yours. Thank it and appreciate it because it got you to where you are now. Embrace that son of a gun and let it become you. I feel like I’m blabbering and mixing things up too much so I’ll leave this at that now.
6. Appreciating whatever you have and was given to you is essential to growing up. Complaining over not having something you WANT is just petty and stupid. Be awesome and just appreciate what you already have. Appreciate that NOKIA of yours because it is indestructible. Just think of how many good things you could do with it! Use it as a weapon and throw it at someone because it’s such a formidable weapon. Just use everything you have and acquired so far to its fullest. Think of everything you have as the best thing you could have, but don’t limit yourself to the thought that it is the best. Of course, strive for better things, but just don’t complain about what you have so far. The reason for that is because what you have is what you got you where you are currently, so thank it and stop complaining.
7. Many of the things that I listed so far all come down to not giving up. Trying to love and accept yourself needs dedication because it is not easy, so don’t give up on it. Hard time keeping your energy under control? Don’t give up on it and keep searching for different ways for the solution. You cannot bare all the negativity and hatred around you? You try to be nice and kind, but it doesn’t work? Don’t give up and keep trying because there will be light waiting on the other side of the dark tunnel. The moment you give up trying is when you truly fail. You’re not a failure because you were unsuccessful at getting an “A” in a class, but you are a failure if you give up on the goal of getting that “A.” No matter what stands before you, just push through it. Again, don’t f*cking complain just do it. Don’t give up on anything because the moment you do, the moment you doubt yourself, all will tremble and fall, hence becoming a failure. So remember kids, NEVER GIVE UP.
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ReplyDelete1. Ive your life to the fullest
2. thank god every day for what you have
3. Don’t take your family for granted
4. Go into everyday with a positive attitude
5. Push through the hard times
6. Don’t live your live trying to please other people
7. Love yourself no matter what
1. My family always tells me that's it's important to never hold back and dream big. They want me to go into each day wanting to accomplish great things and to not shy away from my dreams. I couldn’t agree with them more because I think it’s important that you do try to dream big and do everything possible each day to reach them. For example in gymnastics I try to go into practice each day giving it my all so that I can achieve my goal of maintaining my scholarship so I can compete in gymnastics.
2. it’s so important to me that I do thank god every day for what he has done for me and blessed me with. I am a Christian who goes to church on Sunday so religion is a big part of my life and it's important to not leave God out. Without him I would be nowhere and my successes and blessings are all because of him. People tend to forget that sometimes you need to just stop, pause, and count your blessings. To me if you aren’t thankful for what you have, then I don’t think you really deserve to have anything.
3. Family is a huge part of my life and I really don’t know what I would do without them. They are my best friends, support system, encouragers, and motivators all in one. Whenever I’m facing a problem my family is the first one to assure me that everything will be okay and that I don't have to worry. They are always there to pick me up when I fall and are there when I just need a laugh. I love my family and I realize everyday how lucky I am to have that support system around me each and every day and I would never take them for granted.
4. I always believed that life or death is in the power of the tongue. And this basically means that whatever you say is going to happen will happen. For examples if you say, “Today is going to be a bad day”, well then most likely it will be. And if you say, “Today I’m going to have a great day and be very successful”, then I bet you will have a much better day. So, I try waking up each and every day with the mindset that I will have a great day and that just helps push me and 9 times out of 10 it actually works.
5. When life gets tough I always tell myself to push through it. There’s nothing worse than giving up on something you were so close to finishing. For this particular rule to live by it most particularly applies to gymnastics because of the constant desire to want to quit and give it all up since it gets so hard sometimes. I learned that all you can do in times like this is to push through and remember why you started in the first place.
6. Not living your life trying to please others is definitely one of the most important. I think that I should live my life doing what makes me happy without having to worry about pleasing others. People have such a big effect on the decisions you make but I try to make sure other people don’t control my life and I live it the way I want to.
7. When it comes down to it, you need to love yourself as well. Nothing else is important if you don’t comfortable in your own skin and know that you are important. God created everybody different and he made each of us with our own unique features. If you love yourself you won't be craving for other people's attention because you would be content with yourself already.
1.Have fun & let loose.
ReplyDeleteI know this may seem very generic, but I have my reasons. Many times throughout my life I have said no to many things thinking those things were going to hurt me in any way shape or form. This summer though I did everything I ever wanted and as cheesy as it may sound; I have never been so happy. So for the rest of my life I will be saying yes to as many possible experiences Iget, even if it’s something small.
2. Be careful who you call your friends.
Throughout high school I have realized who my friends are and who aren’t. I have gone through so much with these so called “friendships” and i'm honestly tired of it. So from now on i'm going to have to be careful who I call my friends and anyone should be. Its funny how friendships work now a days so i'm not saying don't have any friends but just be careful who you are hanging around
3. Don’t be afraid of new people.
Along with the past one I realize that my number 2 can be a little misunderstood. I don't believe that you should close yourself off because there are so many people you need to meet. Throughout my life I closed myself off to many people because I was “afraid” of new people. I wouldn't call it afraid though, I would say more like I wasn't ready to make new friends. I thought my old ones would hate me. I grew out of that phase though and met so many new people who I can genuinely call my friends. Friends who would never put me down. I would have never been able to meet these friends though if I had stayed in my bubble.
4. Respect & love your family.
Although I realize that my 3 creeds before these may have been more about having fun and friends and so on. Things in life are harder than just that and your family is what is going to help you through it. So on that note, I believe that everyone should respect and love their family. It's the most important part of life. I don't think that there is another way out of a problem than talking to your family about it and getting advice from them. I believe that everyone has to respect their family in order to get through life sane. Family will always play such a big role in your life and you can't let anyone come in between that.
5. Love unconditionally.
Another one that might seem very cliche. Iknow. I believe though, that everything in life comes with a prize and that is love. Love from a family member, from a friend, from a significant other. In order to receive that love though you have to be able to give love. I believe that loving under no conditions in what is going to get people to love you unconditionally.
6. Make your own decisions.
Although I realize that most of us right now are only 17 or 18 and can't make many decisions by ourselves. I think the small decisions of what we wear and what we say and who we talk to will someday shape who we are when we are older. So you shouldn't let anyone influence your decisions and make sure that what you are choosing is coming from you.
7. Be happy.
No matter what you do in life, if you life to to go or stay in. No matter who you call your friends. If you have a boyfriend or not. If you decide to wear prada or not. The most important part is that you are happy. That you know that all of the decisions you make are the ones you want to make and you made them because they make you happy. Don't try to satisfy anyone else but you. You are in charge of your own life so you have to take control. There is noone out there who can make you happy as much as you can make yourself happy. There is noone out there who can respect you as much as you can respect yourself. There are so many things in this life that will try to bring you down but you should never let them. life is meant to be lived happy & everyone should try their hardest to.